I have depression and anxiety help please!?

Question

OK so im 17 years old and I sometimes feel depressed like I wanna kill myself.But also I have anxiety like when I'am in class I get really nervous like I'am oing to do something stupid and turn red and everybody will laugh at me.So I was wondering what type of medication can I take I dont want to go to a dctor because I would rather not have my parents know about this so what over the counter medication is good?

Answer 1

The fact that you don't want your parents to know about this suggests that your relationship with your parents is part of the problem. As much as you want to be independent and take care of this yourself, you have several competing interests:
1. As a matter of pride, you do not want to seem weak or inadequate.
2. You know that your feelings are getting in the way of your goals.
3. You don't feel you have the right to be angry at (who?), so you get depressed about it. I certainly don't know who, and you may not even know who.
4. You have some sort of control issue going on with your parents - you need to be strong to protect yourself from having your parents run your life.

Bottom line: Your perception of the world, and your life in it, is in conflict either with the reality around you OR your belief system(s). You are unable to resolve this conflict without going outside yourself (hence your question).

Important things to know:
1. It's ok to ask for help. It does not mean you are a weakling. It does not mean you are a failure.
2. What you don't know CAN hurt you. You are feeling the pain already.
3. Not all experts are equally expert. They call it practicing medicine because it's practiced on people, and no two people are alike. Most people have similar patterns, or they'd call it experimenting, not practicing. But similar is NOT identical. So you need to be careful about how you proceed.
4. Killing yourself doesn't solve any problem. Even though it may feel that way, all it does is transfer your mess to someone else to clean up. That's not fair to you, and it's not fair to someone else (whoever that may be).
5. You are a teenager - you are biologically NOT wired to be able to fix this yourself - for at least another 4 years. There's scientific research behind that statement, it's not meant to be a 'feel good' statement.
6. You want help - you just don't know the best way to get it. Call your pediatrician or internist - directly. Don't ask your parents' permission. If they but in, simply explain that you need help getting to the point to explain to them what's going on with you. IF they don't like it, then ask them, do they want you to be healthy or not?
7. You are not trying to freeze them out, but you need to be able to give them straight answers - and since you don't know the answers, it's frustrating for you to not be able to give them what both you and they want.
8. Medication alone will NOT make you better. Time will help. Finding someone to talk to who is trained and experienced in your issues can help make you better.
9. Making you better may not mean making you feel better.

I could go on, but that's enough. Know that people care, even if they don't know you. Know that others have had to go through the kind of pain you're going through, survived it, and went on to be happy. You can be happy again, even though it doesn't feel like it right now.

Good luck - start with your regular doctor - they can help you find what/who you need if they can't help you themselves. It' THEIR job to do that - so let them do their job. It's your job to get through school and finish the task ahead of you - growing into a fully functioning adult. You're close, but not there yet.

Answer 2

Hello my name is sean and i have been studying psychology for four years now. I suggest you see your doctor as you can go to the doctors with out your parents knowing. Medication isnt always the best sort of treatment for anxitey or depression how ever prozac are a depression drug that slows down the synapse reaction time. In these cases therapy is 98% effective.
Medication wont make the problems go away therapy is the way forwards you may not think it is for you but hey thats what all the patients say in my clinic. After there program is finished they see a diffrent side to it. If your still unsure of the idea of consulting your G.P you may want to search 'anxitey self help' into google. May i suggest the following:

1: Relaxation
2: Talk to your parents about this [ Being silent isn being strong ]
3: Think positive ... a positive thinker is a positive do'er '

If you need a more detailed approach and help please contact me

Remeber this isnt for ever things get better

Answer 3

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

Answer 4

Well, If you are having tendencies that extreme you need an outlet. Whether it be sports or artistic to vent some of that frustration inside. There is a natural supplement called 5-HTP. It enables your brain to produce it's own serotonin. If you are lacking serotonin it causes both depression and anxiety. It can be found in the vitamin section. 50mg once a day is the recommended dosage.

Plus don't forget you are only seventeen your brain is putting out a lot of testosterone which causes rage and anxiousness in young males. If you are feeling suicidal don't be afraid to talk to somebody who is an adult and can guide you when you feel like this. You have the gift of a whole lifetime ahead of you, cherish it.

Answer 5

Hi cloud,
i have the same thing as well. All people with anxiety disorder suffer from depression as well. They go hand and hand together forsure. You should see a therapist because you mentioned you dont want your parents to find out. It is important for you not to hide it from anyone especially those that love you unconditionally. Over the counter stuff you can find at gnc is st johns wort, mega mens vitamins with a great b vitamin complex, fish body oils for the dha(brain health) content, and sam-e.

Answer 6

Let me ask you something...do you want to mask it with medicine that you will have to be dependant on the rest of your life....which makes you feel worse, tears your body up and doesnt really work that well.....or......deal with why you have the problems in the first place and attract joy and love into your life without depending on drugs????
what you give your attention to grows and you are thinking of things that will only bring more of the bad to you. You need to realize a few things that will help you alot....everyone of us has felt this way at one time...it is perfectly normal. Your 17 your hormones are raging and they will make you go up and down. the natural way to deal with this is to take some black cohosh root in capsules and a vitamin B-100 which will give you energy and calm the nerves and make you feel happy instead of up and down like drugs do..also will build up the body instead of break it down...and as far as everyone else, NO one is an exception to being self concience at one point and time and they dont even know you so how can they judge anything? What others think of you is none of your business..you will be alot happier when you realize this...there will always be greater and lesser people than yourself...but not one just like you. you are totally unique...and if you would give yourself the chance you will find that you have a great purpose here on the earth. Be kind to yourself. go to thesecret.tv and enter-go to secret gifts-scroll down and play the video with the girl on the grass...say it out loud to yourself and really listen to your own voice...this site is wonderful for teaching you how to attract the good things to you instead of the depression and anxiety...it really works too...hope it helps

Answer 7

Definately talk to your parents and seek professional help first of all...

However, an herbal suppliment called St. John's Wort can be purchased anywhere and people claim its very helpful in soothing their nerves. Also, if you're all jacked up on junk food, soda pop, and sugar laden products, change that right away! You'll be amazed how much better you feel if you eat real foods along with vitamins.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong telling your parents how do you feel. Can you talk to a counselor at school? or someone that you feel confident to talk. You need help, and if you need medication, an over the counter medication is not going to help. I know how you feel, it happened to me too.

Answer 9

I"m so sorry to here you feel the way you do.I used to feel the same way as you many moons ago,please talk to some one about this you have low self esteem and your confidence needs a boost.We are all born unique and very special.Every time you look in the mirror tell youself you are special because you are!!!! X

Answer 10

I don't think there are any over the counter meds for these things...this kind of stuff requires medications that need a prescription.

If you feel suicidal, it's best to come clean about what you are feeling to someone, like a parent.