Am devasted.Help me please.
2007-06-22 14:37:04 · 45 answers · asked by zidane z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing, is to point out to yourself the other person's flaws. And tell yourself there is no turning back. And be grateful for the relationship you once had. So just plainly, try and get over it fast.
2007-06-22 14:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I try to always think that everything happens for a reason. My first husband left me in 2002 after nearly 8 years together. I was absolutely devastated and in shock. I had really tried to work on things but there was another woman in the picture so he did not care. I had prayed so often that it would work. At my lowest point I went eight days without eating. Anyways, I now have a great husband. He treats me so much better and I really love him. We are very financially well off. I have more shoes and clothes then I have ever owned. I could only have dreamed my life would have been like this. So I think of Garth Brooks and his song "Unanswered Prayers" and there is a lot of truth to that. I will say I still think about my ex and all that went wrong. I love to analyze things. It has been 5 years but I have healed. I think I just analyze things so I do not make the same mistake again. Time heals all things. For now think about what great things await in the future. Take care of yourself so you can really enjoy life.
2007-06-22 16:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a walk, listen to music. DO not, eat urself to death, that's just regret waiting to happen. U'll get better, but healing needs to take place. So either u go for a walk or a ride, or u hang out with friends, listen to music. OR if u need to...just cry ur heart out. have a night to remember the person who broke ur heart, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and just let it all out. Be careful that this depressing rituals don't go on for more than a day or two, u don't want to be stuck doing that. It's just to bring u closure so u can move on. Good luck.
2007-06-23 16:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been 15 days of my broken heart and some days are better than others. I cry every day, some times hours on end. The lord is my rock, without him, I would not be able to stand. This is the most painful thing I have ever gone through. I feel your pain. The lord feels your pain, seek him and his guiding light. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, that light is god. Look for him, he will make you whole again.
Good luck to you my friend, I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-06-23 02:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my apologies for the hurt.
The best way to heal a broken heart is to take one day at a time. Usually people lean toward God at this time of their life.
You can read your Holy book. Go to Gym. Go for a long walk. Spend time with the family members and close friends. Avoid being alone.
If you follow these things, chances are you will soon find yourself in a better mood.
Good Luck.
2007-06-23 03:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by feysunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday is a step at a time. Just like how a wound takes time to heal, so does a broken heart. You'll get over it in time. Trust me.
2007-06-22 14:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by LayLay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get over it!!!! The person is gone and probably out having a great time while you are sitting at home crying over them. You need to hang out with friends, go shopping, or something out in the open. Sitting at home only makes it worse. There is no one on this earth that is worth crying over. If they loved you, then they would not make you cry. Love does not hurt. You should not let the other person bring you down. You are so much better than that. Burn all the things that you have that remind you of that person. If they call, don't talk to them. If you see them while you are out, act like you are the happiest person in the world. Do not let them know that you are hurting. When thay know that, they have you where they want you.
2007-06-22 14:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Examine first whether it is broken or it is only a feeling with pessimestic nature. Find out whether good and sufficient reason existing or otherwise. You, your self is a right person to heel it. If you failed, then bow down before the God who is an excellent mechanic in repairing/ heeling the broken hearts within no time.
2007-06-22 19:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by ky d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time heals a broken heart. Somehow, through time, we learn to let it go. It's not easy. Surround yourself with good friends, family, and activities that you enjoy. Time heals all wounds and we all have our own unique way of dealing. Good luck to ya! Hope you get to feeling better real soon.
2007-06-22 14:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's just a phase in your life...you'll soon reached the next level.
Find time for your ownself first...
You'll find that going to the cinema helps...who says you cannot enjoy your alone time?
Sometimes i treat my self in an expensive restaurant..too
Now..i'm a club member of a fitness centre...i've reduce some weight and gotten fit
Other times, my friends is the best medicine i have...they are just a crazy bunch of people.
Family...i make sure at least one a week, I spend quality talk with my mom, dad, sisters and brother..
My children...we always play cards and board games..makes us closer
With all the above, i feel contented...and about the broken heart thingy, it's still there and hasn't heal completely...but at least i'm happy and surrounded by people who love me..
2007-06-22 14:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by ladyjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once heard that for every year you spent with this person you need 2 months to get over them. So do the math and let your self be sad for the appropriate amount of time. Then get off your but and have some fun. Infact right now go out and see a movie to get your mind off of this. Keeping busy helps too. Do you have any hobbies that you can catch up on?
2007-06-22 14:41:18 · answer #11 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋