Ladies: 25yr, happily married cpl, very in love, 100% faithful. For 50th b-day he wants a threesome. Y or N?

Question

B-day trip to Vegas. Couple have dated since high school. Wife was open to the idea, now says she can not "share"

Answer 1

Sounds to me like this couple are looking for a way to add some spice to their relationship. This is great, but it should be in a way that is 100% comfortable for both parties, which I don't see how this could be. I would have a difficult time watching the man I love with another woman.

Maybe try something different to spice things up. Spend the afternoon apart, go shopping and buy an outfit that would be totally unlike anything you would ever normally buy. Haircut, shave, new makeup, different cologne/perfume, etc. Then meet in the restaurant or casino for the "first" time. Turn the night into a one night stand. I know it sounds kinda korny, but as long as you can throw yourself into the role playing it's a lot of fun and can lead you to discovering things about your spouse that you never knew. Since you're away from home where you don't have to worry about running into someone from church, the sky is the limit for your dress, actions, etc.

Congrats to them on their life together....many good years to come!

Answer 2

After 25 years of a beautiful marriage, would you want to ruin it by have a threesome? We all wonder what sex would be like with someone else, esp. having it with the same person for that many years, but let me tell you, for the sake of your marriage be happy with the plans of just being together on the 50th birthday. I know too well how one day that can be taken from you. It might be fun doing things separate also if going on a trip. One take in shows and the other gamble. But if your happily married try not to mix another person into this relationship. Take plenty of pictures for memories to look at in the future. How I wish more married couples have what you two have right now.

Answer 3

Lets do this very slimply.

For Her 50th Birthday. Is he willing to bring another man into the bedroom???

( THATS A BIG N-O! I hear. Maybe you should think about if SHE asked you that, how in the he** would you feel. What a sorry excuse for a husband that makes you.

If you were my husband of 25 years and asked me that, thats all the time in my life you would have gotten. I would have said ," You bet sweetheart you can have a threesome, ill even find the lady." And do you know what would be in that huge blue box...

The friken devorce lawyer and your paperwork that you would be signing.

How can you call yourself, Happily married, in love and faithful, do you even know what that means????

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 4

I have recently been having a three some with a married couple who invited me to join them but I dont know how to tell them that her husband got me pregnant. I have no intention in keeping the baby. I dont want to destroy a marriage or have any emotional attachtment to either of them. I never fantazied in being apart of one but I only did it for fun since I am single. My point is be very careful because what if I did want to have the baby but I will never have a child with a married man. They are both people I know and plan to keep a friendship even after I decide I will not be joining there three somes any longer.

Answer 5

She may have said she's open to the idea just to satisfy your curiosity. No wife, in the right frame of mind, will allow to do a threesome, unless she DOESN'T love her husband anymore! You've been together for 25 years, why do you have to throw everything away? Your husband is probably looking for an easy way out, he may suggest who the other person would be (may turn out to be his other woman!) Don't give in, stick to your decision!

Answer 6

Darlin' my cousin and her husband did something similar, but it was swapping for both of them with another couple. If you want to throw 25 yrs. down the drain, then go right ahead. After a VERY long marriage, (possibly longer than 25) and 3 kids, he ended up filing for divorce and marrying the other woman he had swapped with.....you decide

Answer 7

I don't think he has been faithful for 25 yrs. any man who would ask for a three some at 50 has been doing that for a long time, maybe you should tell him you want a one some with some one else for good, how insulting of him to ask you such a thing.

Answer 8

Heck to the NO..... that's a great way to disrupt a 25 year marriage. I'd question why the sudden int rest OUTSIDE the marriage. It's already presented insecurities and questions now imagine playing it out, what the result would be.

Answer 9

She might have agreed at first because she wanted to make you (assuming that you're talking about your own marriage) happy. But it sounds like she thought about it, and now the idea makes her uncomfortable.

She probably wants to be the only woman who gets to be intimate with her husband...which is not an unfair thing for her to want.

You should respect her boundaries and not push the subject anymore.

Answer 10

No and how would you feel if your wife wanted such. Nothing will be the same afterwards. How does your wife feel about you even stating you want this. I bet you both internally would never admit the hurt behind the idea.