I am 36 weeks pregnant and i have not yet taken parenting classes and I feel i almost don't have time now. Is it really necassary for me to take them or is it ok to get information on how to do things from friends, family and the hospital?
2007-06-22 14:47:06 · 10 answers · asked by Lelane 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do you mean classes for labor and delivery? No, they are not really necessary because most women find that what they learned in class goes up in the air once labor starts because the experience is worth a thousand words that can never be expressed in a class setting.
Your instincts more than anything will help you cope with labor. And a good doctor, midwife or labor coach can make all the difference.
To get a general idea of what to expect, and plan for contingencies, just read a really good book about birth like Dr. Sears "The Birth Book." You'll save money and time and get to educate yourself in the comfort of your home. Also, ask your friends and family to tell you their birth stories and you will learn so much useful (and amusing) information.
And if you need help and guidance with parenting, yes I would definitely suggest knowledgable and experienced friends and family, not strangers at a hospital or in a classroom.
2007-06-22 14:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's necessary for parenting classes. All you really need is support. Just tell yourself you can do it and you will get it done. I was 33 weeks with my twin boys, and they were my first babies. Everyone tried to discourage me from having then vaginally but I told myself I could do it and I did with the help of a very nice nurse and my husband. Nurses are very experienced and will do all they can to help. My boys will be a year in a month. As far as everyday raising kids all the advice you could imagine will come it's up to you to decide what you feel makes sense. I read books, I talk to people and I watched shows. And I used a combination of it all. Good luck to you and congratulation. There is no wrong way to be a good parent.
2007-06-22 15:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by tany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I didn't take them, and my birth was great. I did get a little flack from a couple of nurses ("you didn't take lamaze?"). Oh well. I did just fine. I think women are made with instincts to know what to do, and the nurses and doctors help you through every step. I'm pregnant again with my second, and don't plan on taking one now either. I think it's all a matter of preparation and how worried you are about your own ability. You'll be fine without them.
I read lots of books, and was terribly worried about the birth process, but found out it was all that worry for nothing.
Besides, once you know the baby's coming, the last thing you'll be thinking about is "why didn't i take those classes!". Lol...
Congratulations.
2007-06-22 14:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by still waiting 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with parenting classes. You will learn as you go, which is the best way to do it. The classes will probably teach you to not say 'no' to your kids because it 'hurts their self-esteem,' or to give your kids a 'time out' rather than real discipline that actually works. You may need advice for certain situations along the way (we all do) but the best way to be a good parent is to do what your gut tells you. I believe the reason kids are so out of control these days are because of stupid concepts such as politically correct parenting classes. 1....2...2 and a half....2 and three quarters...has anyone actually gotten to '3' and done something about it???
2007-06-22 15:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by rhiannonb52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't take parenting classes, and I am an excellent parent. They will teach you things at the hospital. Your friends and family will offer you more advise than you could ever imagine. I always recommend the book, "What to Expect the First Year". I would definitely get a book or something, because alot of times you hear old wives tales that aren't accurate. Congrats on your bundle of joy.
2007-06-22 14:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pregnant with Baby #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will all come to you the second you hold the baby and if not all you need is your family and friends to help you.. Mostly your mother.. She knows best lol
I never took any classes and i did it all alone no help.. except hubby. And i managed ok.. it will get hard though with no sleep.. SLEEP WHEN THEY SLEEP.. kick everyone out and lock the door. Really you need to do that. I was so tired i didn't know what i was doing half the time because when my baby was sleeping i was cleaning. Bad thing to do.. the mess will be there tomorrow.. or hubby will come home from work and do them..
Good luck.. and Congrats
2007-06-22 15:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't, and i am fine. grow and learn with your baby. no amount of parenting classes can tell you what is right specifically for you and your child.
Although disciplinary areas can be very halpful when you are at your wits end. Also nutrition info. They are the two main events i believe in.
if your happy your child is happy. you can only do you best.
2007-06-22 15:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not really necassery, but it does help out with new parents and single mothers, helping them prep for a different type of lifestyle, and all the things that a person needs to do to help a child grow and learn. also most places hand out lots of free stuff and lots of coupons that you can use when the child is born, like formula and diapers, wipes, baby food ect...
2007-06-22 14:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by sjr1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you dont have to take them. just ask people you know. and everyone is different so you cant fully prepare anyway.
2007-06-22 15:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PArenting is innate, you don't learn it, it's just in you
2007-06-22 14:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋