2007-06-22 13:31:25 · 8 answers · asked by EDNA V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what i ment to say is that my husband blind and i just want him to be ok with this I'm hear to give him all the support and more and would even give up my eyes if I could and yet he's just been a real angry blind person the last couple of weeks . i'm just confused why he'd not seeing just how I feel and how I hurt I can't express that to him cause he need all the support he can get I had to see his Face blowen up and we do talk with a coun 2 times a week and his accdent happen 3 years ago so I have been hear a while I just want him to not be so angry cause this is hard
2007-06-22 14:01:33 · update #1
I don't understand from your question exactly who went blind and who is angry.
My dad went blind when I was 7. In those days, counseling was not available for spouses or their families.
So, what I can tell you is that both of you deserve to be angry -- but not with each other. Terrible things happen in life over which we have no control.
See if you can begin a new life with professional counseling. Even if your spouse won't go at first that doesn't mean you cannot begin without him.
There is a lot of help available for people in your situation. However, you need to ask for the assistance.
2007-06-22 13:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it is hard. I have had a similar situation, my husband was in an accident 3 years ago, he's not blind from it, but he has a permanent physical disability from it. I have been to counseling and I have given this A LOT of thought.
Men react differently to depression. Its OK for women to sit in the corner and cry with a box of tissues, it's not OK for men. So men get angry - its so much easier and it feels manly and no one questions it, it looks like you have too much testosterone instead of looking like you want to curl up with a box of tissues.
I hope that your husband wants to get better, because you cannot make that happen unless he wants it. Trust me on this one, I tried that last year. He was still busy being angry at the world for his injury only he didn't take it out on the rest of hte world, he took it out on me and the kids.
You didn't say how old you were or if you had kids but I would say in most cases give him every available opportunity to get his act together and get better, but if that doens't look like it's going to happen, you have your own life to live. Depression is contagious and if he doesnt' get help, he's going to drag you down with him.
We're still in somewhat of an unresolved state, I've given my husband the above mentioned 'ultimatum' - either get bettter or I"m leaving. It's not that I don't love him, but I don't want my kids (2 yrs & 4 yrs) to grow up thinking this is OK - my son would learn to be a hot head and my daughter would grow up thinking it's OK to let men who love her treat her like **** - and it's not OK.
Chin up, good luck, this too shall pass. :)
2007-06-22 21:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by pumbakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think yourself in his position. To loose your eye sight are a very horrible experience and not easy to overcome. Imagine yourself in his position and think how you would have reacted, but be honest with yourself. He needs you now more than ever, give him a change to get to terms with his situation. If you could more specific with how and with what he must help you with could make a difference in the answer.
2007-06-22 20:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by johann_777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed to. tell him you understand he is angry with what happen and also assure him you are there for him 100 percent he is probably feeling very low and may feel depressed. He could be thinkin you are going to leave him because of his disability. Just have patience with him and understand what hes going through. you just need to show him you are committed to him. time to remember those vows in sickness and ((health)).
2007-06-22 20:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by *smiLe :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His condition is what has made him angry. How would you feel, if you could not see.
2007-06-22 20:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by existingtobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pray to God and he'll show you the way and allow you to get through your husband and his messes way, but if your gut is telling you one thing and your heart is telling you another listen to your gut.
2007-06-22 21:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question...can you tell more on what information you are looking for
2007-06-22 20:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg ,i'm just really sorry.
2007-06-22 20:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋