2007-06-23 09:54:04 · 16 answers · asked by winner2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they are old enough to "understand", be honest with them. If they ask something that you are un-comfie answering (such as really personal, adult questions) get him in the room, face to face or on the phone if he's away, and ask him the question and start out "hey, the kids have a question, ......and then ask him bluntly. MAKE him answer, and if he won't, then they see you've done YOUR part, and that he's the loser as his obviously is when he won't answer their question. You'll come out the good guy.
2007-06-23 10:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without more information, it's difficult to advise anything. Are you still with their father? How old are the children? More information would have been helpful, but I'll go with this.
Children do best with the minimum of information. The less you can get away with telling them, the better. Start with nothing and then answer each question with the least information possible until they are satisfied. Too often we give our children more information than they can process.
When asked about sex we go into a full detailed description when they would have been satisfied with "it's something that happens when a man and woman sleep together". This is the same thing. They'll ask questions till they're satisfied with our answers. But remember it's their father you're talking about so you'll want to stick with facts and keep as much emotion out of it as you can.
I'm sorry for what you're going thru. Best of luck!
2007-06-23 17:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by motomouth_1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Tell them to ask their Dad. HE had the affair HE should have to face his children's questions.
But we also need to know the age. If they are young, that might not be the best idea
2007-06-23 17:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Raster T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell us how old your kids are and how much they know about the affair? Also tell us if you are staying with Dad or not. That would really help.
2007-06-23 16:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by LAYLA R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with them, but not cruel.
The level of honesty of course, depends on the age of your child.
Young children can simply be told that she is "daddy's friend", older kids can understand that sometimes things happen that aren't right or fair . You don't need to go into details...there are some things kids just don't need to know
2007-06-23 17:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to ask their father. HE had the affair HE should have to face his children's questions.
2007-06-23 17:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are your children? How come they know about the affiar?. you should never let your children know about the problems going on in adults relationship. you don't want them to have a different feeling about their father. since they know so much already you might as well tell them.
2007-06-23 16:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they'll probalby understand what's going on when they get older, but for now they do not need to know. just tell them it's an old friend of their dads.
2007-06-23 16:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they need to ask their dad about that.
2007-06-23 17:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More details are needed to give you some advice on the topic.
2007-06-23 16:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by jd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋