How come when me and my husband having sex he always *** first. and i don't feel satisfied.?

Question

were newly weds i want to have a baby that's why were trying to have sex for like 4 times a week but still not working.. i was wondering if there was something wr0ng with me..;(

Answer 1

Well, it's probably because your husband doesn't take the time TO pleasure you. Now, this doesn't mean your husband doesn't care about your sexual satisfication. Alot of men tend to think that women come to climax just as fast as men do. Which sometimes they do, but a woman's erotic zones are so complex to men, that they fail to realize it just takes a little work to hit that spot just right. All it takes is just a little communication by you to guide him on his journey and make yourself feel good.

Men tend to ask post-sex, "was that good for you?", seeking your approval. Women then answer that many times with a yes, even though they didn't, to not hurt a man's pride and/or cause an arguement. Instead of pretending it was good, start by being seductive into getting him to perform foreplay on you before he even thinks about having sex. This will get things going on early for you. Tell him what feels good to you during this act and have him keep it going until your ready for him to penetrate you and get his. It takes some imagination to keep sex with your partner feeling like new. Like an explorer, you need to constantly break new ground and discover new territory to keep things hot. Don't make sex a routine, add something new to it when it has lost its appeal. That's how your sex life will stay strong until death do you part!

If your trying to have a baby and it's not happening, don't blame yourself or your husband. Keep trying, but don't be ashamed that you both may have to be checked by a physician to see if your husband's sperm count is fertile, and/or your egg's are fertile. Many couples have problems with infertility, but you can still have children through a doctor's helping hand.

Good luck with everything!

Answer 2

Well there are ways you can chnage this, my husband was like when we first got together! LOL, give him a bj befor eyou guys have sex and let him get off, that way he won't as fast! Or you can let him stop when he feels it coming on ... either way you need to talk to him and let him know, you don't have to be mean, just tell him how you feel! And plus you are only fertile 5 days out of the month to have a baby so the rest of the time it is just pure pleasure baby! :P

Answer 3

If he is not making it happen for you then you need to take control. You should make the first moves on him and be sexy while you are doing it. If he is not doing something that you know would make you feel good then tell him, but in a nice way! You can turn yourself on just by pleasing him. And many times guys enjoy seeing a woman pleasure herself so move your hands all over your body and have some fun!

Don't focus on sex just for wanting to get pregnant because it takes the fun away from it.

Good luck and happy ovulating.

Answer 4

Well, first of all, having an orgasm during sex is not just dependent on your partner, but you as well. Have you ever had an orgasm? If not, you need to give yourself one. Masturbate and learn how you acheive satisfaction and then show your husband! Men just like women, need tips. Tell him what feels good and what gets you off.

When you are having sex, don't worry about the orgasm. Just go with it. If your husband isn't lasting long enough, you need to tell him. This is especially likely if you two were virgins before getting married. There are things that men can do to last longer in bed and you should ask him to do them. Both of you should start doing your kegel exercises.

A lot of women cannot orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. You'll want to have clitoral stimulation as well. Play with yourself or have your husband play with you during sex. You may want to invest in sex toys.

It's also important to engage in plenty of foreplay. Oral sex is often a great way to get going and always leads me to orgasm either during oral sex or with the sex that follows. Again sex toys could be an asset during foreplay.

EDIT: You'll get pregnant easier if you orgasm too.

Answer 5

no its because its become a chore, if you are newlyweds you should be enjoying sex and eachother anyway not trying to force a child into it yet, plus stress can stop his soldiers from marching you know that? relax be easy, you need to communicate and not nag complain or speculate........hes either tired or stressed, or just wants to get it over, or maybe he really doesnt want a child right now?i mean i heard of people trying and being grateful they didnt conceive because the female was so demaning and pushy about conceiving and he got fed up of her and her bs. Again you are newlyweds, when this child comes more or your time and affection will go to this child focus on growing as a couple and your communication first cause this child will make you happy it seems but will make him resentful etc you need to learn to communicate and LISTEN before you make a child......

Answer 6

Sex is communication and right now thats what you two need to do--too many times a situation like this comes around and you are frustrated.You need to read some sex books together and if that doesnt help go to a sex counselor. Stop this now in its tracks before you become angry and upset .Also you need to teach your hubby about your body--its yours men dont know even when they think they do help him learn to please you. My advice dont have kids for a couple years once you are a parent you are a parent for life--enjoy your husband awhile first.

Answer 7

If you want to get a baby anyway, why not work on teaching eachother how to make the experience rewarding for both?

Sex, bicycling, skiing, math, all these things take practice to get good at.

So talk about it and keep an open mind.

Answer 8

I remember when my wife and I were trying to have a baby and she knew when she was ovulating and would command me that we had to do it now. For the first time in my life sex felt like work. There was a specific purpose for it other than the shear pleasure. I felt like a sperm donor. Perhaps that's what going on with your husband now.

Answer 9

Getting pregnant is not dependent upon whether you have an orgasm or not. Orgasms have NOTHING to do with impregnation. I suggest you stop having sex so often and allow your husband's sperm count to build up. More sperm, more chances of fertilization.

And contrary to the male ego, it is not the man who gives the woman an orgasm. It is the woman who is in control of her orgasms. You are obvioulsy focusing too much on getting pregnant rather than the sex act itself. You are trying too hard to get pregnant and not relaxing and enjoying the sex. Until you learn to relax and allow yourself to release yourself over to the pleasure you will never have an orgasm.

Answer 10

Nope, actually, I just finished watching "a girls guide to 21st century sex"

a show that aired in europe allllllll about sex. anyway, did you know 70% of women cant achieve orgasm simply from vaginal stimulation? yep, just him generally wont get you off like it gets him off.

employ toys or such to fix that :)

also, do you know what the gspot is? its actually real in alot of women. look it up on wikipedia or urbandictionary or something, and try to see if you can get him to rub against that. And in that show (guide to sex) that I was talking about, they said missionary is the ONLY posission that will give you clitoral stimulation, and thats only if he rubs against it during sex. you probably really do need to use toys, and thats ok.

And it can take a whole year to concieve naturally. its like the lottery. you have a 1 in 4 chance they say of getting pregnant. and I think thats per a period/cycle too. So youre not abnormal, infact, youre just like 70% of all the other women out there!