Truly. How do I break the cycle?
2007-06-22 14:35:56 · 8 answers · asked by GBG 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Stop worrying, that is.
2007-06-22 14:36:56 · update #1
How do I decide to stop worrying and really actually do it.
2007-06-22 14:41:33 · update #2
Probably. Gosh, what else would I do?
2007-06-22 14:44:06 · update #3
Sometimes people procrastinate about doing something because they are afraid to fail. You have to start thinking, "What is the worst thing that can happen?" If the answer is not that you will die and not be able to start again, then begin to do it. If you make a mistake correct it, but remember, no one learns anything from doing something right, they only learn from their mistakes, and learning is a good thing. Now, get started!
2007-06-22 14:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is necessary to take an inventory of sorts about yourself... look at what is really important for you to "worry" about, and look at what is not. The key here is that anything that has to do with others is "not mine to worry about". It's theirs, and they are resonsible for it, not me. The things I need to worry about reside on "my own side of the street" so to speak.
Then, it is imperative that you set up a "schedule" of sorts. You will set up increments of 5 minutes to start with for example, in which in that 5 minute time-span you will not be allowed to "worry" for any reason. That means you must find other things to occupy your attention. Eventually you will work your way up to 10 minutes, 15 minutes, and so on.
Third thing to do, after you've been able to go for quite a while, (let's say a half a day), without worrying is to write all your worries down on separate pieces of paper... put them in a "Higher Power Box" that you've made all pretty and special for this very purpose. You will put all your worries in that box, and your personal Higher Power will "take over" these worries for you. You have the choice when and how you will "take them back"... that is, if you find yourself "worrying" about some particular thing, go to the box, and take that particular piece of paper with that worry written on it out... and put it in your pocket. You will find "weight" settling over you after a while... and when you get tired of carrying that "weight", you can decide if and when to put the paper back in the box.
After a while you'll realize you don't have to worry anymore, because you have all your worries written down and the paper and the box "preserves" these worries for you so you don't have to do it in your mind. You are then free.
2007-06-22 21:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by 'llysa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to let you in on a Clergy secret. Visit the sick, it could be a Children's Hospital or a Nursing Home in your area. Develop a routine, "adopt" a person who has a terminal illness. They will teach you how to live your life and not worry. Because of their sheer will to live each day to the fullest, you will find many life lessons that can re-orient your perspective on your own issues. Only then will you realize you don't grow one more inch worrying about things you have no control over. When you leave his/her presence with this renewed perspective, you will walk away and know that you have been given another day to get it right.
2007-06-22 21:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by mark_hensley@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
From what you have told us, you have already guessed that 'deciding' isn't what it's about. Need to make sure? Then 'decide' some more.
Try it a few more times, maybe you'll learn that you just cannot 'decide' things like this, it isn't on the menu.
Might as well 'decide' to grow three more fingers.
2007-06-22 22:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called willpower of sorts. You must tell yourself whenever you begin to ask yourself questions that you know the answer to that you have already decided what to do about them and with that you continue on with your life and deal with the present not thinking about what could happen. When all else fails have a few stiff drinks and go on with your life just don't drive after the drinks.
2007-06-22 21:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by ejohnjr34 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try doing something completely new and foreign to you...i dont know that might be exactly but every once in a while i will encounter something truly out of my experience and i always feel somewhat like i've been reset and am able to look at things differently
2007-06-22 21:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is because you are worried that you will stop worrying. You enjoy worrying.
2007-06-22 21:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you mean stop?
2007-06-22 21:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly99833 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋