Do you think the confidence and knowledge that you earn as years go by actually outweigh the loss of youthfulness and innocent ignorance, I mean once you hit the 40 + barrier.
2007-06-23 11:14:20 · 29 answers · asked by pups 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No I don't like being older. Its horrid especially if your mental picture of yourself you had when you were young is suddenly changing when you look in the mirror. I suppose some would say that I had been vain about my appearance, but I have always tried to look my best with new haircuts quite often and never ever going out without make up, and tried to dress good.
However, there comes the day when you look in the mirror and see that the youthful bloom is not there. This really gets to me some days when the sun is not shining. It is particularly hard when things start going south. I also have a younger husband too, so I have to try even more now to look good for him.
My confidence, and knowledge in and, of the world is good, but the constant battle with the self is awful. The only thing that has made me feel better is that programme which has been on TV, " Look Good Naked" with Gok Wan. After seeing that there are many women out there who are younger than me that have far bigger problems with them selves. So I must think myself lucky I suppose.People think I am a lot younger than I really am, as I just love fashion if the styles suit me. I wouldn't want to look like mutton dressed as lamb, but I like to keep up with it all.
I have found that some health problems, also come with being older too, which is a down side. But the big upside on being older is not have to put up with the monthly cycle anymore, and no PMT.
I still have a youngish child so he keeps me on the go too, never time much to sit around and relax.
2007-06-23 11:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that life begins at 40. I have devised a similar saying that life ends at 20. Because you never feel any older! There may be lessons to learn and 'sometimes' experiences still to have, but you never 'feel' any older than you did at twenty, I promise you. At about sixty or seventy your body might start to slow down a bit, but when you reach that age it doesn't matter, because you've realized that life is better at a slower pace anyway. I am looking forward to 40. And yes, the confidence and knowledge gained 'far' exceeds the loss of youth and innocence.
2007-06-24 07:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most likely he is just a busy little boy who doesn't want to sit still to read. That is very common with kids. He is a two and learning he has so much more freedom and he wants to explore everything. Sitting down to read a book is not interesting. Good times to try this is when he is tired. Before bed time or a nap. Or even after he wakes up from a nap or in the morning before breakfast. My kids were the same way. They are now 16, 12 & 10. All book worms just like me.
2016-04-01 01:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't hit 40 yet - but can't wait til I do!
In my teens I was paralysed by shyness and a fear of doing something silly. In my 20's I had no self confidence and spent so much time trying to fit in and impress others that I actually knew very little about self. Now I'm in my 30's I am totally self confident, I dress to please myself, do things that make me happy and really couldn't care less what people think about me (except for the ones I love of course!) I have no interest in impressing neighbours or strangers and have never been more confident in my abilities and in myself!
I say roll on 40 only 2 years to go!! Yay!!
2007-06-23 11:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by libbyft 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a question of enjoying or assessing the benefits outweigh the costs. It happens and one good thing about getting older is that we get to finally understand our parents and all that they must have gone through. Being older is less about us/me me me and more about attempting to understand our own position and that of others in the great scheme of things.
All at once you realise how short and fragile life is and at the same time feel much more connected to the past and although not a better person are certainly a much deeper person.
Oscar Wilde's 'Picture of Dorian Gray' is a great book dealing with aging and at least personally, I like getting older and experiencing new things/feelings.... I think if we are lucky enough to live to old age we will eventually see things from many perspectives and just have to be content with whatever stage we are currently at.
2007-06-23 11:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maturing is a learning process. There is nothing one can do about it--other than to take good care of oneself; expercise and live a full life involved with others and one's family. Getting involved with learning is life-giving! A person has to look to new rewards--not associated with looks necessarily. Aging, if one doesn't fight it, can actually be much more comfortable than the early 20's and 30's when competition for mates etc., can occupy a great deal of ones' energies. Certainly having children and then grandchildren help tremendously!! Grandchildren are the Gift of Life to Seniors. It is a great Gift to be in my late '70's and to be happy with the life I have had; the great friends I have; the experiences of a lifetime--and to feel the loving arms of my three grandchildren around me!! I have been very fortunate! Something that many times I not think would work out--but they did!
2007-06-23 12:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Martell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
60+ here:
Yes I do... I never worried about age at thirty... forty... fifty, or sixty... and God willing I make seventy... I wont then either:-)
I never wear/wore make up either... am taken for my early fifties... though I see sixty in the mirror... and I am proud to spport the few wrinkles (and any more that follow) because I earned them every one;-)
When I was young... I was forced to grow up fast... care for others always... and had six children of my own... five by twenty-four... so all the ignorance has passed me by... and so has all the insecurity of ageing.
I once saw a most wonderful picture sketched by a young female Canadian artist (a former girlfriend of a guy I was fleetingly involved with) it was at first glance a portrait of a woman... a native American.... I thought... until my guy told me it was a male Native American... complet with feathers and so many, many lines and wrinkles on his face... yet it was so enthralling to me... I just stared and stared into that face which held so many years... so many secrets... so much understanding of life and I knew at once... there is a wonder in the ageing process that is far more precious than youth and all that goes along inside it... so much valuable than any monetary... material wealth... and I wont mind at all if nature plays that one on me and I suddenly become sixty plus in looks.
Sadly in the west we don't revere age and wisdom that comes with it (mostly) and we lose so much because of this.
Forge your age... forget the lines and wrinkles... and when you do... your eyes and mind are sharper... your personality shines through and you can move among every age and fit!
And when you realise that death is only a journey through a gate to another, better, place... you'll value life the more and look much younger too... it's all about attitude to ageing... and attitude to others;-)
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2007-06-23 11:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say that as the wrinkles spread & the wisdom increases, Im welcoming it all with open arms, but I'd be lying.
Its my birthday tomorrow & I'll be 41.... and believe me I'd do anything to be 21 again! I still feel fit, slim & healthy, but somehow after 40, time doesn't slip by in slow motion any more, it positively gallops! Honestly, the years are just flying by so quick!
Im working on self acceptance & love right now. I don't look as young as I did at 21, but that's life. And, yes, over the years Ive certainly become far wiser & less naeve.
2007-06-23 11:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i can honestly say that i am (at the moment) enjoying getting older. I feel far more confident and sure of myself and have learned a good few lessons along the way that i know have made me a better person.
Havent started to see a deterioration in my physical appearance yet (wrinkles and sagging,still only 34)so suppose you'd have to ask me again in 10 or 20 years and see if im still so optimistic about getting older when this side of things kick in.
As for now yes, im enjoying it.
2007-06-24 02:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi!
If I wasn't human, I'd probably be a bottle of good wine, as my life gets better with age.
One of the great things is that I've always loved engaging with people. Now that I'm older, I can talk to more women because they don't start out by thinking I'm only interested in them sexually, and more men because they no longer see me as a rival. Instead of talking about trivia, we can discuss stuff that really matters.
It's great having reached the pinnacle of grand parenthood to be able to look back on a life and forward on the lives of those following my genetic footprint. It's also really cool to know that nothing ends, things only change, and that before many more years I'll be going on another exciting voyage of discovery.
Good wishes.
2007-06-23 11:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by pilgrimspadre 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋