My man looks at other women?

Question

I am 35 and not ugly, My man looks at women in front of me. Denies, has fits. He is not a pedi. We talk about it he doesnt admit. I luv this man. Very good provider but this is one thing that hurts. He luvs me I know reasons I will not disclose. He wont go to counseling. I understand women are beautiful, but I cant stand it.

Answer 1

start pointing them out to him. like hey babe check out that rack or she looks good it will make you seem more confidant and even sexier to him

Answer 2

He would be better off blind or stare at the ground when he walks out the house. Is that what you lady's want from a loving, providing, love you death, being there for you at all times type of guy? And then a pretty lady walks in front of your man and you go nuts. I think women are just plain jealous of each other and blame men for their problems.

Answer 3

20 years! That's how long I've had to put up with it! Yes, it still hurts me! No, he's never given me a reason to believe he has ever cheated on me, but he's on the road so much, I can't help but wonder how much more or longer does he watch? Yes, he knows it bothers me. Looking; okay. Staring or doing double takes; please not when I'm around! It's just his looks seem different than when I look at men and the older I get, the younger the girls seem to me he looks and smiles at! So good luck and make a choice you can live with. Is he worth having you!?

Answer 4

I don’t know if you have heard the phrase all men look. Supposedly many people think that it is in their nature to look at women regardless of if they already have one. I have been out and guy will look at me while they are with their girlfriends. Or even when I’m out with my male friends they will look at attractive women even if they have girlfriends. I understand how you feel as I personally think that it would be rather offensive. I think that when you are with your woman and you look at other women with desire it’s very disrespectful. You can’t stop men from looking but they should at least have the decency not to do it when they are with their wife or girlfriend. I agree it’s not right especially if it makes you uncomfortable and it was good of you to tell him about it. You also have to realize that he knows that it is wrong; the fact that you catch him and he lies about it is a sign that he is aware his behavior is wrong. He would not deny it or have reason to deny it if he thought I was acceptable. I would just make it clear to him that he should not do it in your presence, but you have to go a step further and tell him why you don’t like it and how it makes you feel and that it is putting a strain on your relationship. Don’t expect him to know why you feel the way you do even if he knows it bothers you. Explain to him that it is disrespectful to you and that it has to stop right away. Make him aware that you will not stand for it. Maybe refuse to go out with him until this behavior stops. But I know I would not be able to stand that behavior from my boyfriend he doesn’t dare do anything like that in my presence. Don’t let this go on.
Good Luck

Answer 5

I am an ex chef. Once while walking through the mall with my wife and a couple of her gf's a stunning lady walked by. Being a dirty old man, I looked. Her gf's immediately asked my wife if she was going to let me get away with being disrespectful. She laughed and said, " Just because he is on a diet, doesn't mean he can't look at the menu." Then she turned to one of her gf's and said "AND I know where he is at night."

Relax, if that is his worst quality consider ourself lucky.

Answer 6

That is very disrespectfull to look at other women in front of you and if he cannot respect you, then he is not worth it. If you love him enough to put up with it, then it'll be your decision, but if he's not willing to change for you, you'll be hurting for the rest of your life, or until he finally realizes that it's disrespectful and changes. Frankly, I doubt that he'll change if he doesn't even admit to doing it. Good luck. I personally think it is very hurtful when your other half does that, and I personally would not put up with it. I'm not saying that it's not natural to look, or just glance, but not in front of you and not in a disrespectful manner.

Answer 7

I am sure my husband looks and I know that he says women are art, I kinda disagree I feel if they look there looking for something better, but at the same time do not let it get out of control then you have a problem for sure, but calm down hard for me to say, for sure, and dress sexy so that way, he has your attetion.

Answer 8

Sometimes just do this to women to show them that the woman has to work harder to get their attention from other females which might be replaced with you. Try not to be mad at him. Show him how it feels to be looking at other people by playfully looking at other guys when your with him. I'm sure he'll fake it like he does not care, but it will definetly give him a wake up call

Answer 9

Men will look but never stray. Ask yourself if he is still in your bed at night. If the answer is yes, then he knows that what he has is alot better then what he is looking at. And if the answer is no, then you might have a problem.

Answer 10

Look as long as he dont touch it never hurts to look besides think of it this way, after all he is coming home to you at night if he was up to no good you would know it, are you saying you dont look at a good looking guy from time to time it is human nature , you need to be alittle more secure in you all relationship i feel you dont trust him you need to trust alittle more before you run him into someone else's arms and you lose him forever..........

Answer 11

well play the game also...start checkin out some men girl! if u know that he wont ever cheat or hurt u...dont let it get to u so much...men are going to look at other woman and us woman cannot deny that we dont also check other guys out too!