Wats going on??? Please help me.?

Question

Ive been married 3 yrs. We do fight because I suspect him of lying. Lately Ive been secretly chking his txt msgs.
Very friendly msgs frm a 'man'. Tone made me suspicious so I calld the nmbr and found out it's a woman. No hanky-panky, just too-friendly and unnecessary msgs frm her. His replies r pretty straighforward. Why is her nmbr stored under a man's name?
The past month, the msgs have bn getting more frequent. She asks 2 meet him at least 2ice a wk at nite and he always agrees. She meets him when he's out 4 football with his friends, or 2 go clubbing on Friday nites. He nvr mentions her. If I didnt chk his phone I wldnt even know abt it.
He got a late-night msg and laughed when he read it. when I asked he said it was his football buddy. The nxt morn when I checked there was no msg - he'd deleted it. Ltr that morn he msged her to say sorry he cldnt answr her the nite before.

2 nites ago he told me he wld be back late on Friday nite cos of a friend's farewell party. Chked his fone - he had msged the guy to say he had something on and cldnt make it. Also found a msg from her telling him, see you on friday nite - will sms you the location later. So he outrite lied to me. I cldnt take it - I hired a PI to follow him. Cldnt track his location so i had to keep calling him and pretended to argur over the fone with him to stall for time. Eventually the PI managed to locate him back at his office and reported to me that - the girl came to pick him up in a cab, went with him to a pub, met 4 people there, then half an hour later she left and he left separately 10 minutes later to return to his office. While my PI was talking to me, he called me from his office, told me my arguing had runied his mood so he just stayed in his office and didnt go anywhere at all. PI says that my husband and the woman behaved aprpriately - no touching etc.
Wats with all the lies? WHY?

Answer 1

Have you ever heard of cheating??????

Answer 2

Your man is cheating. You already know it. Time for a divorce. Don't put up with that. He is totally disrespecting you. You can get half of everything and maybe alimony. He isn't worth it. Don't get caught up in your feelings for him. He hasn't been trustworthy and he probably never will be. Confront him with all the info you have, he will deny it and then you will divorce him. Thankfully, you have only wasted 3 years on him. Better to find out now that he is a lying cheating dog, then to find out several years down the road with 2 or 3 kids or more to deal with the whole mess. There is nothing wrong with checking his phone or his email or his postal mail or what ever you need to check on. You have the right as his wife to find out exactly what he is doing. So don't let anyone tell you that it is wrong for you to check on him.

Answer 3

I have a definite feeling that something quirky is going on. Cheating is about 90% of my suspicions but another slim 10% chance is that he and she are close friends. But on the other hand, I would say that cheating is the number one choice you should watch out for. There is no way that a woman would msg a married man that many times and go out with him that many times. You better watch out.

Answer 4

Can you start going out with your husband so he doesn't have the time and privacy to text this woman? Maybe she'll be upset and lay off him.

You may want to ask your husband to let you know if he's having an affair so you can start divorce proceedings. Maybe that will wake him up or straighten him out. If not, then he doesn't care enough about the marriage and you should think about moving on. Three years should not be allowed to become ten years if you're not happy and if your husband can't be true to you.

Answer 5

Multiple choice answers:
a) he's fooling around
b) he's cheating
c) another woman has taken the attention of your husband
d) he's not playing football - at least, not the kind that's on TV
e) the only clubbing that should be going on is the kind where you hit him upside the head with one
f) all of the above

Answer 6

I'm afraid I must agree with the consensus. It looks like he's cheating on you. I'm very sorry, but I think you should confront him about it and get some honest communication going between you two.

Answer 7

HE IS CHEATING, KEEP THE PI, GET A REPORT AFTER A MONTH, SUE FOR DIVORCE.

DON'T FOREWARN YOUR HUBBY WITH ARGUMENTS.
THIS GUY IS A PLAYA AND VERY DISRESPECTFUL OF YOU.

OR

CONFRONT HIM AND HAVE HIM DO IT AGAIN LATER, WHEN HE IS MORE LEARNED AND HARDER TO TRACK.

HE ERASED THAT MESSAGE BECAUSE YOU ASKED ABOUT IT AND KNEW YOU WOULD CHECK. THEY WILL NOT BE SEEN IN PUBLIC BEING INTIMATE...HE IS TOO SMART...WITHIN A MONTH, THE PI WILL CATCH THEM GOING TO A HOTEL OR HER PLACE, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS DOING WHAT EVER. KEEP ALL RECORDS AND DATES. THE COURT WILL ASSUME SEX TOOK PLACE.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

why is this a question? your answer is quite clear your husband is cheating on you and i would definitely not stand for that you need to confront him and her ....do you have any friends that can follow him for you on one of his late night rendezvous?...i mean that will give you the evidence you want but pretty much you have already got it clear as day and if you stay with him hes gonna continue to cheat on you!

Answer 9

It's time to talk to your hubby. It's ok for a guy to have female friends, but keeping it secret gives it an air of dishonesty. It's not 100% sure to be an affair. Just talk to him.

Answer 10

First you checked his txt message ? I assume on his phone? so there was never any trust in your marriage? ok assuming that he is lying you mistrusted him from the start by checking his txt messages secretly and obviously behind his back you need to talk to him and admit you checked his mail then he has to be honest and tell you what is going on you have that right

Answer 11

hello Im Barbara to me it sound like he's cheatting on you
be honest with him and ask him. if he tells you nothing then leave him.