2007-06-23 04:17:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
humble yourself and apologize and just work it out--now some folks are just way touchy, and you can't help that, except be more sensitive around them--relationships are give and take...
2007-06-23 04:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by YedidNefesh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you are to this friend and how much you value and want to preserve the friendship. Just say you didn't mean to hurt their feelings. It happens to everyone. I'm sure this friend has done the same thing to someone else - though don't say that to this friend when you apologize. Tell this friend, I value your friendship and I truly did not mean to hurt you. If this friend values your friendship, he/she will get past this incident. The hardest thing for people to do is apologize but you will feel much better after you do even if it doesn't produce the results you want. It's also the right thing to do! If in the future, you end up walking on eggshells around this friend, it's time to find another friend. Friends' company are to be enjoyed, not feared.
2007-06-23 11:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are actually two answers to this question.
1)the friend is so sensitive that no matter what you say or do, you will end up feeling bad about it.
2)you are so pig-headed (and comfortable around that friend!) that anything comes out of your mouth comes without thought that that friend might be sensitive to what you say.
Try talking, but only at the right time. when in the course of a heart to heart, bring it up that "You are my friend and I love you, but why do you get mad at me so much???? You know how I am. If I hurt your feelings, I'm sorry" Hug-Hug.
If that doesn't work, in time you will find out that that friend is co-dependent and there's no way you can keep that friend from getting mad at you because that friend feed off that from you and everyone else that is in their life.
2007-06-23 11:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by cBop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had a friend who was offended often by things I said, I'd probably drop them as a friend. There's no point in hanging out with someone when you're constantly walking on eggshells--that's not fun for you, and it's not fun for them.
2007-06-23 11:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once I made a friend cry and I was not meaning to. I hurt her feelings by not understanding something she wanted me to do and it seemed I didn't want to when I did. As soon as I realized the impression she had and the impact of my thoughtlessness, I went to her and apologized, explained myself and made sure to pay better attention not to hurt her, and to her cues.
You can try to apologize maybe.
2007-06-23 11:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find yourself unintentionally offending friends you may need to allow yourself more time to think through what you are saying to them. There is tactful ways to say things to minimizes offense. Try to place yourself in their shoes and predict how they may respond to what you want to say. Modify what you say and how you say it to communicate with sensitivity.
2007-06-23 11:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some friends that are not so d@mn sensitive. Like me for instance. Nothing that comes out of your mouth could offend me. I'm not one of those weasels that reports abuse!
2007-06-23 11:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Miho Milosavich 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The easy answer is this: Think before you speak...Works for me! Good luck.
2007-06-23 11:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologise. Say you weren't thinking and you didn't mean it at all.
2007-06-23 11:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize over lunch, and move forward with your friendship
2007-06-23 11:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋