What is a good way to show someone how they hurt you?

Question

Without hurting them back. I had this girl who did me wrong but she somehow turned it around on me. I even forgave her and called her several times after all that and to this day it was my fault!! I don't want her to hurt but to understand my position in all of it.

Answer 1

I think you are young. I am not young at all. So my advice may not work for you, but here goes...

Many of us have wasted time and tears trying to let someone else know how much he/she has hurt us. It doesn't work honey. Some people will never get it. You have forgiven --- if you truly forgive (in your heart too) this will no longer torment you and bother you. People still have power over you if you think about the hurt. Forgive and forget it - that is the best thing you can do for yourself.

This does not mean someone should be allowed to take advantage of you. I have forgiven people but not continued the same relationship. Some people can be forgiven and they are grateful and things can go on as before. Some people just don't get it at all; it is better not to have these people in your life.

Good luck to you.