I NEED advice!!! PLEASE, PLEASE!!!!! READ! HELP!?

Question

Ok....Ever since I was a little girl I was interested in modeling, I love it & I've always waned to do it. I come from a kinda big fam. & no dad. My mom never really had money, still doesn't have money. I use to think you have to pay to be a model that's why my hopes on modeling went down for a big while. I was like, "nah...I could never do that" So I got married @ age 18, I have a little boy. My husband is in the Marine Corps, I'm a jealous person, they tell me why? if I'm very beautiful & still have a great body after having a baby. I don't like it wen my man looks @ pretty models in magazines, ect... I started looking into modeling, it's been my dream, found out you don't have to pay. I have apply with people that are looking for new faces & they like me & tell me they want to work with me. So far I have worked with 2 photographers to build my portfolio. N E ways my man doesn't want me to do it but tells me he aint going to stop me cause he doesnt want to be the.../CONTINUE IN A BIT

reason why I didn't give it a try. He doesn't like the fact that other men are going to look at me. At the beginning wen I told him he said he supported me, that I could do it but now photographers reply back to me asking for more pics wearing thongs just to see my body more & he doesn't like it. He talks s*** to me. I tell him that he's not being completely supportive. He tells me that it's costing him too much now. Obious, he's jealous now, I tell him you don't want nobody to see me but you don't care how you make me feel by looking @ other women. I don't know what to do. Last night he told me if I send pics of myself in thongs he's going to get custody of the baby, I told him he can't do that & he's not going to. I feel that without my baby I would kill myself, I can't live without him. He thinks that modeling is not realistic, he wants people to pay me already, I tell him I don't even have experience in it yet, I can't demand people to pay me & pick me instead of others with experi

I tell him, you know everybody starts from the beginning, they don't get paid right away. It's just a long story to tell. I don't know what to do. So PLEASE I need advice! I would appreciate it alot. :) It's just a dream of mine that I would love to give it a try hoping everything comes out good & maybe have a good future from it for me & my baby & him, if he wants to follow me. I just think I aint gonna find out what I can do, if I can do it unless I give it a try & see & hear what people think of me. I NEED ADVICE PLEASE, PLEASE!!!!!!! THANKS.....

Answer 1

here are some sites to help u alot www.modelingadvice.com, www.e-model.net, www.topmodelingsites.com, www.modelquestdirectory.com. best of luck do not listen to naysayers. u can make it lol

Answer 2

You have to ask yourself if it's worth losing your family (husband) over. You would not lose your child. No matter what he says, that just won't happen.

The other thing that concerns me is this:
when I read your letter I see (hear) a person with very low self-esteem. Nobody is going to make you feel better about yourself than you.
Modeling WILL NOT do that for you.
Because everytime you don't get the job, you are going to feel "rejected".

Why don't you work on your own self-esteem.
If your husband loves you then look at yourself through his eyes.

To succeed at modeling you have to have a very high opinion of yourself, total self-confidence, a high self-esteem. Because that is what comes across through the pictures.

Only you can make the choice over which is more important.
Make your decision and then don't look back. Just look forward and make "that" dream come true. Which ever one it may be.

Good luck.
I wish you the best :)

Answer 3

It is a nice dream and a very valuable one if you get started in the right agency's however sending your pictures (over the Internet) IN thongs what are you modelling lingerie get with a reputable agency and i am sure you hubby will support you more. send your pic's allover the net to whoever almost naked hmmmmm bad practise ............Oh buy the way i am in the lingerie modelling business and you can send me some of your work in see through tops and bottoms think i can get you modelling in like a week or two.

Answer 4

I understand his point of view. Do you really want to ruin your marriage by going for a dream that may never happen? I know for a fact that marriage and family are more important to me than any job. Just seems like you arnt putting your family first. Be flexible and listen to what he is saying. Do whats right for you and your family. Dont let a dream ruin what you have. If my hubby didnt want me sending pics to other people to look at do u thing I would???

Answer 5

you are not working with reputable people...any modeling you do you should be paid for and there is absoloutley NO REASON you should be having to show that much of your body...when it isn't even a job.

he has every right t the child as you do, and if you aren't going to conduct yourself in a professional manner, and watch the moral aspect of your new found career, he can easily file for divorce & custody.

The two of you need marriage counseling,

Answer 6

So model clothes, not thongs. You don't want to become one of those trashy sex objects you say your husband looks at, do you? Now as far as you killing yourself if you don't have your kid, that sounds pretty unstable to me. Perhaps marriage counseling is in order. Everyone I know that's modeled for local stores and such has gotten paid after the session. Good luck.

Answer 7

seriously, it sounds to me, if you are considering sending pics of yourself in a thong.........you just want the attention from other men AND you LIKE when guys are telling you how beautiful u are and that you have a great body. Go see a female agent and see where it goes

Answer 8

Get over it will you? Someone asking for pictures of you in a thong is NOT modeling. It is either someone just fishing for more pics, or porn place. I know My sister used to model and she had corporate sponsors they paid for her to get started. She left it to get married. Don't ruin your marriage over a pipe dream. Try calling a reputable Modeling agency. Get their honest input.

Answer 9

Don't be naive. Unless you want to get a job modeling thongs, you don't need to send pictures of yourself in them. Try talking to someone at a reputable agency. Don't risk your marriage over this.

Answer 10

you should get a real dream. sorry to burst your babble. get an education girl. become something and make something out of yourself. i use to model in new york when i was a child and its nothing. a lot of times it can be a scam and get you into trouble. modeling is more of a hobby. GET A REAL DREAM. don't think so little of yourself, im sure you could do more!

Answer 11

I support you 100%*... Any person deserves to follow their dream regardless of a supportive husband or not*.. He will just have to accept it or not*.. Don't let anyone stand in your way of you contributing to your own dream and you contributing to your own happiness*...Why would you need anyones permission or consent to pursue your dreams?*...Threatening you is meaningless and there is no legal grounds for doing so regarding pursuing a career in modeling*...