our daughter has lived with the grandmother for her whole life of 7 months.
Can she challenge us having our own daughter, if we go steal her?
I have antisocial personality, have 2 domestic batteries against my wife, and have cut my wife with a knife.
My wife is extremeley unstable mentally, much more than me.
My wife and I plan to just make another baby, if she succeeds in getting custody of our first born--and then would it be possible for her to seize the second kid too??? What about the 3rd? Is there a limit? Will it just keep going around in circles.
2007-06-22 21:44:12 · 17 answers · asked by Voltaire's book Candide 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is doing what she is suppose to do she is loving her grand daughter and keeping out of harms way. You to do not sound lkie you are ready to care for children much less a seven month old baby. I'm not trying to cut you down or say that you are bad parents because I dont know thats the case but I know from personally experiance that sometimes it hurts a child more to see Daddy hurting Mommy than if you hurt your daughter. If your daughter has been with her grandmother her whole life than taking her away would hurt her alot. You would be taking away every thing she knows, her whole world. You dont want to hurt her do you. If you love your daughter than go parenting classes, anger managment classes and see a doctor about your mental issues. You need to prove that you are trying and that your little girl has a safe haven with you. It sounds like it's best for her to stay with the granma right now because you need to get your life straightened out. See if you can have some supervised visitation with her start ther get to know her. If you go steal her you can get in trouble and it is possible that she can take your other children if you are still unfit parents when you have them. Do the right thing by your daughter let her keep her stability that is one of the most important things to a child.
2007-06-22 22:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by nynerprincess 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously asking this question? I know that parents rights come first before granparents, but given yours and your wifes backround, the judge may see things differently. You and your wife sound like two people who SHOULD NOT have children at all period! I hate to say that, but you two have issues! Stop reproducing! Grandma obviously has this child for a reason. You couldn't even take care of that one, and now you're talking about "making" another baby???? Do you know how CRAZY that sounds? You and your wife need to take care of your own mental issues before dragging a poor innocent baby into this world. Don't do that, it's unfair and it's just plain ignorant. Why in the hell would you want your mentally unstable wife to have another baby??? Can you see the ignorance in all this? Children deserve parents who are stable, secure, and NORMAL! You two have none of these qualities. Give up on children and take care of your own BS first. How is a child going to make your life better? More importantly,,,why would you want another child? To have something to call your own? You obviously can't provide a child with the necessary and positive atmosphere it will need, because if that were so, baby #1 would be with you and not with grandma.
2007-06-22 21:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No court in their right mind would allow people like you and your wife to keep a child. The first time you hurt one, you will be passed around the cell block and finish with an a** as wide as the Grand Canyon. You are dangerous to those around you and if your wife is worse then you don't need children. If you steal the child, you will end up in prison. As for continuing producing babies, I hope the grandmother has the finances and the B*lls to keep taking them away.
This comes from a proud father of 3!!! And if the grandmother needs help taking them away from you, just let her read this and email me. I have a few ex-Army buddies that would just love to meet you!!!
2007-06-22 21:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife have extremely important issues to deal with so that the both of you can care properly for yourselves in the future. I assume CPS was involved in the removal of the child from you and your wife's care. So yes, your mother-in-law can challenge you in court. If your mother-in-law is a good person and is taking good care of your daughter, for Gods sakes, be thankful. Also, she is a blood-relative to your daughter. Don't let your child get lost in the system/foster care because of bad decisions. Stop the bad decisions now.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-22 22:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents have what you call grandparents rights to your children. If you do take the child she can take you to court and gain custody to see her grandchild. If you and your wife are as unstable as im thinking you are by reading your story you need to go therapy and worry later about trying to get back your child. Neither you nor your wife are ready for any more kids because if you were able to take care of the one you have now you wouldnt have left the kid with grandma. All she has to do is provide evidence that your unfit and have your child stripped away.
2007-06-22 21:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by meka g 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This has to stop now. The grandmother is the grandmother; NOT the mother. Your mother-in-law is certainly welcome to help raise the baby and spend time with it, but you are the parents and need to take the responsibility from her. Your wife might be mentally unstable, but as long as she is getting professional help to keep her balanced, then there is no excuse for her not to be the mother she should be. If your wife's psychologist thinks that it is in the best interests to have the grandmother raise your child, then I defer to their expertise. As for making another child, think about this more carefully. You seem unready to be parents for the one child you do have. What makes you think you are ready to take on the responsibilities now?
2016-05-18 01:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can take her to court, but from what u've said, she would have a more than amazing case against you. talk to a lawyer before stealing ur child. making another one won't make ur 7 month old daughter any less urs. the lawyer will let u know what u can do. maybe therapy...like a sign of u changing. that may show a judge that u r fit to be a parent.
2007-06-22 21:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by ignitedsnowflake 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you are so selfish, that you want to bring another child into this mess. Stop thinking of yourself for a change and think of whats best for your daughter, because from what I've read here, You shouldn't be raising a dog!
2007-06-23 18:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by mysongsrhis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i fight you all the way , you have serios issues , and its not far on the children and if you decide to have another child social services can take the child from you when the child is born , sort your selves out first , get proper help anf then you might be able to enjoy being a family
2007-06-22 22:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by sprookey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this question a joke? It really isn't funny.This is scary.Don't bring children into this kind of life.And yes,unless the judge is a moron,the child's grandmother would most likely get custody.
2007-06-22 21:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Kelley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋