hi im a guy and one of my guy friends just came out. i feel uncomfortable and don't know how to act around him now. how can i maintain the friendship after this revelation???
2007-06-23 09:18:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
dude, your FRIEND is still the same EXACT person he was before he told you he was gay. Absolutely nothing has changed about him. He is still the same exact person you have been hanging with for all these years(?). He was your gay friend for a long time. You just didn't know it. ;)
Yes, it will be a little awkward for both of you at first, now that you know, and now that he knows you know. But, all that takes is 2 friends taking a few minutes to have a good conversation about it. Get it out in the open, and then you guys move on.
Honestly, he is still the same person who has always been your friend. He is your friend...and it is such a silly non-issue, once you get past the initial shock.
Talk to your bud. Give things a chance.
2007-06-23 09:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 45⤊ 1⤋
He's still the same person he was before. If anything, only more comfortable around you now that you know. Just realize that just because he's gay, it does not mean that he suddenly going to come on to you. I'm sure he knows you are straight (at least I assume you are given your question) and therefore coming on to you would not only be pointless, but could ruin a friendship I'm sure he values.
2007-06-23 17:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The first two answerers are absolutely right. Act exactly the same around him. The fact that he's gay doesn't change anything at all. It's actually a compliment. He trusts and values you enough as a friend to trust you with such an important secret. If you start acting all awkward now, it'll crush him. Just do your best to support him by continuing to be a strong and trustworthy friend. He'll really appreciate it.
Good luck!
2007-06-23 16:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
They are the same friend they have always been.
Treat them no differently. But refrain from using discriminating jokes, etc. Be sure not to convince them that you do not accept them over this... it could cause you to loose a friend, or permanent mental damage to your friend.
Just continue being friends, the same way you always have been. Just because someones gay and your sraight doesn't mean you can't have a sleep over together, it's not like they want to have sex with you?
2007-06-23 16:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by BT 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
he's still the same person he was before you knew he happens to like guys instead of gals. so you two can still be friends as you were before and you can still do all of the things you did before; nothing has changed at all. Besides, if he was after you for sex, you'd have known ages ago he was gay. So relax and ignore his sexual orientation as he obviously ignores yours.
2007-06-23 19:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
If he didn't hit on you before or act "gay" what changed - nothing! Continue to be friends and act like you always have, he might still even tell a f*a*g joke himself (just like blacks using the N word).
2007-06-23 17:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sparky77x 2 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Act the exact same way you did before he came out.
He is still the same person - gay or straight.
2007-06-23 16:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can. He hasn't changed. Just explain to him that you are straight if he asks, and that should be it. Most of my friends are straight guys and it doesn't bother me !
2007-06-23 16:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He is no different, as a person now, then he was when you didn't know. Treat him like you treated him before you knew.
2007-06-23 16:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by TRACER ™ 6 · 10⤊ 0⤋
he's no different with another except his perference of partners.
friendship can be maintined wit respect . . .
just act and behave normally . . .
2007-06-24 08:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by ragin_silence 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋