Think about it family, friends, acquaintances, even strangers always ask couples "so when will you get married?" As if marriage is the ultimate and final step towards happiness. I think too many people focus on the wedding than the marriage itself, is that why in the 21st century we have a high rate of divorce?
2007-06-22 12:15:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everyone wants others to be 'just like them'... on my wedding day, I was asked when we were going to start having kids! geesh!! It is the same thing... just don't fall for it - do what is right for you!
2007-06-22 12:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Laura S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been pressured to get married. Pressured to have kids yes but not get married. Yes I know that is rather backwards but they just assume I have no desire to get married but I love playing with kids so they want to know when I plan on having my own. Studies have shown that overall married people are more satisfied with life but I don't think that's why other folks might apply pressure to some to get married. Mothers dream about when their children get married and if you are a "typical" American woman you are hammered with stories of your "Prince Charming" coming to rescue you so that you can live happily ever after. You rarely have stories of women living happily as single individuals. The divorce rate is high because people get married for the wrong reasons or during the wrong points in their lives. The wedding itself has little to do with it, to me. For almost all of the folks that I know that have gotten divorced they got married too early or because they thought they had to for some reason or another. They divorced and are happier with new relationships.
2007-06-22 20:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know because getting married is not for every couple. there are tons of factors that contribute to the high divorce rate...people rushing into marriage because they thought they were in love; they put the cart before the horse and baby's on they way; divorce is too easy; they don't know how to fight for ANY cause; too many people are whiners; its too easy to flee; they can't deal with adversity; they have more value on the material and physical than the unseen; they don't take the vows seriously; the list goes on....
i wouldn't trade my married place with any single person of any age and i've faced some difficulties during marriage. marriage is more than an agreement. 25 years and counting............
2007-06-22 19:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure...it's just what people do. A lot of girls especially look forward to their wedding from little girls up until the big day. When you get married it just makes the relationship OFFICAL to everyone. Family, friends, even strangers...wife just has so much more power than girlfriend... But don't let anyone rush you, take your time and when the time is right you'll want to do it.
2007-06-22 19:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by itzbinka07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other girl, people want others to follow in their footsteps. Which is why you won't find many unmarried couples asking you when you're getting married.
Secondly, it seems mostly people that care about you are asking, so I don't think they mean harm. The same people are the ones that will ask what college you're going to, remind you when tax day is coming and give you the latest medical advice.
2007-06-22 19:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother used to ask me that. Right after I had my miserable first marriage annulled, she wanted to know when I was going to "marry right". Apparently she was under the belief that if you swap rings and take on another name, you're safe and respectable and "taken care of" but all I ever saw in it was a companion, a conversationist, and someone to take over when the kids drove me to exhaustion.
These days, I think people marry to have "trophy babies" (look, people, I got a cute one!!) and to keep loneliness at bay. Once they realize it's the same partner, day in and day out, they bail and go looking for the next. They want happiness and love but they don't want to work at it--they just want it to magically appear and take all their stress and loneliness away.
2007-06-22 19:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have a high rate of divorce since women`s freedom. We are not at the mercy of men anymore. We are now more educated and have our own resources. We are not baby making machines pressured by religion and abusive husbands.
2007-06-22 19:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
probably but i think its important because people dont value family like they should and if your married usually you think twice about you "family" responsibility than if you werent married.
2007-06-22 19:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Monet T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the natural progression...when they begin to ask, so how many affairs are you going to have while married, then I think we all have something to worry about.
2007-06-22 19:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably. my grandmother always asks me when i'll get married. i ignore her all the time.
2007-06-22 19:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋