Is it normal for sex frequency to decrease in long-term relationships? We have sex only once a month, if that.

Answer 1

That is definitely a common occurrence with long-term relationships, but you shouldn't let it happen. Okay, so it doesn't have to be every single day, but once a month is too low.

Answer 2

well, it is a bit personal but I'll answer as long as you are wondering if your sex life is normal. by the way, everyone has a different sex life. i've been dating someone for 8 years and the past 2 years have been full of problems (cheating on each other, he dumping me for a month and dating a real skanky whore!). ANYWAYS! Right now, we are at once a week WITH CONDOMS! 'cause of the trust issue. The first couple years, we had sex probably 5 times a week and then it fizzled down to maybe only 3 for a while. I THINK IT IS VERY NORMAL FOR SEX TO FIZZLE ONCE YOU'VE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR A WHILE AND THE WAY TO REMEDY THIS PROBLEM ISN'T THAT HARD (i need to take my own advice). 1. don't let yourself go downhill once you've already 'snagged' him. fix yourself up, work out!, eat right, and put something 'naughty' on once in a while for him. 2. sometimes guys in long term relationships get lazy about making the first move and you need to do it! 3. do some romantic weekends once in a while. my bf and i went to an indoor waterpark with a room with a fireplace and a jacuzzi. we had awesome sex all weekend not to mention how much fun it was to act like kids again on those water rides! 4. don't get drunk when you go out and mingle with friends. i've done some very stupid things when i was drunk and upset him greatly. i do have an alcohol problem though. if you need substances like alcohol and drugs to get turned on, it's a bad sign. don't worry, i'm getting help. 5. DO NOT NAG HIM. That'll put him out of the mood so fast, it'd make your head spin. He'll instantly see his mother telling him to clean up his room and mow the lawn. SERIOUSLY. THERE ARE MANY MORE THINGS BUT THESE ARE JUST SOME OF THINGS I'VE OBSERVED IN almost 20 years of dating (3 bfs were more than a year relationship). GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

I am a sexaholic with my husband of 8 years I love it. He is very attentive and we have a realtionship where we discuss everything and talk about what we expect in our relationship including sex. We were losing our closeness with each other and only having sex about 1x/month too, caused by financial, emotional and work stress. But we talked it out and started this new tradition, every night we get in bed and just be together touching skin rubbing each others backs not focused on having sex but just being together if it leads to sex then great if not we at least made a connection and that is fine. It is normal though for frequency to decrease it happens, but talk it out with your partner let them know what you are feeling you might be surprised that they are feeling the same way.

Answer 4

yes, it's very normal, and you also will experience it. However, once a month is not quite the norm (i feel) if you are healthy and able to be aroused. After the age of 50 or so the frequency for men is not as desirable as days of old-- young rather. I'm speaking from personal experience. Even though the desire may be there the ability may not. Thank goodness for the purple pill. You know this person better than anyone, therefore you may have to make certain adjustments to get him or her interested. Remember, after a while it.s the quality not the quantity that counts.

Answer 5

I think it is down to individual people - when we first married, we were at it like bunnies - but then after a few years the passion is gone, and alas you never seem to find it again. I have tried all sorts, but my wife just has a lower sex drive than I do - and because I love her I don't make unnecessary demands on her - in order to enjoy your love making you both need to participate. Talk to your partner - find out if there is something wrong - perhaps it is stress, do you spend time just cuddling? or is the only intimacy sexual? Try and revive the passion - what did you used to do etc..
Don't give up. I never have, work on the non obvious seduction - and don't create any pressure on him.

Good luck.

Answer 6

There is probably another reason. Maybe one of them is no longer really interested in being together.

The day that my ex-wife told me she wanted a divorce she admitted that she had not loved me for over five years. BUt she did like that I paid for her to go to college and nursing school first.

Answer 7

i use to have sex everyday alot in a day. i think yes because sometimes your drive changes as well as getting boring but you cans zest it up role playing game, movies and other sexual things we still have sex every other day been together 12 years and have a very strong sex life

Answer 8

I would say that your man It's probably getting bored with you, or maybe he'shaving and afair with another girl, I'm telling you this by mi own experience.

Answer 9

In my opinion, that's not normal ... unless there's health condition or stuff like that involved.

Answer 10

If you are not enjoying it anymore than once a month is ok. If you need more you need to talk to your spouse and see whats up and if you are not sexual compatible anymore than move on if that is what is important to you.