Okay so I'm pregnant and very close to delivery, two months away. Its difficult for me to work, since I get tired easily.
My issue is I need things, besides the regular house expenses, you know food and cleaning supplies. I need to buy maternity clothes only have two garments that are, everything else I can't really fit, and other stuff, i want to get my hair done haven't had that in months, just things like that.
The problem is I ask my fiance for money hesitantly might I ad and he gives me such a hard time. He'll only give me enough money for groceries and a couple I really mean it like 2 dollars for myself. It's not that we're super poor either. He'll go an splurge on a video game or other things (recreational) stuff for himself. So now I'm stuck can't get a job, becuase no one wants to hire the pregoe, and without money.
How can I get my fiance to be less selfish with money. And help him to see its both of ours.
when i had a job i shared it all with him, every dime!
2007-06-23 11:46:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, get on top of this now. If there is money for the non-essentials when HE wants them, then there is money for your needs too. Don't let him play the "It's my money card" or you will never get on top of it later.
Tell him you are equals in this relationships, and deserve to have an equal say in where the extra cash gets spent. Point out as you have here, that when you were working, your wages were shared, and there is no reason why it should be different now. If he complains, or refuses too, then it might be time to review what it is about the relationship - apart from the child - that holds you two together.
2007-06-23 11:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to him and explain your needs. If you are pregnant with his child you deserve a few perks. It's best if you say it nicely in a "listen, I have something I have to say..." sort of way, rather than an agry way, but either way it needs to be said.
2007-06-23 11:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shimrit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
live and learn, some people are all about themselves, esp when you need something, straighten it out now or move on it will never change.
2007-06-23 11:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by beachy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋