Many yrs ago, my dad had an affair with my stepsis that lasted for yrs. My stepmom passed away, and my step sister is a lier, thief and a will do anything to get $ from anyone. She has seduced my dad, because he has $ and she is trying to drain every penny out of him.
She has lied that she has cancer, car was stolen (which was repoed), anything to get $ from him.
She is 59 and my dad is 78. I finally convinced him to move 600 miles closer to me. He has met a wonderful lady here, and yet he is so depressed because of my stepsister. I told him that if he went back to his step daughter, that I would have nothing do with him ever again. I hate her and that is a very strong feeling for me to have towards someone.
His current gf is fet up with him, because he doesn't want to do anything with her. I told her to break up with him.
So, what do I do? Give my stepsis a nice phone call, or tell my dad to just go back to her? If I call my stepsis, she will go back and tell him.
2007-06-22 16:52:15 · 10 answers · asked by Mom of 2 great boys 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He feels that she is beautiful, which she is not. He feels that he can sexually statisfy her, which at this age he probably can't anymore. At least I don't think so. He hasn't seen her in about 3yrs. But, she calls all the time and get's him even more depressed.
2007-06-22 16:53:52 · update #1
No I am not concerned about his money for myself. ABSOULUTLY NOT!
You don't understand, she is using him. She is making him more and more depressed by making phone calls to him. Hell, she has three grown children and NO body wants anything to do with her. She has not only betrayed her mom, but me, brother's, sister's, friends, stole money from countless people. I could go on!! She doesn't love my dad at all. She loves his money! His poor girlfriend is so fed up with his depression and I can't tell her why he is so depressed, because that would just crush her. If there was anything in this world that I would want for my dad, is to be HAPPY, HEALTHY.
So please don't say that I want his money. I don't!
2007-06-22 17:36:08 · update #2
sounds to me like he needs to get his number changed and get rid of her for good. If he has someone nice where he is then he should stay with her although it is his life and he can choose what he wants. Just be supportive of him.
2007-06-22 16:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First- my heart goes out to you. This sounds like an awful situation.
My suggestion would be to get him to a doctor- both kinds!
Depression can be helped with medication and talking to a professional. This will give your father an unbiased opinion. Most likely the doctors will tell him this is an unhealthy relationship. Some times if information comes from some one that isnt related- they take it a little more seriously.
If you want a sneaky thing to do- get him a cell phone and block her number on it. I think you could also block the number on his home phone.
You can let him know that you believe your sister to be a toxic person and you do not want her involved in your life or the life of your family.
PS - I did not read in your description that you were concerned about the money. I havent read the other answers yet, but rest assured that someone on cyberspace believes you have only the best interest of your father at heart! :)
2007-06-22 17:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by XaXa30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to block her number, get his number changed - anything. And yes, I would give her a nice little phone call, but only after he changes his number or blocks hers. It's very easy to block a number, if you don't know how just look at the telephone provider's website, there will be instructions. Get her out of his life! At this point you don't know how many years he has left and you don't want to let her come between the two of you. Good luck!
2007-06-22 17:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one...I can see how your love for dad would make you want to help him...I can also see the hatred for the she ***** geez i wish we could use bad words, it would be appropriate here, but you know what I'm trying to say....
What you need to do is, as hard as it may be, let dad make his own mistakes...You told him how you felt and what would happen if he did get back with her, nothing more you can do other than getting him committed...Hey at his age, i wonder if this could be an option...Is he able to take care of himself mental and physically???
Good luck what ever you decide to do, this is really difficult...I know if it was my mom, my dad has already passed, i would be heart broken...
2007-06-22 17:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your stepsis is 59, how old are you?
seriously, some people really need to take some reading and writing classes.
anyways, you are possibly to old to be griping about you stepsister sex life with an old man (how much sex is she getting anyway with that old "thang")
daddy is a pimp and your sister is a hoe.
get power of attorney over him, Cinderella, and you will have all the money to yourself.
2007-06-22 17:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Considering you have talked to him multiple times about how you dont approve, and you think its wrong. Then it seems to me that he is going to go ahead and do what he wants anyways.
Whether it hurts you or not. Considering, there really isn't anything you can do. If he is foolish enough to choose to go back to your stepsister, then he is probably also choosing to not see the real, manipulative woman that she is.
2007-06-22 18:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Evangeline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus H Christ....your dad is old...would you be so bitter as to have him spend his last years on this miserable planet, listening to you ***** about your step sister? Or would you rather see him happy? Regardless of how foolish he may appear to be.
I'm sorry..but I see this as a $$$$ issue. Not a love/hate issue. And you're pi$$ed cuzz she is spending what you'll rightfully (maybe) inherit.
2007-06-22 17:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
And you haven't suggested he talk to his doctor about the depression and a referral to counseling?
2007-06-22 17:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your poor father at his age he should be relaxing and enjoying retirement just be there for him do not criticize him it will make it worse be positive around him and hopefully with the right energy around him he won't be moping about that woman
2007-06-23 03:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her a freekishly angry phone CALL!!!!!!! oyeah and you should try alot more ways to get her away from your dad like changing the number or get him to live with someone else
2007-06-22 23:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋