he does not want to wear a condom, and cannot use his insurance because it's a catholic affiliation like St. Francis. They also refuse to give him arefferal , it is against their policy. He cannot switch plans at this time because it is not allowed. It cost about 2,000. He also does not seem very enthused about and hesitated before. I cannot take birth control pills, I'm 45, it's too risky. Will our relationship survive. Am I supposed to live a life without sex or affection. In every other way he is a good, responsible, reliable man. He is also been very loyal to me so far. We have been together for 6 years.
2007-06-22 19:08:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something is up. Not having an accident is one thing but my husband might be able to go a week, maybe, without sex. Who wants to use a condom? We didn't but we also didn't want 47 kids. Our insurance didn't cover a vasectomy so we forked out the bucks. Around $800. It would have been over $4000 for me to get my tubes tied. See if he'll go to a urologist OR if your insurance covers a tubal, go get it done. I don't think you'll know what a normal sex life with him is like until you see what happens after....
2007-06-22 19:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I imagine that before the 8 months is up he will be at Costco buying condoms in bulk. There is no way he is going to go a whole 8 months without sex just because he doesn't like condoms. Are you sure he is not just using this as an excuse? Could he be hiding behind a bigger issue?
You can try the family planning method, but it is not extremely effective. They have plenty of other options these days. Talk to your doctor. There is the Nuva ring, patch, Depo, cap, diaphragm, emergency contraception, IUD, withdrawl, etc.
Another option for you would be to tie your tubes. This will make it so neither of you have to worry about birth control ever again.
2007-06-23 02:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... if you truly love eachother, yes. If birth control pills aren't an option (talk to your doctor about birth control possibilities) then, I would say to have fun in other ways.... there are many ways each of you can have fun with eachother and release some sexual tension / give each other affection without intercourse... There are mutual masturbation (each of you taking care of the others needs orally and otherwise), toys, etc.. the list is endless... be creative and enjoy this time... Look at it this way, when you finally get to have intercourse again, wow!
Also I think of all the married couples right now with one spouse in Iraq or elsewhere where they don't have each other for long periods of time and have to come up with a way to survive as a couple...
At least you two can hold eachother and "love" in other ways, just not intercourse...
Sounds like it could be an interesting time for both of you...
2007-06-23 02:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know something, if this is a serious issue for you now, and you can't seem to resolve it, how in the world is marriage going to make it any better? Since you guys have been in this relationship for 6 years, it's time to make some decisions for yourself. Also, if he doesn't want sex now, before you are married, my hats go off to him! That is exactly what the Bible says, not to have sex without marriage. Howevr, the Bible does allow for birth control; it says we need to take care of our own, and if we have kids and can't afford them, emotionally or money wise, then don't have them. These questions you asked us, no one can answer them for you, but you! What are you willing to put up with? What are you willing to GIVE UP if in fact he can't have sex? My husband has ED, so he takes meds for that. We can't answer whether you should live without sex, only you can answer those questions, and the answers needs to be honest and from the heart; don't try to make it "be ok" when it really isn't. Count the cost!
2007-06-23 02:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there some other form or birth control you can use? Like some other barrier method? Why won't he use a condom? I would much rather be making love with the one I love than worry about wearing a condom. You can safely use BC pills any time you are fertile. If you are still in your childbearing years, they are safe! (I'm an OB nurse)
2007-06-23 02:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try female on top the is a female condom or birth contral pills.
2007-06-23 02:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be married before you have sex. You can be sterilized, get your tubes tied.Then get married and have fun.
2007-06-23 02:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he is a man with a penis and isn't having sex with you it is because of something else. men don't shy away from sex.
2007-06-23 02:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋