My boyfreind has a history of cheating.
He just got back from 2-week work trip. He worked yesterday and gets off between 3-5pm. I got off work at 6:00 and he still wasn't home. I called his cell phone and it was off. He didn't say he planned on going anywhere.
I drove by his ex-wife and his house (still in his name) and both of their cars were there. He finally showed up around 8:45pm. I showed up after him and was immediately upset with him. I told him I drove by and the grass looked mowed (he insists on doing it), and he had no reason to be over there since their daughter is on vacation with friends. He claims it wasn't mowed, said he had to get rid of bugs, spray the yard and repair some damage to the house. He also said he has to take care of the house and has to go back this morning to mow.
He said I have no right to be mad and my actions were like "fatal attraction". He then asked if I wanted to go out for ice cream.
2007-06-22 23:38:28 · 10 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing that is psycho is YOU staying with someone who has a history of cheating? You can't find anything better than a cheater? Are you ugly or something? Are you addicted to drama? What's wrong with you?
2007-06-23 02:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i find it odd that his ex wife felt the urge to ask him to mow the lawn they may have made that excuse/reason maybe his exwife kept ringing him on the work trip and asked him to come other
they still have feelings for each other no it nessceraily love but something and if they do it does not mean they were having sex,
and you do have a right to be upset but not mad because that might push him away further
however he has no right to mock you if someone mocks you it can signal insecurity what was his body language like when he said? was he really worried about it damaging you relationship or was it nervous anger?
if he is only friends then one would think he would be nice to you when she came up in conversation if he gets defensive watch out.being friends with exes is fine but not if he does it like this!
i guess you could ask how about i meet you there and i won't follow your every step and see how he reacts that bshould give some indication
thats all i can say i've never been married!
hope i helped
2007-06-23 01:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...his cell phone was off, the grass wasn't mowed and he said he had to get rid of bugs. Might those have been bed bugs he was pounding out of the mattress?
Seriously, the kid is gone on vacation and he went over there. That sounds fishy to me too. If that had been me and I saw his car there I would have gone up and knocked on the door. Shouldn't be a problem since you are his girl now and she is his ex. Do that enough times and he might stop going over there.
2007-06-23 01:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on and find someone else who you can trust and who will respect and trust you. As you have already stated, he has a history of cheating therefore he is likely to continue down this path for some time. He really has no right being at his ex's place, nor mowing her lawn and your quite in your right at being angry with him. I never had my ex turning up to mow my lawn, I had to do it myself along with working a 5 day week. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-23 00:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you sound psycho. I think it is great that he still takes care of his house the house that his daughter lives in and if he were the landlord and someone other than his ex lived there he would still have to do it. He is right you have no right to be mad and if you drove by stalking him anyway why didn't you just stop and see for yourself what he was doing and when he would be home.
2007-06-23 01:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has no business going to his ex-wife's place at all. She needs to either hire a kid to mow her lawn or do it herself. You have a right to be angry. But why are you still with him if he has a "history" of cheating???? You're to blame as much as he is because you're the one who has established an unspoken rule that he can do whatever he wants to and it's okay.
2007-06-22 23:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar. He even tried to convince you that you were the one with the problem with the "fatal attraction" line. Find a man that treats you right. They are out there. To find him, you first need to learn how to be honest with yourself.
2007-06-22 23:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. You have serious trust issues with your boyfriend, when you say he has a history of cheating, was he still married when you started seing him? or has he cheated on you? Need more information
2007-06-22 23:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if him and his ex are civil so what, insecure women and accusations are big reasons why men cheat- hes right what is he in a timer? if he hasnt cheated on you then let it go, if you dont trust him to annoy you or yourself and break up with him.
2007-06-22 23:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you're still going with him...SAD...really SAD....
2007-06-22 23:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋