2007-06-23 08:17:26 · 24 answers · asked by Jerry D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been thinking about this question a lot lately after my bf and I broke up. Before I would have definitely said "loved and lost" but it hurts so much now that I'm leaning towards "never to have loved at all." At least when I was single, I didn't have this hole in my heart that I do now. I didn't know what it was like to lose someone special
2007-06-23 08:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loved and lost without that I would not have my son and he is the most important person in my life at this time and always will be. But losing a 30 year marriage due to husband's cheating is a hurt and betrayal that I wish I had not had to go through, you think when you have been married that long that you pretty well know someone, but I sure found out different. But as I said my son is the one good thing that came out of the marriage and without it I wouldn't have him.
2007-06-23 08:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship you have teaches you something. I look at the "loved and lost" relationships as training for the one I'm in now. You have to look back on past relationships and find the good in them. Even if it is a lesson on what you never want again.
So anyone who says never to have loved at all, has to be a very negative person who will have difficulty in any relationship they are ever in until they find the positive from past relationships.
2007-06-23 08:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by motomouth_1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate that quote! LOL
Usually when I have lost a love or fell out of love, I would have rather never known them. I can find just as satisfying feelings, if not often better, in buying a nice pair of sexy high heels. Or a piece of jewelery. I am not the kind of girl who sits and mourns what ifs. Even if my husband, whom I love dearly, walked away. I would be just fine. No tears. No begging. Life is just to short. And I honestly do not have it in my nature. Which I guess makes me a little colder than most.
2007-06-23 08:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes that way you have some passing idea of what love is and know what it takes to keep it together if you have had it once and lost it. Never loving at all lets poor imitations of love seem viable when they really should just be ignored.
2007-06-23 08:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have loved and lost...at least I would know what it felt like to be loved...rather than wonder for the rest of my life.
2007-06-23 08:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, about a year ago.. I would have answered never to have loved at all. Since that time, I have met my soul mate.. one day of being in complete love with him is worth all the heartache in the world for me. I love him more ever second of every hour.... to lose that would be heartbreaking and devestating, but I would rather have been in love with him... it is the most amazing feeling in this world.... good question!!!!! :)
2007-06-23 08:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by reeree 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never to have loved at all
2007-06-23 08:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have loved and lost because at least i would know the true meaning of love what that word really means.
2007-06-23 08:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by cutebunny1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loved and lost, definitely. Loving someone takes risk so without the risk you will not have someone special in your life.
2007-06-23 08:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by RB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋