I recieved an invite to a baby shower that says how everyone has bought them so much and they have everything now but a few things and then goes onto say but if you must bring a gift then a donation would be appreciated. Is it me? or is it the done thing nowadays to EXPECT rather than be grateful for anything you may get for nothing? This is family, i don't know what to reply and even my best friend who has an answer for everything is speechless! For some reason i am angered!
2007-06-22 17:31:09 · 8 answers · asked by Shazela 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She's my stepdaughter and even my husband (the new grandpa) shook his head in disgrace!
2007-06-22 17:49:23 · update #1
I would make a donation in their name to a charity and then send them a card telling them about their donation....
Some people.... Sheesh
2007-06-22 17:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Angelus 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well, people have lost some of their tack fullness but I can see both sides. They dont want excessive things but there is a better way to go about that.They may also 'expect' that you are understanding enough that it wouldn't bother you for them to address the situation the way they did. However, (this is what I would do) I would give them either the item they wanted or money. If its money I would put it in a card...cheap and tacky card and I would write a little note explaining how you thought the way they went about the invite was as tacky as the card you got them. I wouldn't start a family fund but I would let them know you were offended by their tackiness. By they way, they asked for a donation...$1.00 is a donation and its tacky too. Kill them with kindness is also a way to go. I think I would find out what they have the most of and buy two more...lol then attach your 'donation' of a dollar to it. Honey, people have changed..hell when I gave my shower I just wanted people to show up...lol Good luck
2007-06-22 17:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE the idea of making a donation to a charity in their honour and giving them a thank you card in recognition.
I think the invitation is bad mannered - and I know a baby shower is intended to furnish the parents-to-be with practical gifts; but to ask for a donation???? No...
2007-06-23 01:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring whatever you like whether it's on the list or not. I didn't register for gifts and some thought that was odd. Some items are expensive and not everyone can afford them. I was grateful for the gifts I recieved and I use every one. I think it's weird to ask for money.
2007-06-22 18:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are totally correct. She shouldnt tell people to give a donation because she has everything already! If she doesnt need or want anything more than she should have just told people she doesnt need anything more, she just wants to celebrate.
Dont give her anything then, i say. I would bring food to the party and that is it.
2007-06-22 20:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as they said they have everything, I would just get them a picture frame so that they could put their new baby's picture in it. That's kind of rude asking for donations. lol They should be grateful for any and all things they get!
2007-06-22 18:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by violentbeauty6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lenghts people will go to for free stuff is shocking. Send them a dollar!!!
2007-06-22 17:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
very rude......you dont tell people to bring gifts. Your presence is enough. lol.....just show up , since they have all they need anyways!....pasha on them! TEEEHEE!
2007-06-22 17:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Princessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋