2007-06-22 18:01:02 · 17 answers · asked by my q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know your wife better than any of the strangers here on Yahoo. What does she like? What are her hobbies? What are her passions? If you can't answer these questions then you really are going two separate ways. But if you want to stay married, do your best to find out the answers.
If you already know, then talk to her about them. While men are physical creatures, women are mental/emotional creatures. She will blossom under your attention. I'm not saying you have to join her quilting circle, just that you should know who she quilts with, what project she's working on and be able to ask about these things.
How many times a day do you tell her you love her? How many times do you SHOW her? Does she like flowers? Get her favorites. Is she outdoorsy? Take her camping. Show her that you're interested in her as a person and watch your marriage change.
2007-06-22 18:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by HH in AK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 23:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on both you and her. You have to let each other know, how the other feels. She may be feeling the same way about you. Do you have kids? When was the last time you made time just for each other? Take her out to dinner, have a conversation, and let her know, you love her, and want to work things out. If you both feel, it's best to seek a marriage counselor, then by all means do just that.
One of the problems with marriages, is one or both feel unappreciated, and get bored of the same routines. Change what you can change about yourself, and influence her to do the same. Good luck.
2007-06-22 18:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you're going two seperate ways is because you dont understand each other. You're trying to show her love in your way, and she tries to show in her way, and since men and women are completely different, that just doesnt work.
I read the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. EVERYTHING in that book about women is 100% true. Everything that it tells you about a women's feelings and wants and needs is 100% true. Same for your needs. Your needs are important to, and she can read the book too to find out what you really need from her, because chances are that you dont even fully know what you really need in a marriage.
Flat out, men just want to be admired and respected, and women just want to be loved and adored. Make sure she knows how much you love her, and let her know how much her admiration and respect means to you. Good luck!
2007-06-22 18:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things today that come between married people--jobs,kids,money,etc.The best thing is you see theres a problem. You need to talk things out with a counselor if need be--men and women speak two different languages. Set goals for you and her as a couple,make time for you to go away together,and if you cant go away then take a day where you are just together-go shopping etc.
2007-06-22 18:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by dove2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in serious trouble........ what is the reason that she has taken this rout? your not telling the full story you should have been a Little more clear. But from experience I would say you still have a chance if your still in the same house. but if your cheated your not going to get off that easy. Stop doing what caused her to make this decision and win her with Love and kindness. Your going to have to work your *** off to win her over.
2007-06-22 18:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to dinner. Plan a long trip and surprise her. Candle light and wine. Body rubs. Do the dishes for her and the laundry without being asked. Roses with a love note attached. A day at the spa just for her. Pamper her. Talk to her and most of all listen to her.
2007-06-22 18:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER ABOUT THE DISTANCE YOU FEEL AND THAT 'OUR' MARRIAGE IS TOO IMPORTANT TO YOU TO LET IT HAPPEN. ASK HER DO SHE AGREE?
This will allow her to give dialog to you directly if she disagrees and voice why. Be prepared for a negative or positive answer and assist her, if possible, to make changes for you both.
She may have something totally unrelated to you that is distracting her. Kids, Job, Parent issues are often reasons for impedance to romance.
Hope you get the answers you want. Good Luck
2007-06-22 18:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what happened, how it got this way. Did you or her cheat on each other?
Some people just drift apart after a while, common interests no longer.
If you're right for each other, you'll find a way back.
Good luck!
2007-06-22 18:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Malia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what did you do to make her want to separate you? The only way a woman would ever leave her husband is if he has been unfaithful. And if this is your case you deserve it pal I would not stay if this was my case. But good luck to you
2007-06-22 18:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋