It seems that people often feel that if a man stays with his wife and does not leave, then that means that he loves her, I don't think thats always true. what do you think?
2007-06-23 10:35:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love may be the underlying feeling but it may not be necessarily THE reason. Some men enjoy the comforts of "home" and don't want to change this. Some men can't be bothered with a messy divorce, much less a very expensive one. Some men, unfortunately, like to play the field to satisfy their ego but have always gone back to their wives. Some men return to the fold for the sake of their children/family/respect of the community/job security/etc.
2007-06-23 10:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually psychologists have worked out that after a period of time couples become "pair-bonded". They have developed a co-dependency relationship, like a mild addiction perhaps. Or you might call it a rut. There is a certain comfort level being with each other, compared to trying to go out and find another partner.
This may seem a pessimistic view on the surface, no love, just dependency, but it really demonstrates a deeper relationship than love, a literal need for each other.
2007-06-23 17:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that peoples feelings change over time. Love can be dizzying at the start, and fade into warmth and security, companionship and dependence, but it's still love. People exhibit love in different ways, romance may not exist but love can be in abundance. My boyfriend (I know, not my husband) won't send me flowers, or admit he's wrong, but he'd never cheat on me and I know I'm the only girl he wants to be with. I value that more. It will depend on the man, as it would if the situation were reversed. Some men will commit their whole lives to a marriage, while others would jump ship if things get rocky. You can't look into his mind, or guess what he's feeling; you can only commit your whole heart to him and if it doesn't work out, it's not your fault and you did your best. If I were you I'd stop dwelling over whether he loves you (i'm guessing that you're implicitly talking about your own relationship, I don't know) and get on with your marriage.
2007-06-23 18:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of reasons a man stays even though he doesn't love his wife. It's cheap labor; how much would he have to pay for a cook, housekeeper, laundry service, food shopper, etc.? As long as there's a recliner, TV and remote, food on the table and clean sox in the drawer, some men are satisfied. Not all guys are emotionally wired to know real love if it smacked them in the face.
2007-06-23 17:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons people stay together. Not just because they love each other still, but because most couples believe that things will work out between them, even if it's obvious that it won't. Most people have lots of history together, memories, bills, friends, etc. It's hard for people to really separate.
2007-06-23 17:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stay together for a lot of reasons. Sometimes they just don't have the guts to leave or they are afraid to be alone.
2007-06-23 17:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by myassisdragon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's staying for security, for the kids, or he doesn't want to hurt his wife. maybe he loves her but is not in love with her. his body is at home but his heart could be elsewhere
2007-06-23 17:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by babe with an attitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's true..I still feel like my husband does not love me but i feel he is doing it for the childrens' sake....
2007-06-23 17:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its always true niether!
2007-06-23 17:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋