My list is simple ,Feed me ,Fu(k me , Let me relax and don't ever try to come between me and my bike or my dog.
Most guys list is similar.
I know women take some sick pride in being complex, not saying what they actually mean, testing men ( " Honey do I look fat in this?") Passive agressive manipulation and so on.
Because women operate this way they seem to project that kind of behavior on us (men) and we just are'nt like that.
Why don't you get that.
2007-06-22 17:41:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's the women without maturity that don't realize this. Once my husband and I were married, we had conflicts until I realized what you say is basically true - I'd always ask my husband what he 'wanted' to make him happy - and his response was always the same - all he wanted to do was make ME happy, that's what brought him joy. And it was true.
More women just have to realize that men are wonderful, but just really, really different than us. When my husband comes home from a hard day of work, all he wants is to BE at home. Wash up, have a great homecooked meal, tell me about his workday - which helps unload his mind, then do something for a bit (tv or computer games) for a while just to help him de-stress. He doesn't need me whining or nagging about anything, just my company and regular conversation. And making love IS the best de-stresser for both of us!
Mind you, this is mostly for us women who like a manly man...
('oracleofohio' - ditto!)
2007-06-23 02:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people confuse equality with "being the same". To say someone is equal to you is to not say they are the same as you physically or mentally, but that they are worth the same as you and deserve the same rights. Women and Men are different, okay there may be some women stronger than some men and some men more sensitive than some women, in fact there are loads of this but stereotypes exist for a reason and women on average aren't as strong as men and if sensitivity had a measurement I'm sure the same could probably be said about that. There are jobs on average that men will be better at than women on average and some that women are better at on average. True equality should not only acknowledge the differences but embrace them. But to answer your question, no I don't think that they are on a level playing field. Things are better than they've ever been however and the trend is improving.
2016-05-18 00:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by frankie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity. We have an epidemic of young women looking to men for approval and acceptance. When you guys go about your simple pleasures, we feel ignored. In my 20's, I was totally into the passive aggressive manipulation. I think I just wanted him to express himself to me like a woman would. I wanted more of his attention. I wanted to feel pursued again. I wanted things to be like they were when we first met. What I finally learned was that by building my own self esteem, I relied on him less and less for approval. I was out to approve of myself. Working on the things that are important to me brought me to my own self acceptance. The amazing thing that happened was that all of the sudden, the attention that I wanted in my 20's was there! It wasn't HIM..it was ME! I became less needy, he became more giving. Weird how life works out like that. My husband has his basic simple needs like you mentioned. He's pretty much feed me, fu(k me, let me relax and don't come between me and my guitar. He has also learned from me and we really have some great conversations nowadays. If I think my azz is getting fat, I don't question him, I get to the gym more often. Women don't take sick pride in being complex. We ARE complex. There is a middle ground in there somewhere. Men teach us how to be happier with the simple things, and we teach men that a deep conversation now and then will make the simple things that much more meaningful. :)
2007-06-22 18:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because life isn't simple even if you want it to be. It really doesn't having anything to do with being female or male. Life in general is hard and complex. You can try to pretend it isn't as a lot of males do but someone has to deal with the complexity of it all. Women end up being the ones who do mostly because of babies and children. Babies and children are complex beings. Sometimes I had to be almost physicic to be able to raise my kids because they didn't know how to deal with something and didn't have the verbal or social skills to tell me the problem. I had to take my cues from thier actions and figure out the problem. If I couldn't deal with complexity, I was in real trouble as a parent. Women need men to be able to deal with this as well. After all in the big picture of life fathers are as important as mothers during certain periods of thier children's lives. LIfe is so uncertain and all mothers want to know that the mates that they have choosen could if they have to deal with thier children and thier complexity. I had something like this happen when my mate had to take over the raising of our children for a time when every ounce of my energy had to be used to fight the breast cancer in my body. I felt secure in the knowledge that he could handle the complexity becuase he and I had worked through this during the first part of our marriage. I hope that you understand this much about what drives some women to be the way they are. They are simply reassuring themselves that thier mate could take over if life's uncertainity took a turn for the worse.
2007-06-22 18:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We don't get that because it's not true. What you're saying is that one man is just like all the rest of them and one woman is just like all the rest of them. Just because you're a simple, selfish man you expect everyone else to dumb down to your level. Not all men are like you and not all women are like the shallow, manipulative women in your life. Knowing someone like you I would have to say, "Is that all there is? How boring!"
2007-06-22 17:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am not like that - do I look fat, ect.? I think you are thinking most women are like this. If I, myself, feel fat or heavy, I do something about it, and don't ***** to the "man in my life." So you are apparently mistaken in that ALL women act this way. You can do want you want honey, just don't cheat, (if you do, notify me so I do not contract your STDs), and let me know so I can leave YOU!
2007-06-22 17:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, men are simple. But, boys are even more simple(don't ever try to come between me and my bike or my dog, dude, if you were a man, you wouldn't let your bike or dog come between you and your woman). Hey, did I make that simple enough for ya, or is it still too complex for you to understand?
2007-06-22 18:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like u dont need a women theres lots of guys out there
2007-06-22 17:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read your others questions and they're all the same...
maybe you should get a boyfriend, make things easier for you. that way you'll have the same things in common and live happily ever after.
otherwise, grow up and be a man. get a personality and some character.
2007-06-22 17:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the case, a dil*do really is cheaper because I wouldn't have to feed it!
( your list is all about you and your needs, isn't it?..well, there are women who are all about themselves too, so that should make it even.)
2007-06-22 17:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋