2007-06-22 19:43:51 · 35 answers · asked by frerevivian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These are one of the reasons why I never want to get married in the first place. As soon as you're married, that's it! No cheating should be allowed.
Of course, I had an affair with a married man once, but it was my own damn fault! Got burned to a crisp experience it and I'm still paying the price for no closure.
2007-06-22 19:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I really feel bad for you. What a terrible thing to happen. I hate to say this because I know you have already forgiven your husband and I'm sure you are really trying hard, but you might have to accept that you will never get over this. Its always going to be there eating away at you. That's why trust is so important in a relationship. This must be a terrible burden on you to carry around every day. I suggest marriage counselling and if that fails and you still can't seem to get it out of your head you might have to end the marriage. None of this is your failure, you didn't cheat and very few people can forgive this type of betrayal. Don't beat yourself up you have done the best you can. Hope things work out for you. Good luck.
2016-05-18 01:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by geralyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! Since when "has two wrongs made a right"?
Now deciding YOU aren't going to live with him any more, and that you want a divorce, did you know that is the only grounds in the Bible for a divorce? IF you go out and do the same thing he is doing, then you are as bad as he is! You are lowering yourself down to his level, a very childish game, needless to say! If you can't live with him, and you know beyond a shadow of a doubt, then leave! However, you can also choose to forgive him, and hope he changes his ways, But these are decisions you have to make yourself. All the advice we can give you is just opinions, the bottom line "what are you going to do, that is mature and reasonable?
2007-06-22 19:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
overall no if it is a one off and you truly believe it wont happen again.
But i do think its possibly best to have a trial seperation somethings not right before the guy has cheated and then that way you will BOTH know if the relationship can be saved. When he cheated he wasnt thinking of his wife so he too needs to access if he really wants to be in the relationship. Possibly during the seperation the woman could see another guy, and then psycologically she will know if her feelings for her husband are strong enough to keep the relationship going. I dont believe doing it for the sake of doing it is right. But theres no point in keeping a marriage going for the sake of it you both have to want to be there and sometimes space is the key
2007-06-22 19:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Emma M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Self respect would keep a wife from doing that. Divorce would be the good thing to do. Remember the saying what goes around comes around ten times foe. He might be here asking almost the same question some day.
2007-06-22 19:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No cause then it only perpetuates the lack of trust in the relationship. The woman in the relationship has 2 options.
1) Forgive him and get them both into some kind of counseling.
2) Break up with him quickly.
Either way both partners should look honestly at themselves to see if there is an underlying reason as to why this happened. Not to look for blame per se but to look for something that they can change that would help the situation not to happen again.
2007-06-22 19:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by cfmanj 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, that just adds more poison to the relationship. If she's going to stay with the guy, she has to genuinely forgive him and move on. If she has a revenge fling, or constantly beats him down for the past transgression, they will have a very painful marriage, followed by a messy divorce.
2007-06-22 20:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you devalue yourself by sleeping for someone just for the sake of doing so. To be blunt, you'd be prostituting yourself all based on short term revenge that in the end, won't make you feel any better anyway. You should be with someone because you truly want to be, not out of some idea of hurting him. It may be easy to say "take the high road", but don't throw yourself into the gutter for him just because he lives there out of some short term need to "get even".
2007-06-22 19:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did that. You may feel better, and it raises self - esteem, and you have some good times, experiences that you wouldn't have had otherwise. But...if you take the further step and leave him because of his infidelity ... you may miss him.
Be sure you don't mind leaving him if you start on that path...
2007-06-22 21:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! But do go and get tested for STD's as soon as possible.
Besides if hubby is cheating - he does not care what you are doing with your time. Be smart use your time to hire a private detective to get the proof and a lawyer to get the $$$settlement.
Then invest in yourself.
2007-06-22 19:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋