Is anyone really happily married???

Question

I'm so discouraged at the moment because none of my friends are in happy relationships. I just want to know if anyone is really happily married. Is there such a thing??

Answer 1

Yes. It does exist. I agree it's a rare thing. Most of the couples I know have big problems. I've had very few examples of happy marriages in my lifetime. The good examples I have seen really stuck with me. They gave me hope. Marriage is work, you have ups and downs. The goal is to work through the issues and end up at a better place.

Answer 2

I am happily married. Been married now for 20 years. But I'll be the first to say, it takes work. It depends on how much you want out of your marriage, and how much you are willing to put in it in order for it to work. So many people today think that being married for 3-8 years is great, if they get unhappy they decide to split up! Well, that isn't marriage, but a relationship gone sour. The Bible only has one reason for a divorce, and that is adultery! If there is abuse, of course then leave! But weigh the matters out before you decide to leave. No one deserves to be abused for any reason/and even if the other spouse has committed adultery, I know of cases where the other one was willing to forgive and move on. Sometimes when people get married, they are just too young emotionally to be in a serious relationship, like marriage. (17-21 is too young) Also, marriage isn't for everyone. I have a sister that is in her 40's and not married, and still a virgin! but she lives by her Bible trained conscience, an the Bible tells us it is wrong to have sex outside of marriage. There is a reason for this principle to live by. Look at all the babies that has been brought into the world that are raised by a single Mom! Also, sex can cloud the issues at hand, such as: how much do we really have in common? What are our goals, are they the same? ARE we going to go to church? Are we going to raise kids? IF we are, what kind of discipline are you going to use, and am I going to be comfortable with your choices? A lot of people doesn't count the cost before they jump into marriage, and this only creates problems for them when the"honeymoon period" is over. (about a year, or for some sooner). . Yes there is happiness after marriage if we count the cost first. And know how to settle disagreements, agreeing to disagree.

Answer 3

Not really. Not that they are all miserable but most in my experience is either unhappy or just kind of indifferent. I think part of the problem is people are just young and stupid and get caught up in emotions or perhaps they are pregnant and they rush off into getting married. The other side of the coin is they have got to a certain age where they feel they are getting to old to be single so they just settle on someone they like but aren't really crazy about. Really though marriage is so unnecessary. You can be with someone and be totally happy with them and just find the idea of marriage to prove that as being silly. Also it's not like marriage is going to keep a cheater from not cheating or change the attitude of somebody with a really bad outlook on life or make someone love them when they really don't.

Answer 4

Of course! We have been totally happily married for almost 18 years - that's not to say we haven't been through hard times - everyone does in a marriage - but we've always come out on the other side better! Our love has grown and deepened throughtout the years, and it's a wonderful marriage.

Answer 5

Yes, there is. But sometimes you have to look past current events, like arguments, and miss-communications.
I have seen a few couples this past year that make me jealous.
One couple really compliments each other and makes each other laugh, they never go to bed angry, and never stay angry at each other. They are both in their 90's and have been married for over 50 years. They are both in their second marriages and doing great!
I can only hope that I can find that same spark in someone.
It's out there, you just don't see it in too many relationships that are starting out. Plus a lot of people give up to easily and take the easy way out of marriage. I think when you stick through the rough times, it can only get better.

Answer 6

YES! Been happily married for 11 years now - wouldn't dream of trying to live without him. He's the sweetest, most considerate, funniest, charming, romantic man I've ever met - and he loves to cook! :D

Neither of us is perfect, but we're perfect for each other and that's what counts. We never argue - honest! If we disagree about something, we talk it out. There is nothing out there that is worth putting a wedge into our relationship.

I have a simple philosophy that I live by and it works well at work and at home - if something goes wrong, figure out how to fix it - don't spend your time assessing what went wrong and who is to blame. If my hubby screws something up, what's done is done. If I yelled at him for it, nothing is fixed. However, it would cause relationship problems and it would remove his guilt and make him a victim... which also accomplishes nothing.

I've used the same philosophy on my subordinates at work and it also works well there.

Also, my parents have been happily married for 51 years now.

Answer 7

YES!! My great grandparents have been happily married for 70 years, grandparents, 52, and my parents, 25!
Dont listen to all the ridiculous media about how marriages are just a trap, and that they will all eventually end in turmoil.
There are so many different struggles that we go through in marriage, but the point is that you work through them TOGETHER.
The generations now, when there is ever a tuff situation in marriage they just up and give up. Thats not how its supposed to work.


So yes, there IS such a thing! Dont ever give up hope!

Answer 8

Happily married after 20 has no better substitute. You cannot be fully happy & satisfied as a single without fulfilling your legitimate emotional, physical & psychological needs of your body, made so by nature itself. If you remain single & after 45 or 50, you feel you must have a deep loving life partner & children for future of the family, you can not do anything. At that time you regret only. That is dead sure. You can not go back to your 20s & 30s b coz time can't flow backward & health & fitness of the past can not be reversed. In ideal married life you get deep love, affection, intimacy, care, trust, physical & mental pleasures of top order, best satisfaction & above all the best security. A human body badly needs a partner in the bed to touch, massage, gently press his/her muscles, hug, kiss, smooch for at least an hour daily & have tremendous pleasure of orgasm, unforgettable, unavoidable. As long as you have youth, you need that badly. None can be even 10 % satisfied in life without that.

Answer 9

I read about a couple on an island off the coast of Argentina who were happily married. Oh wait, those were galapagos tortoises.

Let me get back to you on that one. I'll google it and look it up in wikipedia.

Yeah, join the club. Things typically go up and down, but you typically hear more about problems than about long stretches of marital bliss.

Answer 10

Yes. There are two couples in my bible study group who are happily married and one of these couples has been married for 27 years!!!!!! I understand your frustration and doubt about happy marriage. NO ONE In my immediate family is happily married and my friends all tell me how difficult it is. But, I think if you make smart decisions about who you decide to marry (and don't settle), your chances of thriving in marriage will go up. Many people KNOW way before marriage about their mate's bad habits, but choose to ignore them or think they will go away. That NEVER happens!