would you like your teen to learn the truth about sex or be told to stay abstinent?

Question

i think that it is ridiculous to try to teach teens to stay abstinent because they just will not do it.

schools should teach sex ed, and they should be very thorough, there are many teens out there who actually think that they will not get pregnant the first time and that certain positions can avoid pregnancy, most teenage girls i know dont even know about the menstrual cycle and what ovulation is.

so...would you prefer that your teenage children be taught to stay abstinent or be taught the best ways to avoid stds and pregnancy?

for those who think that teens arent having sex...take a look at the pregnancy section, it is filled with teenage girls posting "help, i think im pregnant....im to young to be pregnant" and "can i get pregnant if..."

schools, should educate kids about sex because some parents don't talk to their kids about sex, sex is part of health and biology, subjects that should be taught in school.

Answer 1

Last time I checked, teaching absolute complete abstinence and nothing about how to have sex was the easiest way to guarantee the complete demise of the HUMAN RACE.

No, seriously. Think about it. Yeah.

For one thing, it's totally bogus to teach kids to not have sex without teaching them how to have sex. "Kids, don't put your toe in your ear! SERIOUSLY DON'T! Trust me it's a bad thing! No good will come of it! Don't even try! Okay? Serious now! Don't do it!" What are kids going to want to do when they hear that? It's the same with sex.

And another thing: people are going to have sex at a point in time. If thousands of people weren't having sex every single day, well, let's just say there wouldn't be too many people on this planet. Most of the time people teach abstinence by saying "don't have sex until you are 25" or some such age. So then they get to age 25, go on the internet, search up "sex", work out how to do it, and do it. Then they go get STDs and have babies they don't want and all that.

When you get to whatever age your parents told you you could start having sex at, you're going to want to give it a shot, but too bad Sex Ed ended in 9th grade or whatever, and your gym teacher isn't there to remind you of anything any more. That and all he ever taught you was "don't have sex!"

The entire abstinence thing makes no sense at all and will bring no good to the world. People have been having sex for thousands of years, and some crazy plan hatched by the President and a bunch of old geezers isn't going to stop us.

Answer 2

I agree that both are necessary. If they get all the facts and know how to make the right choices, they can choose to avoid sex. If they choose not to (like me and every friend I had in HS) at least they know how to protect themselves. I had a good teacher who went over aaaalllll the urban legends about pregnancy. They started in 6th grade with the menstruation and basic biology and anatomy so we knew who had what and what it does. Theres nothing wrong with a kid knowing those basics. Its all biology and hiding it makes it seem shameful and wrong to kids. I also like what they are doing with dolls these days- the ones that cry and you have to take care of them or they keep crying. I guess it also depends on what is being taught about pregnancy options. If you (or the school) is teaching that adoption and abortion are not options, then girls will think that getting pregnant is the end of the world, they need to hide it, and that's how babies end up in dumpsters. You cant tell a kid or teen not to do something, cause of course that's the first thing they want to do.

Answer 3

They CAN be both. They wont stay abstinent if you don't educate them.

EDIT**I didn't say nor did I intend to imply that there is not a definite problem. I only intended to say that a teenager CAN be both. You can't teach abstinence without explaining what they are to abstain from and why and expect them to listen. I am thankful that MY daughter is not one of the many on YA! asking these questions. She is in fact often answering questions of girls 3 and 4 years older than she is because she HAS been taught. The teaching HAS to start at home in EVERY subject.

Answer 4

Teaching abstinence is teaching reality denial. The problem with sex education is that there is so much pressure from politicians and religious groups on the schools that everybody is scared.

I think that they should teach kids about masturbation, but nobody is going to buy that.

I think that maybe the ideal solution would be to have a parent accompany the child to sex ed class.

Anybody who follows this site and the Singles and Dating site will see too many 12 to 15 year old girls who think that they might be pregnant and they're afraid to tell their moms.

Half of all people in the world were conceived accidentally. When you think of the problems we could avoid if we had 10% smaller population in the world, it's frightening.

Answer 5

I'm glad I go to a Catholic school, because (coming from the mouth of a live and breathing teen) I don't want to know the truth about sex. I want to be told the right thing to do. I would like the teachers to back up their statements of abstinence with facts about abortion, STDS, and the risk of pregnancy, though. Telling people that they can have sex, but they just have to avoid STDS and pregnancy is stupid. That's like saying you don't have to turn in the papers I assign to the class, just make sure you don't fail the midterm! I WANT to be given the best option and guided with what is right and moral. I don't care if teens are going to rebel and do the opposite of what the teacher says... if they do- that's their fault. Teachers should guide students in the RIGHT path, not just a satisfactory patch. Now if a parent wants a kid to know every little detail about sex, they can tell their kid. A parent's decision is almost always right for their offspring. But a teacher should not preach to the class that it is okay to do something wrong.

Answer 6

Abstinance is part of sex. You can't teach about sex without teaching about abstinance. And you can't teach about abstinance without teaching about sex. Otherwise how do they know what they are not doing? A school's place is not to teach sex ed in any capacity. That responsibility falls squarely on the parent's shoulders. Unfortunately, many parents are too afraid to discuss sex with their child and therefore never teach them how to be safe.

Personally I do not want my children learning about sex from anyone but me and my husband. I don't want them getting the wrong information (you can't get prego the first time, certain positions prevent prego) and I don't want them learning from friends or through experience the way I did. We will teach them that our choice for them would be abstinance but if they are going to make a different choice, here is how to stay safe.

Answer 7

when i was a teenager (i am 25)...my parents taught me about sex my whole life...i always knew about it, and they taught me about pregnancy and stds and all that...but they also showed me that staying abstinent is the best way. i am a Christian, and that follows my faith...and so are my parents....they taught me that waiting until you are married is the right way to go about it...but i also knew about safe sex and all that...i also knew that a girl can get pregnant any time she has sex....my mom is a nurse so i knew it all.....and i knew that if i ever did have sex and something happened, that i could go and talk to my parents about it, and yeah, they would have been dissapointed, but they would support me and be there for me.....i think that parents need to teach their kids about sex and always be open about the subject. I think teaching abstinence is great!!! But they need to teach their children about the body and how thing all work....its like teaching a soldier how to fight and what to do without equipping him with a gun....I do not think that schools should teach Sex Ed....i do not at all...that should be the parents job....but i do think that health classes should explain about the human reproductive cycle....
I do think that people should wait until they are married to have sex...... i chose not to have sex until i was married. i didnt do it until my wedding night...actually my husband and i were both virgins on our wedding night....i was 21 when i got married....and i wouldnt trade that for anything!
I am going to do with my children what my parents did with me, i will teach them about sex, but also show them that abstinence is the best decision and show them the way that God would have them live.....

Best of luck to you!

Answer 8

I would teach my kids the responsibility of what sex is.

What can happen if they don't practice safe sex

Be careful who you have sex with.

Responsibilities if you get someone pregnant

If I had girls, I would tell them no abortion (I know that opens a new set of arguments) but it is important in our family

I would encourage abstinence, but I know far that will go

Things have changed since I was growing up. The urge for sex is strong and hard to resist. I just want them to be careful.

Answer 9

Abstinence IS the best way to avoid STDs and pregnancy. But there is no reason they can't be taught that abstinence is best and about birth control.

Answer 10

Most middle schools have a sex ed class and a health class. Teens do get taught about these things.