Why is my husband upset with me?

Question

I caught him cheating last night and we just had a big argument about it, he threw me against the wall and stormed out of the house like i did something wrong, i have done nothing to deserve this. He also took off with my car keys so i'm stuck in this damn place all alone, i have no friends around here and i'm 5 miles from the nearest anything

Answer 1

Call the cops? Seriously, he has no right to what he did. The cops will handle it.

Answer 2

Surely you saw this coming. Did you not have an emergency plan? Like, where would I go to spend the night? How would I get there? Who would I call and lean on for advice.
Well the immediate crisis has passed and you made it through it. Now comes the decision time. Can you live with a man who would do this to you? If the answer is NO, then make a list right now of the most important things you need to do, and set out doing them. There is surely a cab or if nothing else call a Pastor of a church nearby and ask if he has a female member of his staff who would give you a ride to town or to wherever you are going to spend the next night or two if that is your choice. Also, since he threw you against the wall alert the police of what happened and you might need some quick assistance. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ol' boy got mad because he got caught with his pants down. Fact of the matter is he probably felt pretty stupid and turned it around on you.
Not saying what he did was right but I have caught enough men cheating to know that this is his way of getting the attention off the real issue at hand...him screwing another woman...and making it an issue he can deal with and possibly weasel his way out of. After all, his being with another woman is a trust issue and that will be harder to repair with a simple "I'm sorry" than him getting a little abusive in the heat of the moment.
Best bet, at this point, is to call a cab and leave for awhile, it will bother him more if you aren't there when he comes home. Spray a little perfume before you leave so he can smell that when he comes in and think you went out. What's good for the goose...
Better yet go on over to Bubba's trailer and hang out for awhile and get even!

Answer 4

Its obvious you two have a pretty messed up relationship, judging by your previous questions and answers, and your husbands too. Maybe he's mad because you caught him, with your mum, caught him posting questions on here, who knows.
And missy, by the way, you say you have done nothing to deserve this, but your own remarks say otherwise. You deserve everything he throws at you(and vice versa) if you stay in such a messed relationship. I suggest finding a man who really loves you for you. It may seem like that's impossible, but there are good men out there.

Answer 5

You didn't do anything wrong......I have been there (reverse) with my exwife, I caught her cheating on me. And like you, she blamed it on me, screaming and saying it was my fault, well, yeah it was my fault that I caught her, but it was her fault she was in this predicament to start with. It is a sign of immaturity that they cannot handle situations they find themselves in. As far as your car keys, call the police and tell them what happened, they will most likely tell you there is nothing they can do, but maybe they will find him and the car so you at least might be able to get your keys back...........you might also try calling a counselor just to get a professional opinion. Good Luck!

Answer 6

In your upset state mabye you can't see what he is doing so I'll explain, 1. He's trying to get the blame off of him and onto you, when most guys are caught cheating they will try to make you feel like it's your fault 2. He took your car and keys because he wants you to feel out of control and he wants you to "realize" how much you need him. What he is doing right now is all about control, he's trying to gain the control in the situation so that you will be like alot of "helpless" women and forgive him.

Answer 7

He's mad at himself for cheating and is taking it out on you. Please take everyones advise and call the police to report your car stolen and for them to get you out of there. There's no telling what your husband is doing right now, maybe calming down, or maybe thinking about how to get you out of the picture completely, so dont waste any time, go somewhere, anywhere as quickly as possible. He has already threw you against the wall so you know he'll hurt you.

Answer 8

You caught him, and he's pissed! He's been caught once, which does not mean he cheated only once. He may have been lucky previously. I would think that being isolated is not a good thing anyway. If he pushed you against the wall once, it may happen again. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and you need to be careful.

Answer 9

Okay this is what you do...

You brainstorm the quickest and safest option you have of leaving, you leave, and you don't look back. Divorce that fuck3r and start fresh. It'll be hard but life is way to fuck1ng short to be dealing with that kind of ********.

When that emotional pull creeps up and you feel like you want to call him grab some ice cream or a random stranger and indulge...or something...just don't give in...

Answer 10

maybe he is kind of shocked that you caught him cheating. so he takes your keys to leave so he can clear things out in his head. if he doesn't come back at the end of today, then you should call the police because HE is the one that did wrong and HE is the one that threw you to the door, and HE is also the one who took off with YOUR car keys.


learn to toughen up.

Answer 11

Abusive, controlling people often cheat on their partners. He doesn't see that he did anything wrong. What he sees is that you did wrong by finding him in a comprimising position. My advice is to start walking the five miles to a women's shelter, relative's house, friend's house whatever. Or call someone and have them come get you. In this case I don't advise marriage counseling, since he's abusive. I would advise you to file for divorce and stick with it and set yourself free.