Do you cry over something that could have been?

Answer 1

No, I smile at thoughts of what is to come.

Answer 2

There are certainly certain things that could have been, yet didn't because of their given circumstances. But crying won't change anything, it'll only make you feel worse about your current situation and can't change it for the better by wishing for what would've been.

For instance, last summer I met this girl at UC San Diego. Now we're both in high school, but UCSD had these connection programs for high school students. I was in one, and she was in another but there was a dance that had both groups. We danced with each other the whole time without knowing each other prior, and it was obvious we really liked each other and could have had something if we actually lived in the same city. But that wasn't the case, and talking on the phone doesn't amount to anything, so nothing could go anywhere.

It sucks, but that's just life. And wishing for what could have been is utterly pointless. It's sometimes nice to think about how great it would've been, but it's not. You just gotta role on--that's what you get for living.

Answer 3

I never focus on things that happend in the past. At least not to the point that it causes me to get upset. If it was truely a decision I regret not making or made a bad one, I learn from that and know how to handle it in the future if the same situation arises. It may not be the exact same person or place but could be similar. If this is something that can not be changed get on with your life and use it as a learning tool. If this still has hope then try and figure out how you can make it work.

Answer 4

i used to. but that is pointless. dont fret over the past. learn and move on. look ahead - those are the things you can change. if you dont, then you may cry over the fact that all youve been doing is crying - then your in a real jam.

Answer 5

Many times when I sit & wonder what my son would have done with his life if he hadn't been hit by a train & killed at age 15....He was so talented & I know he would have been successful at whatever he chose to do with his life, just as his two older brothers are, being in law enforcement.

Answer 6

sure, but not a lot. I just give myself a certain amount of time to cry and then get over it.

Answer 7

no, i haven't cried over something that could have been. although, i do get depressed especially when my parents remind me of a guy that i let slip through my fingers. recently, i learned that he has been dating someone for about 2 years. yeah, it definitely hurts my heart. he was a good guy and i feel awful for letting him go. now, i'm left wondering what might have been. it kills me. not to mention, my family is friends with his family. occasionally, my mom will run into one of his parents or my ex himself and they will chat. so, i'm constantly getting progress reports. i'm happy that he's doing well but i can't help to feel bad. that "what if" question always pops into my head.

Answer 8

yes. i do cry when i hear about a solider being killed. I think of what could have been. what would Their life have been and what their children would have been like.

Answer 9

no that would b a waste of time and energy.
Just cry over what u KNOW u lost.

Answer 10

I have, it hurts sometimes when you know you didn't do what you really wanted to do and it's too late. I should have been a rock star years ago! It was still great knowing I did great when I played and I still can, life takes strange turns.

Answer 11

i don't cry, i just think about it for a while and then get over it.