2007-06-23 08:13:00 · 10 answers · asked by bethybug 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Keep the limits and the consequences coming and ignore what he says about hating you. He doesn't hate you but needs to get angry because he's a teenager and wants freedom but isn't old enogh for the responsibilities that come with the freedom. He needs limits and that's your job. He will appreciate you for it when he is older. And he still loves you even though he says he hates you. You need to know that and be strong enough to still set limits. It's not easy!
2007-06-23 08:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't feel too bad about it. I always told my mom I hated her because she was so strict. She would just act like she didn't care or that it didn't bother her that I hated her. Don't let it show that it bothers you that he says that. Just stay consistent and keep doing what you're doing. It's called tough love. He most likely will thank you when he gets older for setting limits and consequences. I mean if you didn't do that what kind of a parent would you be. We need more parents like you so that teenagers are not out on the streets in the late night causing trouble.
2007-06-23 19:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him a hug and say that's okay I Love you enough for both of us. And keep it up with the limits and consequences. You do it because you love him and one day pretty soon he will realize that and be thankful.
2007-06-23 15:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, almost all teenagers go through that "hate strict parents" phase. Unfortunately there's no much u can do besides talking to him, explain why u're giving him consequences and limits, yeah, he'll say he hates u and whatever, but he doesn't mean that, we all used to get mad and sad when we wanted to go somewhere and our parents said no. But u know what, he'll learn from that, either being cool about it or not.
Trust me, I used to be really upset when my parents would do that, but now, I hug them kiss them, and tell them I love them to death for all the times they said no, gave me consequences and limits, because THAT made me who I am today, which I'm proud to be.
God Bless.
2007-06-23 15:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son told me that one time to shock me, hurt my feelings and hopefully get me to lighten up. It didn't work. I looked at him, smiled and said "Good. Then I must be doing a good job as your mother!" He didn't think it was funny but a couple of years later he told me even though it ticked him off he knew I was setting limits because I loved him and wanted what was best for him,
2007-06-23 15:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by ilufthemountains 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sign that something is working... Don't take it personal and stick to your rules. Show love but be firm at the same time. He'll grow up soon and then he will thank you for raising him with limits and values.
2007-06-23 15:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by gl_casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow it off and keep doing what you're doing. In a few years, when you've raised a responsible man, you'll be glad you stuck with it. He doesn't hate you, he's just going for shock value because that's the only weapon he has left. I agree with Matthew F, though. If my Dad heard me say that to my Mom, he would have ended me.
2007-06-23 15:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nathan S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would smile and say " Good !!! That means that you are totally normal!!!! You are entitled to your opinion but that does not change anything."
2007-06-23 16:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, and keep being consistent.
He'll say he hates you now, but trust me, he'll thank you when it's over.
2007-06-23 15:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kaci 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats what i do to my mom, honestly.
he will feel bad.
he knows its right, though.
it just comes out.
2007-06-23 15:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by mle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋