Yes.. when you're single its all about racking up the sex partners it seems. Then when you're married, you're supposed to magically not want anybody else. What a load.
So tell me something; why is premarital sex RIGHT but extramarital relations WRONG?
In other words..when you're single...you don't have morals and sleep with as many people as you want. Then when you get married, you all of a sudden gain a sense of right and wrong?
This makes no sense to me.
2007-06-22 19:24:13 · 16 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not even comparing the the same thing.
Defining premarital sex as promiscuity is off base.
Premarital sex with a partner whom you are in a loving relationship is accepted because many people think that compatibility (sexual compatibility) is an important facet of a relationship. Bottom Line. It is.
Whether one is engaged in premarital sex or has multiple partners while single, that is their choice and when a commitment is made, that is what changes. When one married (excepting alternative lifestyle marriages as choice of those involved in those activities), one commits monogamously to one person and therefore "extra marital relationships" are considered wrong.
Try making sure you're comparing the same things before you generalize and combine multiple considerations as a single activity and skew your opinion based on not looking at the situation logically.
2007-06-22 19:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with premarital sex. Both spouses need not be virgins when they marry, but they do need to be honest about their sexual pasts and not hide anything. Extramarital affairs are wrong, but I'm hardly in a position to make a judgement because I've also done this and suffered the consequences . These things happen all over the world, not just in India. As India becomes more modern these things will continue to happen more and more frequently.
2016-04-01 00:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone in society thinks premarital sex is right and that you can screw whoever you want. I had sex before marriage but certainly not with anyone and everyone. As for having sex with other people than the one you married is very wrong. You vowed that you would love them forever. And while sex can have nothing to do with love, when you're in a marriage and truly love somebody why on earth would you want anyone else? You don't gain any more of a sense of right and wrong, you are just completely and totally satisfied.
2007-06-22 19:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One premarital sex is wrong and so is extramarital sex. Both are wrong and that is the problem with America's society instead voicing and rectifying all wrongs they ignore some and pay close attention to the others. I believe and am a firm believer that if a person is promiscuous before marriage they will continue to do so after. A wedding ring does not stop anyone from the sexual encounters that they wish to have. I think if you are in a relationship it should stay between those two the same as in marriage. That is how diseases are accumulating and HIV is becoming more common in America. Promiscuity and being dishonest can get you in more trouble than people realize.
2007-06-22 19:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is amazing to me how great your English has become over the last few months!!! I guess the reason to get married is because you want to be with that person for life. You are making a vow in front of God that you will be faithful. You go into the marriage wanting to be faithful and do the right thing. Next thing you know, you have been married for 10 years. Things get boring and all of a sudden some young guy you work with invites you into his office and closes the door. You want to walk out and you know you should yet you cannot for some reason. Next thing you know, he has you pushed against the wall, kissing you like you have not been kissed in years. Then things happen that shouldn't. Not like that happened to me. I am just saying it could happen.
2007-06-22 19:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OTFLMAO... I've read enough of your postings tonight to see that you are frustrated about wanting validation for having an extramarital "fling" and not recieving it... Hun, many people do so even when they know it's wrong... you know it's wrong, but from the 4 postings I've read tonight about your desires, I know it's clear you want someone to say "go for it." LOL... I also know you are frustrated about your wife's former partners prior to your marriage... I think maybe you are resenting not having had as many partners as her before your marriage.... have you talked about this with your wife? Do you not recieve satisfaction from her? If not, then why stay married? That's why there is "single" and "married" - so do you want to be "single" or married? They don't have sarried or mingled? You have to choose one or the other... Is it your wife or someone else? That's the choice.
2007-06-22 19:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because by choosing to get married it means that you are selecting one girl/guy to be your life-partner & are making a public/legal/emotional/religious commitment to them. When you are single it is slightly more acceptable to date a few people at once, but it is pretty much still looked down upon. Dating is not considered to be as serious.
I think that you're painting the picture pretty broadly. If anything I would say that there is more of a bias on male & female sexuality. A man can have multiple sex partners & be considered great, while a woman would be considered a whore.
2007-06-22 19:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, society is a bit screwed up! I do not think you should just go out and have premarital sex all over the place but you certainly should not have extramarital affairs. When you get married you take a vow to be true to your spouse. If someone feels they cannot be with only one person, their spouse, they should not get married.
2007-06-22 19:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Both are wrong, but society has decided that premarital sex is okay. I waited until I got married to have sex. So did my husband. And we're teaching our kids the same thing, because you are right, it is sort of a double standard. You just can't turn off the switch once you get married, vows or not.
2007-06-22 19:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are so right in your confusion. This confusion exists because most doesn't live by the Bible. They only take from the Bible what they want to hear. The Bible says sex before marriage is just as wrong as sex without your mate after you are married. There are examples in the Bible of adultery and fornication happening in the Bible, but they don't have a good outcome. King David was one of them. Also Sodom and Gormorrah. My point is, sex before marriage is just as wrong as sex with someone other then your mate after marriage according to the Bible.
2007-06-22 19:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋