Why do so many teenage girls want to get pregnant?

Question

I don't get it. I remember back when I was a teenager I never wanted to be pregnant. I always had this thought in mind that I would get a career, start making money, then have a baby later on in life because I knew that kids were expensive and I wanted to be a responsible adult and have enough cash to take care of my children. I wish that a lot of these teenage girls who want to get pregnant would wait and live their life a little. They need to have time to be themselves before they devote their lives to a baby. A lot of them also need to learn about responsibility. I'm turning 26 this week, have a great job (that I worked my butt off for), and am engaged. Is being a pregnant teenager the next big trend? If I were to have gotten pregnant when I was a teenager, my Mother and Stepfather would have killed me. It also sickens me to see teens pawning off their kids to their parents because they want to go out and party hardy instead of being a good parent and taking care of their kid/kids.

Answer 1

I don't know why so many want a baby...we grew up so poor that I sure did not want to start a family that young...I had things to do and places to go and people to meet...we had a loving childhood but with lots of kids we knew it was hard work to raise children

Answer 2

Hmm .. I don't know. I don't really know any teenage girls that want to get pregnant.

However, I would have to agree in saying that they probably want that unconditional love that a child could very well give them. They probably have a fantastical view of the way their lives COULD be and not the reality of what their lives WOULD turn into. Being a mom is hard work. Key word being WORK. There is a lot of love invloved in it (I have a 4 month old), but I don't think I would have been able to handle this responsibility as a teenager.

Btw .. Happy Birthday! I am turning 26 this coming week as well. :)

Answer 3

Well I can't explaine why some teenage girls want to get pregnant because I agree they should live their lives a little. Maybe some feel so outta place in life though that it gives them someone to love and to be loved by, and others may just want to use it as a way to keep a man. I don't mean any offence to the young teen parents out there I was one myself pregnant at 15 and a parent a month after I was 16. I was a good mother though I looked after my child I rarely went out I hated being away from my baby, I kept her clean and well fed our place was always clean I took her for walks I devoted myself to her because I didn't want her paying for my mistakes... I got pregnant not because I wanted to be but because I was careless and irresponsible when it came to sex believing I wouldn't get pregnant because I too had dreams of growing up making lots of money living in the big city with my friends and partying living up my life before ever considering having kids. Things change though and you have to be responsible for your actions.. I told my parents and they stood by me and helped me out but I didn't want to abuse the help they gave me so I took responsibility for my child and yea I didn't go out partying there wasn't time for it I breast fed her for three years... we had a great time... and now my parents babysit for me while I get my university education so I can provide the best for my children( I am married now and have had a second child since my first one but I was 21 when I had my second child now I'm 24 and I work while attending university). I knew a teen mother who used to leave her child lying on the floor while she went out partying and she had no babysitter for it what so ever. So some teens may be ok parents while others probably shouldn't be its the maturity of the teen I say that matters.

Answer 4

Who are you to judge these girls? Did a significant number of them come up to you and tell you that they want to get pregnant? If they did, then I beg your pardon, but I think you are a bit too quick to jump to conclusions.
Many teenagers I know do not want to become pregnant, but it happens. Why? You see, not everyone is as fortunate as you were to learn the truth about sexual relations. I am assuming that your parents sat you down discussed this. If that is the case well you had the upper hand to begin with, But you can't look at teenage pregnancy from one point of view.
I see your point, because when I was 15, I could not care less about sex, I was into Dragon Ball Z, and other animes, But it has a lot to do with the environment these girls are living in. There are many, many issues surrounding teenage pregnancy, and I think you are being unfair when you just state that they "want" to get pregnant. Do your research and will find out. If it bothers you that much why don't you try and counsel some of these girls, (if you know any) rather than complain about something you obviously don't understand on yahoo? That's my suggestion to you.

Answer 5

I always thought it had something to do with those particular girls lacking bonds with important people in their lives...mothers, fathers, etc. They think they'll receive attention and unconditional love from a child of their own, and it'll make up for shortcomings elsewhere. However, I'm sure anyone who's a mother will tell you that YOU are the bearer of unconditional love right off the bat, and the baby's needs come before your own. Kudos to you for realizing there's a huge responsiblilty that goes along with being a parent!

Answer 6

Many of them don't realize that an infant is a living breathing thing. They just see a doll they can dress up and show off. But, they forget, you can't stick a kid on a shelf when you're done playing with them.

Others see a baby as someone who will love them no matter what, or as a way to hold on to the boy they love more than anything.

Sadly though, there's still some who see pregnancy as a way out of momma's house, and away from her rules. At least, near me, if a 13 year old has a child, they're eligible for public housing and can live on their own - on MY dime.

Crazy, isn't it?

Answer 7

no longer some time past, it was the norm for teenage females to get pregnant. Biologically, teenage females are meant to get pregnant. So the greater useful question would be, "Why is it without warning viewed unacceptable for teenage females to be pregnant?" i think of looking into that question would be plenty greater suitable for a sociology paper than the two a) a team of evaluations from overly judgmental human beings, or b) actual stuff inclusive of having unprotected intercourse .

Answer 8

I remember, when I was a teenager, I loved the idea of pregnancy and romantically surprising a delighted father with cute, screaming bundle. The idea of pregnancy represented to me being grown up, independent, trusted with real responsibility, and loved. - I wisely only daydreamed about it, and when my seven year older sister married and got pregnant soon afterwards, I realized that I was by no means ready for any of this.

Well, if my daydreams were anything representing other teenagers feelings, I'd guess there would be less problems with teen pregnancies, if teenagers were trusted some real responsibilities to care about - so they won't have to create their own.

Answer 9

I dont get it either, Im 13 and i seen alot of girls through the age of 13-17 walking with there kids or pregant. They should just wait untill they are married and and settle down. And if they already have a bbay they should rely on their parents ot take care of the child instead going out to hang with their friends or going to a party. But again they should just wait.

Answer 10

i don't think it is the next big trend there will always be teen pregnancy. some is because they want someone to love them unconditionally not realizing the responsibility that comes with it, others come from loving homes just made bad choices. I was 17 when i had my first child but was lucky enough to have parents that stood by me and helped me out, not raised but babysat when i worked, she lived with me and i raised and supported her.