I have been having an affair with a man for 9 months now. Please do not pass judgement..we fell in love with eachother. No children involved. I left my husband when I started having feelings for this other man, and at that point I knew I could not possibly love my husband if I had feelings for someone else so I left him, because I did not want to cheat. My affair man has been staying in a hotel for the past 2 weeks, he told his wife there was someone else, he wanted a divorce and he loved her but was not in-love with her. I feel sad for her that this is happeneing but; I love him so much my heart says to hang in there. She is begging him to hang in there, she does not want the divorce, and he feels so guilty for being in love with me and divorcing all together. He is out of town for 1 week and he is supposed to have it all figured out when he gets back. , he has never done anything like this before.Last night I told him I loved him and he usually says it back but did not say it back.
2007-06-23 12:04:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-23 18:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , when a man has an affair most of the time They Always take back their wife or when it comes down to them having to chose which one they want, they most likely will chose their wife!!!! If he is felling bad or guilty in anyway then he still loves his wife and you will be the one to get hurt in the long run when he goes back to her!! cause most men will tell you anything to get in your pants!! They lie until the end!! they lie until they are caught or are in a hard place like he is in right now!! He most likely didn't want to chose and liked it the way it was when he could have both of you !!! You should never get involved with a Married man!! you will always get hurt! And if he cheated on his wife to be with you, then won't he cheat On you to be with someone else one day too?? !! i think so! or wouldn't you Always wonder if he is cheating on you?? what kind of relationship is that?? knowing your with a man that cheated on his wife?? !!
2007-06-24 00:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People there are some really F****ed up people on these boards and before you answer their posts I would suggest reading their previous posts before answering as there are some people who want honest answes but fail to be honest themselves. Judging by your previous posts you are a total nutcase. Are you a man or a woman as you ask the same question as a man then later as a woman, then you ask the question as a friend and then as yourself. Then the man is your boss and your husband had an affair. Pathetic. If this really is true that you are a woman who had an affair with a married man then not only are you pathetic but a S**t to boot
2007-06-23 23:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not passing judgment but, you shouldn't cheated on your husband, I hope this work out for you and just because he didn't say I love you back doesn't mean he don't care, he just has a lot on his mind because he is still in Love with his wife and he really wants to give her a second chance, so, watch out for your heart it may get crush.
2007-06-23 19:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Fannie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Push has come to shove. Do not be surprised that you will hear from him that your relationship is over. Look for what is best for you. Remember when you felt attractions for him, that there are many fish in the pond and there is mr right for you so hang in there. Time is coming for you and you had better get your faith and your life in strong mode if you are going to come out of this . Count it as a blessing and opprtunity for a new start.
2007-06-23 19:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by glenn t 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He loves his wife. Maybe it was fun when you were an un-needy fling on the side and now it's getting too "heavy" for him. Maybe now he's seeing that he's hurting her and feels badly for cheating to begin with. I bet he stays with his wife. Sorry. This is why you shouldn't get together with married men.
2007-06-23 19:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Adeline 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You feel sad for her??? Give me a break. You're a perfect match. He lies to you and his wife, you lie to everybody else. You have no idea of the damage you've done to many lives. Thanks God you dumped your husband so he can find somebody that's not a whore. Hopefully his wife will get a chance to find somebody worthy of her. You have no conscience.
2007-06-23 19:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to play then you pay and sometimes you get hurt. You're getting a little taste of what you've put your husband through. What goes around always comes back around.
2007-06-23 19:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you didn't mention the 'he usually says it back but did not' part in your other question. I don't have a good feeling about him leaving her for you now. Sorry. Good luck sweetheart, keep your chin up, be strong still.
2007-06-23 22:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by pumbakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so what is the dilemna? You're waiting for him to keep his word?
Ok, then you have 2 choices - either he will or he won't. And no matter what he decides, you'll have to accept his decision.
Are you strong enough to handle his decision, no matter what it may be?
Are you strong enough, is that what you need to know? Only you can answer that dear.
No judgment - we're all equal.
2007-06-23 19:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's using you. Move on with your own life.He does not love his wife or you. He only cares for himself. You'll see it on time.
2007-06-24 02:00:48 · answer #11 · answered by NA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋