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That is a famous quote by Bob Marley. It's not really a question, but I was wondering if you agree with it. I don't, because I have learned to be greatful for the good times I had with my husband enstead of being sad he is gone. Now my sister is dying of cancer and doesn't have much time left. She said she doesn't want to leave and is scared and I don't know what to say to her. Any suggestions?

2007-06-23 10:43:22 · 18 answers · asked by donelle g. 7 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

fleutz...Bob Marley IS NOT a drug addict! He is in Zion . So if anybody else has anything negative to say about him please keep it to yourself. I love his music and what ever nasty thing anyone has to spout won't deter me from listening to his great music. Which will live on forever!

2007-06-23 11:04:58 · update #1

18 answers

Donelle, I do not pretend to understand the Marley quote but he doesn't sound like he was feeling very chipper that day.
I do not pretend to understand your feelings of the loss of a spouse. Or of your dying sister who can't, yet, let go.
I do know that people have been losing people since time started and we are still here. You survived the loss of your husband and will survive the loss of your sister.
I know our time here on earth is that much more precious and our lives are not permanent.

Bob Marley was a world teacher who had great understanding; people who don't 'grok' that fact have thoughts that are irrelevant and are misled.

"Death is only like passing from one room to another. But in the new room I can see and I can hear!
~Helen Keller
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2007-06-24 19:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 8 0

I prefer, "The good times of today are the happy memories of tomorrow." The good times of my past bring me lots of happiness and joy to think of today. God Bless your sister and your family. Be there with her, give her lots of love, talk about the good times you've had together and keep having some happy times, even now, when you can. Death shouldn't be feared, it is as natural as life. I do believe in God and that we go to a much better place after this world! Peace be with you.

2007-06-26 13:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3 0

I would think the most important thing your sister to know is that she has had positive influence on your life. Screw what some body else said. You know you have a bond that will not be broken by death.

You will know that she's up there taking care of you and your family as you would for her. let her believe as you do that she will never be gone. Just manages from a higher position.

No Laureate can compensate for the love you have always known even when you were mad at each other.

2007-06-26 09:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Caretaker 7 · 3 0

Disagree. The good times of today are the good memories of tomorrow. The sad thoughts of tomorrow are the screw-ups of today.

2016-03-14 06:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Wow =) You're one down right loyal fan and dedicated woman. I can't quite say what I'd suggest you tell your sister.. but I guess you could always remind her of her accomplishments in life, and that she's completed her task here.. or so on :) It's dramatic, hell yes, but it's one of those dramatic things that make people smile :D

And about the quote... I don't know what to say heheh. It all quite depends on the situation, my mood, my surroundings, the people around me.. etc. I would agree, but time after time not. Basically... undecided lol. -_-

... Life's too short to be miserable. :)

2007-06-27 02:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Nightwolf 4 · 4 0

Nor do I know what to say to you, my friend.
Tell her you will walk beside her and always be there, just like I'm now telling you.

Marley was wrong - the good times of today forever remain the wonderfully nostalgic memories of tomorrow.

2007-06-26 05:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Yellowstonedogs 7 · 3 0

Oh Donelle...my heart goes out to you. The message/question brings up many memories for me.
When I was told that my sister-in-law was dying of cancer (that had metastasised ) I went to Idaho to be with her. She was not my blood sis but you'd never have know it.
That whole period in my life still seems surreal when I think back on it. Toward the end she was more angry than scared. Her boys were grown and out on their own but her daughters were just babies. She had a meeting with all of us and told us that she was angry with herself for smoking and that not being able to see her girls grow up was a terrible thing to face at 39 years of age!
Glenda's illness brought my brother and I closer then we have ever been. We did everything that we could to support her, it was actually the three of us distracting each other from reality...At times it was the 3 Stooges in action. LOBO
My brother and I knowing that time with her was short, decided to kidnap Glenda from the hospital and take her to Boise to eat anywhere and anything she wanted! Little tiny hospital...amazing that we got away with it...but we had help on the inside.LOL
We laughed, turned up the Bob Marley, and sang songs to Glenda who was propped up in the back seat of the car. She always had the best sense of humour so she was right there giving it back to us ...until her energy began to give out. On the way back home she regurgitated most of the favorite food she had eaten. But it didn't damper her spirits...and she spent that night at home sleeping in her own bed!
Kidnapping her was a totally crazy thing to do and we caught H@ll from the hospital staff for our stunt. ..illegal I guess.
The 3 Stooges never regretted it and the next day Glenda returned to the hospital and began saying goodbye to many friends and neighbors who came by to see her for the last time. Her great sense of humor was there till the end when she slipped silently into the dark.
Donell you have those crazy, wonderful 3 Stooges in your veins and no matter how ill your sis is, you being there will make it easier for her!
I hope you can because you've been "there" before during your own beloveds' passing.
My Love to You!!!

2007-06-23 20:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kamp 4 · 7 0

No, good times in the past remain good memories, and sad things of the past bring sad memories. I remember the great times I had with my (now deceased) parents, and they remain pleasant memories. My advice to you, is to make her laugh, make every contact with her a wonderful experience. This way you both find comfort in laughter, not in premature mourning. Your sister is still alive. Celebrate the fact that you have time to spend with your sister! Love her, make her laugh, and let her know her spirit will never die, but live on. Reminisce your childhood, relive a funny situation you both share, most of all let her know how much she means to you. focus on the positive aspects of each others lives, and consider how blessed you were to have each other. Think and live in the here and now with her, not in the future, but focus right now on her. You are her sister, friend, and right now, her comforter. I have faith that you can do this, and know my prayers are with you. Enter her room not in tears, but joy that she is still alive. I wish you the very best during this difficult time. Hugs

2007-06-26 07:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 4 0

yes! you can ask her if she was afraid to leave the comfort of your mother's womb during birth...?

This being said I don't really know if your sister wants to be TOLD anythingg. She is probably scared more than anythin that she will be forgotten, and she wants to be heard. You can comfort her that she will be with you forever and that you will give her the biggest hug next time you meet. Be brave for her I can't imagine what it feels like, but if it were I, everyone else would be setting the tone for how I reacted.

GOD bless you and your sister.

Bob Marley is irrelevant at this juncture

2007-06-23 10:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michael B 4 · 7 1

I am sorry that some people would be so mean as to try to hurt you at this time. I see in myself a certain coldness towards my family which I lived for the many years I was in a cult which taught us that family not in the cult is doomed to hell or some such term, food for the moon. I was naive and stupid enough to believe that brainwashing trick. So I am also responsible for their ignorance. I am sorry for that and I love you. You are my hero.
As you can guess I am the last one to be able to help you with your sister. When my father-in-law was spending his last days in his home where I live, all I could do was look in his eyes. He spoke only Spanish and I did not. He looked at me and smiled. I am ok with that. So if you can hold her or hug her, that might help. I hear that some people are afraid to die alone. Who knows? We are all different. My mother who worked with dying people said it was the best job she ever had. It was like being in touch with God in a special way.
A big hug to you. Love, Ron

2007-06-23 11:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 8 0

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