Every person I've talked to that has been married for 20+ years has cheated! My friends who haven't been married long are very faithful to one another but does it wear off? I am in my 20s and it scares me to think that my future husband might cheat on me. I don't believe in divorce so I know I'll make the right decision before I marry but that what if is freaking me out!
2007-06-23 08:06:35 · 51 answers · asked by Bood 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not everybody cheats. You should really focus all of your energy into what makes a marriage successful and stop pursuing the destructive negative stuff. Nobody goes into a marriage wondering when things will go wrong. You sound pretty intelligent and I am certain that you will pick a man that is like minded. Keep you eye on the prize, My mom and Dad have been married for Fifty years, he still treats her like they are on a date. Its pretty cool.
2007-06-23 08:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by BudLt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have successfully been through a 13 and a 14 year marriage, and can honestly say I never cheated, and neither did my spouses. Trust and respect for the sanctity of your marriage can only come through time. You will go through those insecure times occasionally. It is natural. It is important to always remember what little can be gained by cheating, and what can really be lost! Work at your marriage every day, and it won't wear off. In my case, both marriages ended because we just became different people as we grew older. Quite different than when we met. Now, we are all happier realizing we made better friends. You can not "believe" in divorce all you want. The reality is that you don't own anyone, and cannot dictate what actions they may take in the future. You can only control what you do! You both must develop, and keep trust, throughout your marriage. It's the only way to be happy.
2007-06-23 08:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Randy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible? Yes, anything is possible. But I would say the odds are yeah most couples will cheat in some fashion during the course of marriage (no matter how long.) Being in a long term committed relationship has its ups and downs, and in general it seems the longer together the more downs. Then a person no longer feels valued by there partner and looks for that confirmation from somewhere else. And most people are too scared of the truth, of being willing to admit to there partner I'm thinking about being with someone else.
Maybe its just not in our genetics (guys and girls) to stay monogamous for life. But despite that, I still believe in love and believe that with the right person, one should be willing to take the risk.
And yeah I was married once and it ended because of a cheat. And everyone of my married guy friends have faced that decision of to cheat or not too. (Mostly because women cant seem to resist a married man.)
2007-06-23 08:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by roaringlambs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for almost 24 years to the same man and we never cheated on each other. We would still be married today if he had not been killed. So, yes it is possible to be married and not cheat or even in a relationship. It boils down to how much you love and respect the other person.
2007-06-23 09:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 11 years and neither of us have cheated. My parents have been married 51 years, neither of them have cheated.
Basic philosophy - if you're tempted to cheat then something is wrong in your marriage. Before you destroy the relationship, try to figure out the problem and repair it. If the problem isn't repairable, then get a divorce before you go sleeping around.
Personally, I wouldn't do anything that would result in losing my husband so therefore I do not cheat. I also have too much respect for myself to want to cheat on him - it's sleazy.
2007-06-23 09:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known different couples that are married and have been married for alot of years and have never cheated on each other. You have to learn to trust and to stay in love with the other person. When a person cheats it's sometimes because they are not getting what they want at home.
2007-06-23 08:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are happily married for almost 17 years. Neither of us has ever cheated. So, don't get too "freaked out." It is possible to have a successful marriage. Commitment is the key. I think it also helps that we both have parents who have provided good role models by staying faithful and staying together for 40+ years.
2007-06-23 08:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible to be married and never cheat. The thing is, you two will have to honor your vows and your commitment as much if not more than you love each other. Looks fade, love settles into a kind of routine, stress enters the picture. The point is, something bigger than the two of you has got to be a part of your marriage. In our case, it's God.
2007-06-23 08:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone cheats I know couples who are married longer than that and they never cheated.Also there are people who are married less than a year and cheated. YOU CAN'T WORRY ABOUT STUFF LIKE THAT cause then you will never get married. Make sure you know who you are marrying and what kind of family background they come from.
2007-06-23 08:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by leapyrangels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. But then again there are so many people with so many different values and ideas of right and wrong that you never know what someone will do til they're put in a situaton like that. People make mistakes, but marriage is sacred, at least to me. There are no right or wrong answers here, just what ifs. Which is what your scared of anyways. Just dont sweat it. You've got a lot of life ahead of you and you might find the one for you.
2007-06-23 08:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbsupper! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋