I'am 23 yrs old and I've be engaged to a wounderful man but I feel it's time for me to live the way the Lord intended but my fiance isn't ready even though he grew up in a church but through out the years he drifted away from the Lord. Being that we're not yet married and fornicating is a sin so yesterday I told my fiance that i no longer what to fornicate. I don't think he was to happy about it. But now a day later I feel bad about telling him that. I feel like I'm taking something away from him. What should I do.
2007-06-23 12:01:33 · 8 answers · asked by mrs.glover06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While everyone will interpret this next statement differently what came to mind when you said your fiance wasn't ready was do not be unequally yoked. You are taking away something from him and in his mind with no warning and with no real reason. You are moving in a direction to be in a better spiritual place which is great but if he doesn't make the journey with you then you will perpetually have problems. Take him to church with you or find a church that you both like and start attending it. You need to have some premarital counseling, potentially through the church, to address this among other issues. Good luck.
2007-06-23 12:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you want to live the rest of your life, you'll want a husband who shares the same beliefs and values. It is much easier to raise children with to parents who share the same spiritual framework. Now is the time to find out if you and your fiance are on the same page.
You need to have some honest, frank discussions with him and find out if he is willing to join you in your new commitment to God. If he's not, then no matter how wonderful he is (or you are) this is not the best match. It's better that the two of you figure this out now than to get married, have children and then have this conflict crop up.
Please try to see this as a wonderful opportunity to explore your suitability for each other, not as a mission to bring him over to your side. You both deserve to be with people with whom you have as much compatibility as possible. If you discover it's not each other, better you should discover it now.
2007-06-23 19:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by twobeinmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 23 it is time to stand up and be the woman God intended for you to be. Obviously your conscience as well as Gods spirit has been dealing with you over this issue. One thing about forgiveness, God forgives us our sin but not the consequences of our sin, so fortunately you have made a significant decision. If he is a man of character and worthy of you he will greatly respect you and he may have been just happy to go along, have your presence and your love without any real obligation. Dont feel bad any longer. Feel liberated.
2007-06-23 19:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by glenn t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD"... Whoever the Lord has for you, he has a good thing. Who the Lord has for you, will wait for you. Who the Lord has for you, you will grow spiritually together. When my sister got married her husband went to church too. But that's it, and soon he stop going and my sister rides with me every Sunday. Pray. Because when you get with someone who doesn't seem to want to grow with you, you may end up trying to grow by your self. And you'll be on two different levels "unequally yoked"! Either he'll grow spiritually or, You'll stop growing spiritually. Talk to your fiance about your growth together! Ask and Pray for the spirit of discernment. God will show you, what u ask Him to see! Hope things work out for you!
2007-06-24 00:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Meach Da Meach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are single and a Christian than you belong to the Lord Jesus Christ first and foremost and you need to stay strong and stand up to this temptation. I am speaking from personal experience...I took a vow of abstinence and waited 5 years for my husband and I promise you it was worth every single year alone! You are doing the right thing stay strong!!!
2007-06-23 19:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by juda75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at the religion as a whole- before the religions had "set rules" about husbands and wives, men and women, you pledged your life and love to each other. and if fornicating is bad, then how is the priest/alterboy thing looking to you
2007-06-23 19:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by PETER J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk openly and honestly with him. If you tell him what you want and expect and he does the same maybe you can reach a compromise of sorts.
2007-06-23 19:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by nerakian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why stop now?
2007-06-27 18:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋