How do i stop my husband from beating me?

Question

He's not really that bad of a man but he drinks a lot then starts hitting me for no reason.

Answer 1

HELLO OUT THERE!!!!! 2007 hun, you need to leave him before he beats you to death!!!

Answer 2

If he is abusive, and drinks, he needs to be told by the courts and police to stop. Then he needs to go through a program and complete it, and change his ways. If you've tried this all ready, through the towel in, because it isn't worth him accidentally killing you one night because he blacked out and beat you upside the head with a skillet. Yell at him and tell him to STOP! Leave the house when he drinks and tell him why. Because he beats you when he's drunk. I don't believe you when you say he isn't really that bad. He's an alcoholic, and drinks his problems away. He has no right to hit you for any reason, and if he does sorry to say, he is a coward, and doesn't love him self. Husband is suppose to love his wife more than himself, and he clearly doesn't beat him self up. You need to get out if he can't change. You can call your local police department (non emergency) to get information on how you can get help starting over after abuse. Counciling is a must for you. He is a bad man for abusing his wife. He can change, but from my experience, most of these types will for a short time, and then revert to their old ways. If he wants help and wants to save his marriage, then he will stop. If not, then it is your CLUE to get out of there. If you don't you will be sorry. Just leave when he drinks. Even if he forbidds you. Call the police if you have too. You don't have to take it.

Answer 3

Sweetie I may not personally know your hubby.But I have known dozens like him.Infact, I have a father like him.And you know what you can tell yourself what ever lies you want to.You can claim he isn't a bad person or blame the booze.But a drunk persons actions are not excusable because they are drunk.If they would do it drunk they will do it sober.The booze may give him enough of an inflated sence of self to actually go through with hitting you.But I gurantee he thinks about doing it sober.He just has of yet doesn't have the guts to try to pull it when sober.I know from experice if a man will hit you once he will do it again.And no matter how sorry they claim to be.They are liars because if he was truly sorry it wouldn't have happen ever again.Forgive me if I sound a little cold but this subject is so frustrating to me.I have never understood why woman put up with this behavior.Do you know how many woman out there lose their lives at the hands of the men whom are supposed to love them.There are books,movies all kinds of things out there on this subject.Not to mention the graveyards that are full of foolish woman who believe their men when they said it wouldn't happen again.I can't tell you how many woman I have know in your situation.My own sister had a husband so evil an abusive that she was hopiatalized more times than I can remember.And atleast 3 times he put her in the hospital with life threatening injuries.He beat her near to death and even beat her when she was pregnant she lost a few babies because of the beating.And everytime she believed him when he said he would never do it again.If nothing else check out this movie called the burning bed.It is based on a true story.About a wife whom like you did think her hubby was all that bad either.But he got worse way worse over time.And things escalated until someone lost their life.And no one would have had to have died if she would just have put a stop to it when it started.Anyway check it out it may give you some insight on what you can expect if you don't leave him before he gets worse.Good Luck!

Answer 4

You run away from him asap!!!! I known it seems impossible, but don`t let him kill you. That is the ending for most of such cases, no man shall ever hit a woman or child, that you must agree on!!!!!!! Drunk people have no control, and it is so easy to hit a little bit to hard, or so the victim hits another object as they fall. The result can very well be fatal!!!!
There are one way out beside running for your life, that is if he (when sober) agrees to never touch a drop of alcohol again ever!!!!!!! If he love you, he will do that without any thinking at all, if he don`t, then you are lucky to get out alive. Don`t Don`t Don`t let this continue, next time can be the last, and no-one can help you then. Do this now! Right away PRONTO! If he loves you, he seek help and go to AA, and never ever touch anything again!!!! I can not stress out this enough!!!! Good luck and peace and love from Norway

Answer 5

Why in the hell are you still with him? Don't you have any respect for yourself? You are much better than that. Get out NOW! Go to a friend's house. Go to the church. Go to a shelter if you need a place to stay. You don't have to put up with it. Do you have children? If so, you are putting them at risk as well. You never know when he might turn on them. If you need money, there are places that can help. If it was me, I would go to the bank and get every last dime he had. Before I left I would pour out his liquor and fill it with water. He would probably be too drunk to realize what it was anyway. Then contact the police and file a report. If you're scared of being alone, just remember there are people out there who care about what happens to you. No man is worth your self-respect! Take Care

Answer 6

Do you have an identity besides being the wife of a man that hits you and uses alcohol as an excuse? Will anybody be interested in what you have to say if they're not feeling sorry for you? Do you have any other weapons in your arsenal besides manipulation?

The last thing you want is to take good advice and be responsible for your relationship and situation. All these answers are good advice for someone that really wants to take it and better their existence.

I say you can't stop him from beating you, because you like it.

Answer 7

why would you put up with this? people in relationships make the worst decisions. it is not ok, for any reason, for people in a relationship to abuse each other - physically, mentally or otherwise. i just hope you haven't had any children with this monster. if he loved you, he wouldn't hit you. if he only does it when he's drunk, then most likely he's an alcoholic, and he should either quit drinking, or you should GET OUT. why would you put up with this? don't say "because i love him." if that's the only answer you have, then ask yourself why you love him. because i bet you don't. like everyone else, you're just afraid of being alone. trust me - it's not that bad. sure beats getting beat.

Answer 8

Get out. Get out now. He can get help, but until he does, if he does, you are still in the line of "fire" so-to-speak. I thought I could change my ex. Both of us drank, so I know what the demons are like in that fight to get sober. I was able to cut down and don't miss any of the nasty problems from over drinking causes, from the physical to the mental. I only have wine or beer with a meal occassionally without over imbibing. I could do it. He couldn't do it on his own, nor with help from me. He wouldn't try professional help. Needless to say, his abuse continued and since I wasn't drinking along with him, I could see through sober eyes how he treated me. I really didn't like the picture. The verbal and physical abuse was terrible. No one should suffer that abuse period. My well-educated knowledge on this subject comes from being there and doing that.....YOU NEED TO LEAVE. THEN discuss your options with him when he's sober. Take a video of him when he does what he does to you to show him. He may or may not know just how bad it is from his point of view....

Answer 9

I called the police on mine. I feel guilty for having done it, but I do not regret it. Waking up in a pool og blood was enough for me. He NOW understands. We are still together, and we still love each other. There is NO EXCUSE. Look at yourself in the mirror, remind yourself that you are better than that. Also try taping him secretly before he goes into that rage. If what you say it true, you have advanced notice that he's going to do it. I knew that morning what that night was going to turn into. I should of left, but I didn't. I also painted my husband toe nails while on vacation after he passed out!!!!! Sweet revenge!

Answer 10

This is serious... an intoxicated mate is not a good mate. A sober mate is a good mate. I've seen this so often that I know you are only exacerbating his problem. I saw a woman neighbor hesitate in getting help, one day her son Matty seeing his mother being beaten once to often grabbed an pick-up an Axe and killed his father. Matty was only 12 years old. That cost Matty all his youth and most of his early adult life. Get help as soon as possible...you will be very glad you did.

Answer 11

First of all,....the first time ever he laid a hand on you,....you shouldve been out. No woman should have to tolerate that. Bad enough we go through childbirth, periods and raising children. Hell no,....lemme tell you something its only a matter of time before he gets so mad that he beats you to death. And hes not worth ur life. U can find someone who will treat you better and that will love you without beating you. I hope you make the right choice.