ur spouse is disappointing in love yet sincere otherwise...u feel someone loves u but u r avoiding becoz u dont want ur marriageto be broken.........
2007-06-22 19:02:28 · 23 answers · asked by Ruchi M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there is something lacking in your marriage but don't want to break it up, then try and fix it. Talk about it, get counseling, try and work things out. Going outside of a marriage won't ever fix the problems within it. If things just can't be fixed then maybe it is best for the both of you to move on. Just don't be deceitful and try to have you cake and eat it to. If you really love your spouse it is the least you can do for them.
2007-06-22 19:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen what you need to do is reevaluate what you really are lacking in your marriage. If you still wish to stay with you spouse and really want to make it work. You first must eliminate the thought of loving another. Then secondly you must approach your spouse and explain how you feel. You also must explain that you have a fear that if things do not change between the two of you that your marriage will fall apart. You approach this situation with great caution because sometimes the people we love can not see the problems that are arising within the relationship. You have to empathic and show humility all the while being aggressive and getting your point across. A marriage is not only a sacred union but a partnership and if you don't allow your spouse or give them the opportunity to share the work load of keeping that marriage together than it will fail miserably. Present your spouse with your feelings and facts and just keep the communications lines wide open and answer any questions that your spouse may have for you.
Good Luck!
2007-06-22 19:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
You can choose your Karma or your Dharma
If you want the marriage be true mostly to yourself. You will meet many people you will love in this lifetime. It doesn't mean they will be the best partner for you.
1. Deal with your problem in your marriage and send the other woman packing and not to call.
Really discover the pluses of the woman your with you might just be surprised. If you feel she is so so in the love department she may feel that same about you.
Temptation is the doorway of Karma if you pass through it you bring on the pain and suffering and perhaps lack of forgiveness for yourself.
If you resist temptation you go through the threshold of Dharma in the short term it seems painful but in the long term you have many many gains you could never imagine.
Your just a the point in your life when life itself it testing you.
Will you take the temptation for instant gratification only to have years of pain. Or will you resist feel the discomfort now and have years of joy.
The decision is all up to you.
Best wishes as you live this life.
2007-06-22 19:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by MuseumGirl48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a common mistake now a days when people find some extra attraction in some one and then called it "luv". While the fact is this that it is nothing but a temporary attraction specifically towards opposite sex.
It would be better to get it, what u want , from your own family members or wife.
Before that just consider yourself- How to get what you WANT OUT OF LIFE ?, it will definitely remove your doubts as well confusions.
Thanks
Rajan Sharma
2007-06-22 19:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by rajan sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you shouldn't be looking outside of marriage anyways. But if you feel like this then the best thing is to let the marriage end. If you are not staisfied with your marriage then there is no reason to stay. I wouldn't do anything with anyone else until you have divorced your wife. It will come back and hunt you if you did and she found out.
2007-06-22 19:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be living a lie.Ask yourself don't you deserve an open honest relationship that you share with the world. You can be sure that if you follow through on this you break your vows and trust you developed. be decent and admit to your spouse that you feel this way and hold off until you are free.
2007-06-22 20:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by rita f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your marriage. communicate what each other wants. Ask questions, be open and honest. You can't give up because you think someone else loves you. work on the one you already know does. have fun with your partner, don't be shy, be loving. Don't go there with another person. That causes pain for everyone involved.
2007-06-22 19:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by ldgirlz11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a two timer. be man enough to fight for your "love" if u really do. be sincere... ur spouse may thank u after alll for ending the marriage so she can find her own version of love.
2007-06-22 19:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by frerevivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go looking for love outside of marriage. If you can't find it within the marriage then why did you get married? If you want to go looking for love then get unmarried first.
2007-06-22 20:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on yourself and find out whats ,what up front and make an informed decision, on what you WANT to do. Only then will you be able to win your true love or walk away. Best of Luck to you.
2016-05-18 01:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋