if your husband cheats with the same woman for 16 years on and off but says shes really nothing and loves you

Answer 1

16 years, is probably the MOST "nothing" I ever heard of! Does he think you're a COMPLETE idiot???

Answer 2

Well first of all this is not really a question, it's an open ended statement. "If your husband cheats with the same woman for 16 years on and off but says shes really nothing and loves you" So it seems you're not really asking but wanting someone to finish the statement for you. But I think you've already finished it in your heart and mind. This has been going on longer than some people stay married. What does that tell you? I can't tell you what to do or finish your sentence but here's what I think. First he has a commitment to this woman or he's not really committed to you. Either way it's a problem. Also if he's been doing this for sixteen years I think that if you tell him stop seeing her, he won't. Even if he promises it. You could try counseling (the two of you together) and if he doesn't go for that, then I don't think he's serious. I think that at the least you need to separate, for a time at least, but don't take my word. Go to someone you know that you can trust to use wisdom and be impartial. For me I would suggest a minister but for you that might be someone else. Just realize that he has a bond to this women. Sex is not just a physical thing but a spiritual thing as well. It can create an emotional, physical, mental bond to another person. I believe he has this kind of bond to that woman and that's not easily broken. If he tries to blame you then realize that he is a person who has the ability to decide. He's responsible for his actions. There might be something that you should have been doing different but that does not make this your fault. A question that comes to my mind is, how did you find out? Did he volunteer the information (confess), or did you challenge him and then he confessed? It makes a difference. Last thing is don't expect a quick fix over this. It will hurt a long time even if he stops and you try to fix things between you. It will be a process that you will have to go through, regaining trust, healing, etc. Hope this helps. God bless.

Answer 3

What your husband cheating with the same woman for 16yrs? What kind of question is this, that sounds like a whole lot of pain, lying, secrets. thats not a marriage, you'll must just be casual friends and he can't just be cheating for the last 16 yrs. He must think both of you are just his casual friends with no ties attach and honestly if he keeps up with the certain woman for the last 16yrs it has to be something. Something bigger than the both of you, he doesn't respect or love the person he keep cheating on. He needs to grow up, either be a man or a husband. Or be a boy who has friend with benefits!!!

Answer 4

He's full of ****. 16 years of cheating? 16 minutes is "She's not that big of a deal" not 16 years. You don't stick around with someone for that long of a time if it's "nothing". Not saying he doesn't love you, but unfortunately men want to have their plate as well as the plate of the guy sitting next to him.

Answer 5

Question, do you and your husband have a lot of problems? SOmetimes men use the cheating to cover up a certain problem. Example: We were having severly financial problems along with almost loosing a child. THe tention and the anger buily in both of us that made me pissed at him because he backed away and tried to run from the problems and not fave them. A friend of mine money and her family caused them to have problems and it pushed her husband away, and he strayed. He needs to come to peace with you and fave what problem he has. If he really truely loves you, he will seek help and try to save your marriage. If not then you need to go and make yourself happy and have you a good life for a change!!

Answer 6

Have you known about this for 16 years? If so, you are really stupid to still be with him. If you just found out, leave him. If he has been with her for 16 years he will not leave her now. 16 years is just like being married. They have some children, too, right?
You can be happier on your own or with a man that respects you! Have some self esteem. You deserve better.

Answer 7

I've had that type of LOVE happen to me, but 16 years is way to long to accept that kind of love. Sorry but I'm going to have to ask & agree with what "thirsty mind" said. It took me all of 5 months to say enought was enough. It's not where he's @ it's were he want's to be, & 16 years with her is were he want's to be. I mean ask yourself. Why would he go through all that (to be with her) if she didn't mean anything to him. Adleast that's how I see it~

I'll end this with a "Food For Thought Song" by the late Luther Vandross~ Title: Any One Who Had A Heart

Anyone who ever loved
Could look at me
And know that I love you
Anyone who ever dreamed
Could look at me
And know I dream of you

Knowing I love you so
Anyone who had a heart
Would take me in her arms
And love me too
You, you couldn't really have a heart
And hurt me
Like you hurt me
And be so untrue
What am I to do

Every time you go away
I always say it's goodbye dear
Loving you the way I do
I'd take you back
Without you, I'd die dear
Knowing I love you so

Anyone who had a heart
Would love me too
Anyone who had a heart
Would surely take me
Why, why won't you
No one's gonna love ya like I do

Answer 8

What are you waiting on? Sixteen more years of his abuse? Get real Madam, He ain't about to stop this infedelity. He is in HOG HEAVEN. There is something about this "OTHER" woman that he really likes. SIt him down and give him an ultimatum. If she is better (you know what I mean?) than you then he needs to pack his bags and get the &*$% on with her. There is no reason for you to take that mess, unless you are not telling the whole story. Are you a good wife? doing the best you can? no cheating likewise? If you have done all you can to please this DOGG, you need to get out of this relationship and find a better life for yourself. You deserve it!

Answer 9

If she really means nothing to him then why does he still cheat? He is taking advantage of you, don't let him. You deserve better than this. You need to get out of this marriage and find someone who will treat you with respect and care about you and only you.

Answer 10

Do you really believe that she means nothing to him? Do you really believe that he loves you? Ask yourself, if she really means nothing to him why is he with her. Ask yourself, if he really loved you, why is he with her. The answer is, she means something to him. Now, what are you going to do about it? Don't you think that 16 years is too long? You've wasted enough time on the jerk, leave him & get on with your life. There are a few good men out there. Go find one. Good luck.

Answer 11

Then he's not going to be husband much longer. That is crazy and beyond disrespectful. If he loved me he wouldn't be cheating on me.