how can i make someone understand that whatever misfortune happens to them is their own faultt.....?

Question

my aunts believe that when something bad happens to them it is due to someone's jealousy of them, so they wear amulets and do rituals to keep jealous people away, so last week my aunt crashed her new car and she got really mad cuz she thinks that someone's envy had made it happen, how can i make her understand that it is her own fault and not someone else's? how can i help her understand that we are in control of most of the things that happens to us and not someone else? btw nobody has the superpower to cause harm to others using envy or jealousy....,but as much as i have tried to talk to her about it and help her understand,she still blames all her misfortunes on others

Answer 1

Their own fault, yeah, like Katrina and the tsunami and the 9/11 victims.

Your aunt, an older relative who remembers when you had to have your diaper changed, is never going to be persuaded by you that her view of the world is incorrect. Never, never. Save your breath.

Answer 2

haha. You have found the jewel and you dont knwo what it is.
through out the history of man kind there were only two extremes , Yin and the Yang, Positive and negative. If you know these things then you might have guessed that such a possibility also exists in Physolophy. this my dear friend is represented by the two powers of reason and faith . Mind you i am not representing any of them but laying down the facts.

Both of these are strong. Both of these are good.. But what is important is that you cant stand on both. Either believe in reason and follow everything with that or believe in your faith and forget reason. the dilema you face now is because you have opposite faiths. the best would be to be caring dan understanding to them. Dont force them to change what they believe in ,as you wont like it either. Who knows sometime down the line you may start believing in it too.

By the way, whatever **** i wrote about is just my idea, please dont follow it religiously :)

Answer 3

You are correct that an amulet to ward against evil will not protect the holder.

However, you are false in your belief that envious people lack power. Or that we have a majority of control over our lives.

Anyone with the desire to harm you for whatever reason in any fashion has the ability to do so regardless of how much care you put into making choices regarding your life.

Your assumption about control hinges on being aware of and defending against situations of which you are aware and have an ability to act.

Unfortunately, most everything you encounter in life that is purposely working against you is done without your knowledge.

For example, a jealous co-worker may not be openly envious of your new promotion but is silently working to undermine you in your new job and will eventually succeed in destroying your plans.

Even though you think you have it all worked out, life is going to take you to school. I hope you graduate.

Answer 4

Hi there
Unfortunately sometimes in life bad things can and will happen to us. It is often the case though that these unfortunate events are not caused through our own doing , such as accidents or just bad luck. However in your aunties case it appears to be that some the events that take place in her life possibly due to her being responsible she just simply wont take responsibility for. Unfortunately she tends to blame shifts in order to accept no responsibility herself. She needs to start being responsible for her actions in order to be more aware that her blaming everybody else in certain instances is only making her unreasonable and making herself repellent towards others. She also sounds like a very angry and unreasonable person, and by making positive change in her attitude will contribute to a more balanced and happier person. The best asset she has right now is you ! keep up your support. Good luck.

Answer 5

I have to disagree with your initial question, but in the details, no--someone cannot "will" you to have bad luck.
I've seen way way too many people do things right and live right, and thier life is completely changed by not faults of thier own ( layoffs, accidents, illness, fires,etc)
They key is not to blame, that doesn't get you anywhere. You have to do your best to accept the circumstances and move on.

Answer 6

you must try the following quotes:

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity........Luck is a loser's excuse to a winner's opportunity ......Luck is for the unprepared........Things never work out the way you want them to, but things always work out in the end!.....The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem. ......The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow.......Problems are only opportunities in work clothes.

Answer 7

But let me tell you frankly such people are beyond any repair, you try to explain things to you , they will think some evil spirit is making you to say so and they might consider you in the same category of bad omens and you will be party to their misfortune.

Just let it be where it is..

Answer 8

please don't try to change the way your aunt thinks. love her for the way she thinks. respect it; don't change it. i know it might sound silly to you, but do you want to remember her as someone who changed her whole way of thinking because you convinced her? or do you want to remember her as someone who was strong in her faith? just a thought. probably not what you wanted to hear...

Answer 9

What goes around comes around... karma...

Answer 10

.hallo. so you love me? even thou you have no idea how i am? i like the idea to be love by how nos