how do i stop blushing and truning red when being confronted by someone?

Question

i always blush, get nervous, turn extrememly red and become self concious when i am appoached by people..not just strangers but people i know. what can i do realisticlly so i can stop turning red and blushing when being confronted. i want to earn the respect from people because no one takes me seriously when i try to defend myself because my face is all red with embarrasment. what can i do relaistically to stop that? or i start playing with my belt or my pockets when i get nervous. how do i stop that?

Answer 1

As someone who also shares your problem of blushing easily, I can understand how it frustrates you. The good thing is that you are willing to work to change that.

It's really a hard thing to change, since it invloves not only a psychological aspect, but also a physical aspect (blushing occurs from increased blodd flow, which is a reaction to the anxiety you are feeling).

I find it helps to imagine yourself talking to people before you actually do, and think about what you could say, and thinkof answers you could give to common questions you may be asked. If you think out different situations, and realistically look at the best case and the worst case senario, you'll be better prepared to handle these sitiuations when they come your way.

Also, I'd like to mention the clinical side of it, since I do work in a mental heath ward at a hospital. If your anxiety and nervousness is to a point where you have trouble functioning, and you find that other methods do not work, you might want to do see a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist. They might diagnose you, most likely with Avoidant Personality Disorder from I read here, which is a realtively common problem that is characterized by avoiding occupational activities,
viewing oneself as socially inept, a preoccupation with being criticized or rejected , inhibited in new interpersonal situations, declining to get involved with people
embarrassment by engaging in new activities, and refraining from intimate relationships. They can prescribe medications to help your anxiety and that might be a good option for you if you feel that the problems are of a high severity.

Answer 2

You can achieve it. Its in your hand. All that is needed is just a positive look on your own self.

Imagine an elephant going on the road and if a dog barks at it, will it respond ? will it get feared? will it get nervous? will it get red?..... nothing will actually happen, in stead the elephant will go on with its job as usual and the dog also after barking some time will go away on its way. The elephant is quiet confident of its capacity and is also knowledful enough that dog barking is not going to effect it and is also wise to not waste its energy & time with petty issues.

Similarly its our confidence, knowledge, clarity, vision etc. which will make us respond for others talks and feelings.

In other words, its as if your mood is getting off whenever some one is blamming you... right? Then just ask a question to your own self that why should you give the 'switch' of your mood into the hands of others? It is because you are giving the switch of your mood into the hands of others, you are getting mood off or on whenever other wish. So the need is to keep the 'switch of your mood' with you only.

Also, if you go on responding to each and every sayings of others, then they will continue to play with you. Realise that 'hot reaction for every step of others' will still force you to get caught up in the spider web of fame and defame. .... Do you know that 10 % of the trouble is being faced due to the 'problem' itself and that 90 % of the 'trouble' is due to the way people react to those situations. So be wise to handle the situation but learn for not 'reacting'.

Most importantly, 'there is no smoke without fire'.... you need to work more upon you to be more worthy, valuable, hardworking, sincere, positive, well mannered, helping natured, sportif natured etc. When you are enriched within you, you can certainly win the hearts of others as well as you can become more satisfactory with your own self.

Create an image of your own as very good, very peaceful, very matured, well behaved and talk to your own self that you are not going to react for any further situations for the reason that they donot be helpful in any way.

Be away for bad friends, bad issues, bad movies etc. because all these will pollute your mind and will force you into an pseudo illusionary falsy world.

Try practising Meditation for overall upliftment

... All the best and be an example of transformation

Answer 3

Don't listen to the person who said to get surgery.

It's not that bad. I think you should be proud of who you are, quirks and all.

Some people have it much worse... ever heard the phrase "scared ****less"? It means you poop when you get scared! So that's a more serious problem.

Don't worry. If you reeeeeeally care about it, wear blush so no one can tell.

Answer 4

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/Etrze

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 5

Just accept that you blush, and go on with everything else. If you want more help, chapter 9 of this book talks about blushing: "Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming your Fear"

Answer 6

You have generalized social anxiety disorder, much like i have except it's ONLY strangers that i can't warm up too... people i know (such as family) i have no problem with. Now, it's all about confidence..i think there is something you and i both don't like about ourselves that makes us self-conscious or something.. i dunno..i'm tryna get over this myself. good luck!

Answer 7

I think you have Social Anxiety Disorder. That's what I have, and believe me it does suck. Do some research on it and see if your symptoms match up, and also talk to your doctor or a therapist about it.

Answer 8

you need more confidence, try concentrating on the conversation, maybe pretend its one of your best mates or anyone you feel comfortable around. try and relax, keep breathing relax your shoulders and take a neutral stance. try finding a few places to keep your hand like crossed or clasped in front of you.
practice doing this naturally, try talking in front of your mirror.
I would recommend taking some sort of martial art like TKD or jujitsu as these will help with confidence.
keep trying and just try to get past it - maybe try to set a goal of talking to someone every day. hopefully with practice you can grow out of it! good luck

Answer 9

I don't think you can.
Your cheeks go automatically pink.
You can try thinking "no blushing" in the brain, but I don't think it'll work.
Or perhaps, work on your confidence.
Hope that helped.

Answer 10

just say i m the best i have the confident to tolrate my prob nd i can do it 10time wen u get blushed or nurvous
this will suerly help u
or
just get off