How do I bring her back?Despite my best efforts to educate her about not dating a black guy, she betrays me. Maybe I should just threaten to disown her. It's not something I want to restort to though. What do you think?
2007-06-22 20:25:46 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off, you need to address your own racist issues.
Anyone your daughter dates should be judged on his own personal merits. Is he kind and considerate to her? Does he treat her, and her family with respect? If you say yes to those two questions, then you really should give the guy a fair chance, even if he's puple with green stripes. One other question, if it was a son of yours dating a black girl, would you still have this issue?
2007-06-22 20:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I cant believe for the life of me why ANYONE on this board would respond to this in a serious manner. Racism is alive and well and we wont see it eradicated in our lifetime. We just have to teach our children better. People who think like this always have children who date ouside their race. If they dont do it openly then believe me they are doing it secretly. Its just the way the world is moving at this time. Hip Hop dominates the world and thats a fact and that will not be changing anytime soon. So accept it and stop making silly comments for IT IS WHAT IT IS. The world is changing and there is NOTHING that can be done about it. You just have to sit back and make angry comments about it because thats all that can be done. The world is mixing just like it was when it all started in the mother land of AFRICA. Have you forgotten scientists have proven thats where the ORIGINAL man has come from? Of course you have. Africa is black so in actuality your daughter is only going back to her roots as well as your sons. So leave it be for its going to be whether you like it or not. When your dead and gone your children will still be mixing it up with black people and other races. Stop fighting a losing battle.
2007-06-23 04:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by My Business 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your being really racist. What has a black guy ever done to you? You should be more understanding. If the guyy is a jerk, hes a jerk, But you sound like some guy who lived before Martin Luther King Jr. Thats mean to be all bitchy at ur daughter cuz shes dating a black guy. Let her. Just cuz there skin is different form yours doesnt mean anything.
2007-06-23 04:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im am a black person. TTo say that is very insulting to a black person. You are being very racism. Some things that you hear about blacks are stereotypes. you should not judge nobody by their color of their skin but whats inside. Who knows the African-American who she is dating could be sweet and educated. I think what you hear about blacks is stereo types. Many black people in this world did good things like martin luther king, magic johnson, Will smith.
There are many sucessful black that did all lot of things in this world. I can name thousands.
There are stereotypes about white people like all white people drink beer and are wild like throwing beer on them selves. You can not believe that, dont believe everthing you here. people in this world world never get know each other if they let race and stuff get in between them. Think how the black boy feel about you judging him bout his skin color and not even giving him one chance. You need to learn how to see other people side of the story and bee in there side.
You saying mean things about him. I am black i find this insulting to my race. I would not throw my daughter out of my house cause she dating a black person or any race.
Give your daughter a time to explain. Your daughter is not racism, you are and that your problem. Dont let racism become a reason why she cant get to know people.
I hope she continue to date him. i date a whit guy before
and were still together. It is no different than dating my own race. I find white guys attractive and cute. It based on how there are on the inside. NIce personality , nice, kind and stuff.
Everyone make mistakes not only black people. Black people are not. Everyone make their own dicisions about what they want to do.
I am sppeaking on this because of that. if you still dont like a black person that your chioce but i love being black. I respect my race. After all they have done to get us here were are and for me to get an education. Thats why i always take my education seriously. Not beacuse i have to as a person i want to better for myself. Those people got a right to say stuff about you. i always see you on here about racism stuff.
I hope this help.
2007-06-23 04:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sir,
As a parent reading this bigoted distorted appalling thoughts of yours on this board. I feel sorry for your daughter having a close minded father in her life. Life is too short to waste false stereotypical garbage about others regardless of their race and culture. To judge someone on the basis of the colour of their skin and not on character says a lot about you as a person. I always found interesting children whom were brought up in households listening to this trash, in the end many times end up with a person of another race. I believe one grows up and realizes there is more to life then promoting hate rd of other culture. I would never throw out my daughter for this reason. She is my blood and a gift from God. Sir , you have a right to share your thoughts, horrible and racist as they are, but in the end you will lose your daughter's respect . If you haven't already. It saddens me to read and know my family and friends are fighting in the military for you can have the privilege of freedom of speech here in America. Many are beautiful people of colour like me. What good have you done ,lately?
Serina
2007-06-23 04:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by serina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness she has learned better than your racist ways....
Your daughter is growing up in a world where most of us are trying very hard to do away with bigotted views and create harmony......
I am a white woman who lived with a black man for many years I have two gorgeous bi-racial children who are respected and have many friends within both the black and white communities.....
You will drive your daughter away with this red-neck attitude, have you ever though to ask yourself why you have these racist views?
Would you prefer she ended up with a white man who was a total pig? There are many white men out there not worth your daughters time, and many black men who would treat her with the respect she deserves.
I have been in relationships with both black and white men and neither had the monopoly on being good kind giving men who would work hard to look after their partners, work hard to provide them with a decent home and Ive also seen men of every race and creed who are total jerks who care for nothing but themselves and their own selfish desires.
Wake up mate, your daughter is lucky to have found love....give the guy a break and get to know him...you might be surprised.
2007-06-23 03:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
my jaw dropped when i read this...
do you think that disowning her because she is dating outside your race is your BEST solution to what you see as a problem?
your love for your daughter doesn't go beyond a color?
really think about what you are putting out here.
i have not read the other messages but can only imagine the things people are saying to you lol
have you given this guy a chance? have you TRIED to get to know him?
have you thought about how horrrible your daughter feels inside because she can't share her happiness with you because of a color?
i was raised in texas and believe me i see my fair share of racism here.. my uncle is in your "circumstance" and she ended up having that man's baby.
he loves his daughter and grandaughter but my o my the humiliation he felt.. it was crazy. none of us cared of the man's color!
since, my uncle has a totally different view and now is friends with her now husband.
i really hope you stare long and hard into your future. imagine it without your daughter. place a threat of disowning her and watch her heart break and let that rest with you at night when you try to sleep. you are here to protect and love her.. not tear her to pieces.
best of luck!
2007-06-23 04:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this is an actual situation (and I have my doubts) I'd say you set yourself up for this situation. It's normal for children to rebel against their parents, that's how they seperate from the family and become independent.
By beating her verbally with your bigoted, narrow minded attitudes you taught her exactly how to get back at you. At the rate you're going, eventually she'll disown you and you'll deserve it.
I wish her every happiness and she'll have it as long as she stays away from you.
2007-06-23 05:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by twobeinmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come so many racist people on here always have a daughter thats with a black guy, ever thought there might be something GOOD about them?
2007-06-23 06:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Omar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobodys gonna be on your sid e dumbo youre the only racist around here. Your a disgrace and i praise your daughter for going off with a black guy. So if i were u i would just shutup your bigmouth because nobodys gonna be on your side .
2007-06-23 11:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by gill 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋