My husband has just left me?

Question

i'm really extremly sad with this huge horrible knot in my stomach.He said we just need a couple days apart but im really scared he's not going to come back and im really scared.I really love him very much but my friend says i should just give him his space since we've been arguing all the time over petty stuff,Half of me feels ok but the other half wants to fight to call him and get him back...ithought it was my pride but i begged him to stay to work it out but said just give me this and i'll be back.But deep down inside in the fond of my gut i have a weird feeling that this is it.Should I have hope and wait to see what happens or should I just start getting it in my head that he's not going to come back?

Answer 1

Too much of assumptions and negativethinking may not help
Relax

Relax

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R E L A X

Now wait and watch do not contemplate
cross the bridge when it comes.
Till then
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Chillax would be better
Cheer Up!

Answer 2

I swear I don't normally leave comments like this, but I just have to be blunt and honest.

You should have thought about this before you were nagging and b*tching him out everyday. You sat there and badgered him to a point that he left you. Then to ad insult to injury, you didn't even have any dignity about yourself, that you BEGGED him to stay. Personally you sound like a complete nut job, and you should seek some counseling.

Is he coming back? Well I have no idea, but I can tell you this if your gut is really telling you that he's gone, then more often than not it's true.

All I can say is, suck it up and don't make this situation any worst. You f-ed up. Nobody is going to continue to sit around and be unhappy and their own home.

Let him be, don't call or try to contact him anymore for at least week. If he's not back by a week then he's not coming back and I guess you should probably be talking to an attorney.

Sorry for being so direct, but this is my feelings on the matter.

Answer 3

You know your husband. You also know your relationship. You have a knot in your stomach now he has gone, which implies you love him and don't want him to go.

So why the petty arguments? If you were really happy with him, why were you arguing all the time? That's not a happy healthy marriage. Petty arguments are a sign of a much deeper problem.

Wait and see on this one. Chances are you need as much time to think as he does. Think about what has stopped working in this relationship and why. Then decide if you want to put it right. Hopefully he will be doing the same wherever he is, and he will come back to talk it through.

Answer 4

Maybe its all he needs is time alone to think..
You should be doing the same..
Hopefully both of you thinking how to improve your situation, be it by seeking outside help.. such as a counselor... etc..
Or agree to meet and talk things over.. make a real effort on both your parts to agree to disagree but never to let it get into a full blown fight..
You say you love him.. If he also loves you ..
Trust he will be back.. cooled off and so should you be..
I would not call him or try to reach him in anyway .. at least not for the few days he asked you to give him..
Where there is a will there is a way..
Hopefully you will both realize just what got you both together and realize that this marriage is worth saving..
Time will tell... Just please don't go making yourself sick..
Its not over till its over..
While he is gone why not start writing down just what it is that sparks these arguments and ways to deal with them..
Do some positive things for yourself... and keep busy..
Best of luck to you... BOTH

Answer 5

Weather he comes back or not you just need to give yourself time to heal from it all. Right now is to soon to decide if he will come back or he won't . He probably doesn't know either. You know soon enough what will happen but for now just think of it as a vacation from each other and try to figured out what you could do to make things better if he does return. And what was your arguments over anyway. Did anything good come out of them or was it stupid and petty enough that you could have let it go.

Answer 6

When you were having these fights did he ever storm out of the house for a few hours or most of the night? If the answer is yes he has someone else and has moved on. Some men are so chicken sheet they act like a child with their hand in the cookie jar. They selfishly avoid seeing your betrayed face and getting that scolding mommy always gave won't happen. No scolding...no wrong doing.

Answer 7

You know what me and my husband have the same problem and He does that sometime well let me rephrase that he has left twice. You see we fight over lil things really over nothing. Just give him some space i know it hurts when he left but he will come back. if he really truly Love's you he will come back. But you know what if he thinks he can leave and be gone for a long time and does that every time he gets mad at you. Then you deserve better. I know what your going threw and at anytime you need to talk im here for you if you like you can Im me at [e-mail]

Answer 8

Don't give up hope just yet. He may simply need some space and time to think. But, don't completely dismiss that gut feeling either. While he's gone, you need to evaluate the relationship yourself. Don't just sit around worrying about his thoughts. You need to sort out for yourself if you want to make this work. Take this time to work out your own feelings and what you want from this marriage.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

You don't have any choice...you can not force him to come back. The feeling you have is 100% normal. Just be supportive and pray he will be ok with a few weeks of time off! Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 10

Too soon to tell and not enough information. You know him better than we do. Either way, you might need a good lawyer. With what you have said, loving him might not be enough to keep him. Be patient and call an attorney Monday morning just in case.