I'm 23 and I'm married with a 28 years old girl and we have been living in the country side for almost 2 years, I'm from the city and came to this country trying to get a better life. Last month I spent 1 week in a big city and met a girl that is way older than me, she is 42, I feel pretty attracted to her and I like her a lot. Here is my dilema. I haven't been so happy in the relationship I have with my wife; there are so many issues that we have had uncluding the cultural differences, I don't feel complete with this relationship. Here, living with her in the countryside I have stabilitiy and safeness, but In deep I'm not happy. what do you think, should I just leave her and move to the city with the 42 year old girl and start all over again as the first day I came to this country? or should I stay with my wife, living in the country side(I'm from the city and I love cities) feeling safe and having in some way certain kind of stability, but not happy at all. Should I take the risk?
2007-06-23 12:14:05 · 9 answers · asked by SADIAZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oy! sounds like you are looking for a mother not a wife.
Stop looking around and thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, and work on the marriage a little harder.
Take your wife on outings to the city and help her get to know city life a little.
Work on things and figure out why you were in such a rush to get married in the first place before looking for another one.
2007-06-23 12:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to sit down and calmly talk to your wife about your feelings of unhappiness. Alot of the reason you maybe attracted to this other female could be from the fact of not being happy at home right now.
Do you really want to lose your wife? Look at the reason you chose to marry her and how you fell in love with her. It could be time to rekindle your romance and both of you move to the city or someplace inbetween and take a chance together at a new start!
The grass is not always greener on the other side and even though this other lady may look good right now, once you really get to know her you may regret that you never gave your wife and life with your wife a chance at true happiness.good luck.
2007-06-23 19:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first ....if ur choosing to leave then dont let it be due to an attraction towards another female.Does ur wife know about ur feelings about {not feeling complete in this marriage}???(have u 2 even considered marriage councelling?) ,if u do make the decision to leave, i suggest you have a job & a place of ur own, ~NEVER~ make ur decision based on an attraction. (Wouldn't it suck if u left ur wife to find out afterwards this woman was abusive or even psychotic).... just somethings to think about :o) take care and good luck
2007-06-23 21:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Guardian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to end it first with your wife before you even start thinking of moving on. How would you feel if she did that to you?
2007-06-23 19:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by nmchica76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married. That should be the end of it, shouldn't it? Get some counselling.
2007-06-23 19:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL UR WIFEY WHATS GOIN ON I WOULD WANT TO KNOW IF I WAS UR WIFE. BE HONEST
2007-06-23 19:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow the hell up
2007-06-24 00:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have repeated this question before. Thanks for the two points
2007-06-23 19:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay wher you are!
2007-06-27 18:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋