Can Christians divorce for reasons other than adultery?

Question

How would you respond to the statement below I found on a Christian forum site?

"Jesus tells us there is no other reason to divorce except your spouse cheating. I am an ex-abused spouse. I went through torture. But I have to admit now, that if I was truly trusting in the Lord during that time, He would have handled it for me.... EVEN if that meant my death. I think we humans often forget, when we die, we go to a better place... much much better than anything we know here and now."

Answer 1

I know you are getting a lot of crazy answers but I pray that you can understand what I'm saying

If you have tried to make it work but the person is still abusive than I don't feel that God holds it against you. He wishes that we be well and in good health and if this person is constantly abusing you and you have explained that it needs to stop I don't feel that God will hold it against you. Abuse can come both in the physical and mental forms sometimes metal is worst. So if you don't know any thing else know that God is all about love and that is what he wants for your life. Seek him and he will direct you.

I hope this helps you out in your decision

Answer 2

The Bible also tells us that if we are unequally yoked spiritually and there is no chance that the person you are married to is going to give his or her self to the lord then you are better off alone. Adultry is the mai grounds for divorce but there are many other reasons people get divorced. There is nothing that God cannot heal and no action that he cannot forgive if you are truely repenting of that sin and divorce is a sin. I do know that the bible says that if you do divorce your spouse for reasons other than adultry and marry another then you yourself are commiting adultry with your new spouse. Talk to your preacher or a christian counsler to know for sure. I just know how I read the scripture.
Read Matthew Chapters 5 and 19, Mark Chapter 10 and 2 Corinthians Chapter 6

Answer 3

Most of the so called divorce and remarriage idea of the churches are some what confusing. Christ does NOT want to have abusive christians for marriage partners. What a shame to see this done under love. It should never end for two people who use to love each other, but the love of this world.. growing apart..kids promblems ..etc...hurts the family. Divorce is from devil ..however God allows two people to divorce. But God does not favor divorces

Answer 4

Hey Thundercatt9,

I am sorry for your pain. I understand your leaving, you were in survival mode but I also agree with what you say.

The answer to your questio is no.

They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away."
"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.''For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh.'So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultry against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."
~John 10:4-12

In 1st Corinthians 7 we are told that if an un believing spouse wants to leave we are to let them go but if they are willing to stay we are bound to let them.

Also know that under God's authority women are commanded to respect or submit to their husbands (this does not mean be his doormat ladies) and men are commanded to love their wives. If we were to actually do as we are instructed on both sides, there would likely be a whole lot less desire to stray away from our commitments.

I hope you will bless and be blessed.
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Answer 5

I made it clear to my husband I will not tolerate adultery. As for physical abuse. I was an abused child. The man that dares hit me runs the risk of me losing control. As a child I didn't lose control. Because I thought it wrong to hit ones parents. Had it not been for that. I would be doing jail time. I know people who are alone have been for many years. They married. Things went very wrong. They found it impossible to stay with the person. So they chose to remain alone rather than married to an adulterer or abuser.

Answer 6

Thundercatt9, In the Bible it clearly states that one can divorce his or her spouse on the grounds of unfaithfulness and unfaithfulness alone. If this should happen then you are entitled to remarry. Alot of people don't take marriage and vows serious anymore which is why most couples end up divorced within the first couple of years or so. I totally agree with you but more so I agree with God's word because the Holy Bible is true and God does not and cannot tell lies because he cannot sin. That is why God is our savior. He died and ressurrected from the toumb to save us all from damnation, all we have to do is accept his offer, believe in him and ask for forgiveness and repent. Because God is holy, he cannot sin and he is found without sin in his life.

Answer 7

Abuse is absolutely a valid reason for divorce. I think it is even more valid than adultery. I have heard of cheating couples working it out. I have never heard of an abuser changing his ways enough to have a healthy marriage.

Answer 8

I think adultery and abuse are the only reasons I would ever give for grounds for a divorce and I'm a born again Christian.

Answer 9

although the bible does condon divorcing due to adultery...it prefers couples counsel there way through such an issue rather than divorce...common sense plays a role in other reasons for divorcing...being tortured lets say physically would be one of many reasons to divorce, sometimes the Lord will also help those who help themselves.

Answer 10

My response to this statement would be, okay that may be for that person, but NOT for everyone in situations like that....I believe that we could be in a marriage and the spouse cheat, and the Lord direct us to stay in the relationship. And I believe that we could be in a marriage and no cheating but beating and the Lord direct us to leave, for safety....the Bible speaks of using wisdom...Proverbs is full of wisdom talk, we are to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling...some things that convict you may not convict me...the easiest thing to do is go to God and listen to Him....be blessed!