Can LOVE be a MISTAKE?

Answer 1

The answer depends entirely on what you are speaking about when you use the word LOVE.

If you use the word to describe an over-whelming fondness, then Yes, it can be. Examples here are the diabetic who loves sugar or the alcoholic who loves whiskey (these can kill).

If you use the word to describe an attraction between people which are technically a crush, limerence or a romantic attraction, then Yes again. These conditions never last and always fail or fade over time. Although some might consider these as necessary feelings, these are usually associated with major mistakes (since they are often mistaken for Love).

If you use the word to describe an emotional state between humans which is lasting and unconditional, then the answer is No, it is not a mistake. The love of a mother for her child is key to the bonding and stability which is necessary for the production of well adjusted adults capable of Loving another adult human. Without Love there are no long term human bonds other than slavery.

Any philosopher who would claim that Love is a Mistake is probably a human who has felt strong emotional attachments and been hurt because they thought that they were in Love.

Answer 2

I wish i could have such a forgiving and calm soul and be poetic enough as to say that love is never a mistake, no matter what happens...love itself isnt a mistake....but i unfortunately cant say that because even though to some extent i agree that love, the emotion itself, is a beautiful experience no matter....i think that it can very easily be a mistake if you love the wrong person...because as wonderful as love feels, holding those emotions for someone who doesnt reciprocate how you feel...doesnt understand you and doesnt love you....and the only reason you´re choosing to stay with them is because you know nothing else...im sorry but thats a mistake and...even if your love is true, love in itself sometimes.... just isnt enough....

Answer 3

Love in itself is not the mistake. To care for someone is never wrong.
Real love, however, is much more than a feeling. Granted, feelings are involved. and rule most of our actions. Problems emerge when one person does not meet the other’s expectations
I "love " animals--but some animals I can't be loving too. Its not a mistake to love them. It just can't be. Our different natures can get in the way with that love. I don't stop loving them. It is not a mistake. I try to just use my head some animal I can't have a realatioship with. It is the same with humans except sometimes we don't use our head.

Answer 4

When can Love be a mistake? For starters it depends on the individual that has experienced its first crush, when for the first time, when you meet that girl/boy, for the first time, and feel that immense feeling of adoration, some times people may think it is Love, but as the passing of time, when they get to know that person better, they start seeiing that they made a mistake, when they discover that the person, they thought was perfect has faults they did not see before. So, it depends on every individual, how they categorize Love. True Love does exists, my Husband and I are living proof of it, so to us it was not a mistake, falling in Love.

Answer 5

That would depend on what your definition of love was.

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 6

Nothing is a mistake in life, EVERYTHING happens for a reason, whether you want to believe it or not. Take for example you were supposed to go to the bank and on your way there, your car brakes down and you're stranded for 3 hours waiting for help. You're so pissed off that you're late, and your whole day's ruined and you still have to go to the bank. Then you hear on the news that their was a gun shot robery in the bank with hostages still there. What do you say, most people say that they are lucky that their car broke down, some may say, "Thank you God, even though I complained before I guess you're right, everything does happen for a reason."
OR
Say that you marry someone and you have 2 kids w/ them and you've been w/ them for over 14 years but they're abusive. You probably think that it was a mistake but if you didn't get together w/ this person, then you wouldn't have your beautiful children.

Answer 7

For if we learn that love is not only that which we want, that it is that which enriches us then we can not make mistakes with our love.

In loving we always have the advantage. It always gives. It gives to those or that which we love. It enriches and emboldens the human spirit to both the one that gives, and the one that receives. We sometimes confuse love with
infatuation, desire, sex, and neediness. Love is none of these. It is a gift of deep abiding affection that is not selfish, not built on advertised emotions, nor is it wanting.

Love is never a mistake for it is the very essences of mans ability to grow in wisdom and spirit.

Answer 8

Love is a good feeling ,it becomes a mistake when we give it to the wrong person.

Answer 9

Love is the best life has to offer! The only mistake about love is holding on to it and not ever sharing it with the world & people around you.


Love is a choice, Pandora

Answer 10

Love, in & of itself can never be a mistake. The consequences of loving, as YOU perceive them, may be considered a mistake by you. But, the love itself, is not.