Recently, I think I am addicted to the pornography???

Question

I'm 18 years old male
and recently I have this strong sexual urges.
I go to porn websites almost everyday.
Is pornography bad?

and most importantly, Is it going to affect loving relationship later on? how?

Answer 1

yea i read what the first guy said... and i like how he was already set with the "dont listen to the feminists or christians"

ok. im both female and christian. but honestly-- what i wanna say is that your sexual desires are very natural of course... bc God made you with a sex drive.

sex is not bad. any christian or whoever that tells you it is is wrong bc hello-- God created it Himself to make sure the world would be populated and take it's course.

the main prob with porn though is that it is very addicting. and it never stops. the problem is that you're satisfying the drive w/in you w/ something artificial.

it is addicting b/c you're trying to satisfy lust. but the more you give in the more you'll want.

it's pretty much gonna be a temptation that hurts you and the person you'll end up with. even if "she's ok with it or she understands" >> she'll pretty much feel the need to compete. or feel like.. 'im not enough'

haha sorry. i know youre still young. im just saying-- whether youre a christian or not... i think you should try to fight the urge every step of the way to save yourself from a future of being tied down by lust

Answer 2

Most of the time it's probably better to avoid porn sites, especially if you worry about them.

If you are accessing porn from a work computer that could get you fired, or possibly prosecuted.

But a lot depends on what kind of porn you are accessing. If it is sadistic, masochistic, or involves children that is extremely bad. Porn involving adults that is just sexually explicit is probably relatively harmless. But a lot depends on you and how you perceive this kind of subject matter.

If porn interferes with your ability to relate to females you shouldn't view porn. If you fear addiction you should avoid it.

The way it would interfere with your ability to have a loving relationship would be if the way you fantasize about sex (and most people do fantasize to some degree) takes the place of the real thing. This would be very unusual. If you meet a girl you like you will probably lose interest in porn rather quickly.

Strong sexual urges are quite normal. However, if you are drawn to unusual or kinky sex--perhaps bestiality or bondage or other fringe behavior--you would need to seek help.

My best advice would be to give the porn a serious rest. You are worried about it, and that is reason enough. Don't worry about sexual urges. At 18 they are quite normal.

Answer 3

Don't worry about it man.

I'm 23 and I've had some times in my life where I want to look at porn a lot (and did look at it a lot), and other times gone weeks or months without feeling the need to. It just goes in phases.

Don't let anyone try to make you feel bad about it. It's your own business!

Now I'm married (have been for 2.5 years) and occasionally look at porn and whether I do or not it doesn't affect my love for my wife, or my physical performance one way or the other.

Also don't let feminists or Christians on here tell you it's exploitative to women. These women get paid well to do a fun job, and that's why they choose to do this for their career. It's condescending to say they don't really want to be doing it.

Also, porn doesn't objectify women, people do. If you objectify a woman just because you see her in porn, what would stop you from objectifying all women you see? I see every woman, both in porn and in real life, as an interesting and beautiful human, and not as a body to be used for pleasure. Anyone who sees her as an object, that's their problem, not the porn.

Answer 4

Yes, pornography is addictive, and it can have a negative effect on healthy relationships. It is pervasive, and there is a lot of pressure to view pornography. It can, in fact, replace healthy sexual relationships. Using it can cause shame that is destructive as well.
At your age you will have strong hormonal surges, so pornography is appealing, but it's like the old potato chip commercial, "bet you can't eat just one!" Resist, you'll be glad you did after you start seeing the trouble it causes others.

Answer 5

You might be addicted. My best guy friend admitted that he was, but he was already talking to a counselor about it. I dont 'think it will affect your relationships unless you LET it take over your life. AAAnd the girl you want to marry [[if you ever want to get married]] may not want you to look at porn..and then you'd just have her..

Answer 6

I don"t think watching Porn is bad as long as it doesn"t affect your relation ship........... ! Just watch it for your joy but don"t take it seriously and don"t implement all those at your Partner.........!

Regards

Answer 7

If you think you are, you are.
Pornography is bad in that it objectifies women

Answer 8

Get rid of your computer.